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I feel lost  posted: 11/13/09 at 12:59 PM
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A couple months ago, I posted about my hubby (who I am in a ldr with) going to bootcamp in iran for 60 days, in a different city to where he lives.
Though we are in a ldr we speak multiple times a day.
Well he left early hours of tuesday morning, it's only friday and I am already feeling lost not talking to him.
What is bothering me is not knowing when we will talk next, if I knew we wouldn't be in contact for the whole 60 days I could focus on that, but as it stands he might go home for a few days and then back for the remaining days.
And even if he didn't get home, the soldiers occasionally get a couple hours off...meaning he could go to a net cafe if he got the chance......
BUT like I said it's the not knowing, and everytime time the phone rings I jump thinking it might be him 
His mum has spoken to him since he left (she called him there) and she said he is okay, which is good but until I hear it for myself, I keep worrying about him, are they treating him fine etc (I know it's tough there).
How do you deal with the worrying about them and how do you cope with the not knowing when you will next speak to them??
Hope this gets easier for me
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"I will promise u the best trip in the world. The best time together. I love u my heart is crazy after u. I want u love u and gonna give u everything u need. Cuz u r the only one I'm gonna give my heart. And maybe we go bck to Esfahan by car. Then I can show u a lil bit of Iran" - Miad 9th Nov 07
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posted: 11/13/09 at 7:16 PM
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*hugs* I am sorry - No or limited communications always suck!
You will get used to it and learn to cope with it so it will feel easier over time. Its not but you learn to deal.
The best advice is to stay super busy and use this time to work on yourself and do everything you want to do. I always tried to not to expect an email or phone call - it made it a bit easier to deal since I was not always waiting around for the phone to ring or the email to arrive. However, my cell phone never left my side. 
Try writing letters or emails to him. My babe would not be able to read them for at least a month at a time but he saved every single one and cherished them. I know a lot of girls wrote journals and sent them to their SOs as well.
But remember it is only 60 days and then this phase will be over. *hugs* good luck!
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posted: 11/14/09 at 6:46 PM
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I agree with jennlynn that the best thing to do is keep busy and not expect his calls. My boyfriend has been in training out of state for the last month and is going to Iraq for a year soon so I will not be seeing him for a long time. At first when I didn't hear from him it really bothered me because I was worrying a lot, but after the 2nd week it actually did get easier. I just realized that he is probably fine and my worrying isn't going to help anything. He is busy and can't always get to call me so I'm just going to make the most of my time and when I do hear from him it's a nice surprise.
Also as jennlynn said writing letters or emails also helps a lot. I find that it's very therapuetic to write. Whenever I miss my SO I just write him a letter or email and it makes me feel a lot closer to him.
Don't worry, it will get easier. Just hang in there.
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posted: 11/14/09 at 7:12 PM
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Thank you for the support.
I have been writing emails, and writing in an online journal.
I spoke to his mum again and she said she is going to see him on friday and if I want I can call her cell to talk to him  but it made me tear up when she said that
I didn't realise I would miss his voice quite so much.
I get worried that he will forget about me or he isn't missing me as much as I am missing him *sigh*
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"I will promise u the best trip in the world. The best time together. I love u my heart is crazy after u. I want u love u and gonna give u everything u need. Cuz u r the only one I'm gonna give my heart. And maybe we go bck to Esfahan by car. Then I can show u a lil bit of Iran" - Miad 9th Nov 07
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posted: 11/14/09 at 10:52 PM
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| It will get easier in time. Just take things day by day. Have faith.
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Perfect faith cannot exist where the will of God is unknown.
Every day God affords you the opportunity to make your mark, impact your world, and take yourself to the next level.
Met Mel on 12/25/1998
~Marian~
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posted: 11/17/09 at 2:39 PM
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I keep in touch with his mum a lot, she lets me know when he has called etc, I get mixed emotions happy to know that he is doing fine....but sad that it's other people that he is telling this too and not me.
This whole politics thing between Iran and uk (I live in uk) makes me understand calling me from the base isn't a good idea.
But I haven't heard anything from him yet not even an email. (One of his friends from military told him that once or twice a week they get off time for a couple hours) Who knows maybe he hasn't had a chance to go into the city to contact me, but I still feel bad.
you know?
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"I will promise u the best trip in the world. The best time together. I love u my heart is crazy after u. I want u love u and gonna give u everything u need. Cuz u r the only one I'm gonna give my heart. And maybe we go bck to Esfahan by car. Then I can show u a lil bit of Iran" - Miad 9th Nov 07
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posted: 11/18/09 at 1:13 AM
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I feel for you. When my SO was in bootcamp I didn't hear from him for about a month. And once he was in A School it was maybe once a week for 10-15 min at a time.
Being with someone in the military isn't easy, we all know that one for sure. *hugs* I'm sorry you haven't heard from him soon, but at least you have contact with people whom have been able to talk with him. It has to make things just a little bit easier.
Hopefully you'll be able to hear from him soon. (And yes, I agree with jefferysgirl - I did the same thing with a voicemail, it got me through 2 months of not being able to hear his voice.)
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Proud girlfriend of a Navy Reservist. I love my sailor.
You know you love someone when no matter what the weather is it somehow reminds you of that person - 8/2/09 text from my SO
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posted: 11/18/09 at 5:35 AM
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Originally posted by CameraConnie
Hopefully you'll be able to hear from him soon. (And yes, I agree with jefferysgirl - I did the same thing with a voicemail, it got me through 2 months of not being able to hear his voice.)
Thanks and I agree, just need him to phone first. I made him promise if he calls and I miss it to leave a voicemail.
(Actually before he left I told him I wanted him to make a video clip for me so I could see him and hear him when he is gone, but in the end it didn't happen) *sigh*
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"I will promise u the best trip in the world. The best time together. I love u my heart is crazy after u. I want u love u and gonna give u everything u need. Cuz u r the only one I'm gonna give my heart. And maybe we go bck to Esfahan by car. Then I can show u a lil bit of Iran" - Miad 9th Nov 07
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posted: 11/19/09 at 3:24 AM
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Yeah, I did the replaying voicemail thing too--- still do.
I went 3 months with nothing but letters from my boyfriend while he was in boot camp. That was no fun, but keeping focused on things other than their phone calls, or lack thereof, really helps, just like everyone else said
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"And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation." -Kahlil Gibran
"Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell." -Edna St Vincent Millay
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posted: 11/20/09 at 5:55 PM
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Update-
We talked today and I just melted I know for you girls 10 days is nothing but I have struggled, then hearing his voice on the other end of the phone just tugged on my heart.
I am so thankful to his mum he got a visitor pass so he could get out for a couple hours and I spoke to him on her phone.
We talked for 30 mins, didn't want it to end.
He told me things there are fine and not to worry about him.
So I am happy, I know I have (in my eyes) a long time to go but I feel satisfied, and he has promised as soon as he gets a chance he will contact/email me.
Thanks for reading
P.s I told him how I felt when I know he is able to talk to his family/friends but I can't talk to him...
he told me he feels the exact same (I can talk to his family/friends but he can't talk to me.
Guess I didn't look at it in that way he is feeling the same
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"I will promise u the best trip in the world. The best time together. I love u my heart is crazy after u. I want u love u and gonna give u everything u need. Cuz u r the only one I'm gonna give my heart. And maybe we go bck to Esfahan by car. Then I can show u a lil bit of Iran" - Miad 9th Nov 07
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posted: 11/20/09 at 10:34 PM
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Originally posted by jennlynn
I am glad he was able to contact you and that you had a nice long conversation!
Just think before you know it he will be out of boot camp and this part will be over. Stay strong girly.. just think already 1/6 of the way done!
Thanks I'm glad too
It's just another part of our journey, been ldr 27 months, and after he completes his military service in 18 months we won't have much longer until we can be together (live together).
So in reality I know this is nothing and yea 1/6 of the way done.
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"I will promise u the best trip in the world. The best time together. I love u my heart is crazy after u. I want u love u and gonna give u everything u need. Cuz u r the only one I'm gonna give my heart. And maybe we go bck to Esfahan by car. Then I can show u a lil bit of Iran" - Miad 9th Nov 07
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