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navy wives  posted: 11/10/02 at 7:12 PM
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A NAVY WIFE Howard O. Troop AT1
The Navy wife, like her civilian counterpart, must keep house, wash clothes, and shop for groceries. Like any other wife, a Navy wife takes an active part in the local and civic activities of her
community, such as church, scouting and PTA. But that's about where the similarity ends. The Navy wife is a rare and unique breed of woman. She has many good opportunities that other wives do not have. She also has responsibilities and hardships heaped upon her that other wives couldn't cope with. It seems as if ship or squadron departures suddenly trigger the gremlins into action that disrupt normally well-run households. The household appliances or the family car always seems to wait until the Navy man leaves on a deployment to break down. And the children suddenly develop problems that just didn't exist when "DAD" was home.
Yes, the Navy wife is unique in that she is a housewife, mother, father, and family manager all in one. She also plays an important and needed role in her husband's career in the Navy, whether it be short term or lifetime career. Her attitude toward and her understanding of her husband's part in the Navy can be a liability or an asset to him. How does the Navy wife do it? Simply, she understands her role as a Navy wife, her inherent responsibility to other Navy wives and that she is indeed a part of the Navy. She feels the pride of belonging to the Navy team and recognizes that she, too, is a representative of the Navy and the United States just as her husband is. There is no other woman in the world like the Navy wife. She is indeed unique! She is indeed rare! Navy wives, we salute you.
For without you, this great Navy of ours would not be what it is today.
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posted: 11/10/02 at 8:10 PM
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aww i actually feel appreciated after reading this, but i also think that other braches of wives has the same roll as us navy wives...but we do keep everything going strong after they leave...so we are very important to them...and they are important to us also..thanks for sharing girl...
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posted: 11/11/02 at 9:51 PM
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| I'm glad you enjoyed this. You are right it really does apply to all branches.I have met so many people on here in all different branches who have gone through and done the things mentioned in the poem and i'm sure their marine, sailor, soilder, or coast gaurd couldn't live with out them. but the poem was written for a navy wife and since i didn't write it i left it the way it was.
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USN - Sailor's wifes - and loven it.  posted: 06/02/03 at 3:25 PM
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hello, I'm farily new a this kind of taking, but I'm a Navy Wife of
25 years and this deployment is the first one that I have lost it a couple of time. You poem is great and I love it. I can only add this, You love and devotion that you give to our great
United Stated of America county and for all of our freedom's we have and are fighting to keep should never be taken for granted, not by anyone who lives in USA. We are a great nation what founded on bibical and sound ideas that should never be removed.
I love my Sailor/Soilder who is away on active duty righ now. Some of these these that I have read on this site, make me shudder to think what kind of person married or now, who is in love with a military man, would ever think of cheeting on them????
They must have rock for brains. My husband/friend has been gone since December 2002, and may be going until March 2004!
Yes I get very loney and scared...We have friends that check in on my at least once a month to see if I'm ok. Some have asked about my sexual needs to the point that I have to say this to them....."you are my husband best friend, how would it look it I took you up on your offer"? What type of friends wife do you think of ? What would you go off and tell your other non military friends about me and my husband..How would you feel if you wife of girl friend did that to you...my only responce is this: I love you as my husbands friend, and I love you as my "friend" and as such I value our friend ship so much that do not want anything to come between it and I have to decline you wonder offer, not that I don't want to or need to, but its much better for us all that we do not get envoled sexualy while we are married. If any when your wife or my husband is gone, we mayrevisit this thought again, but un until then, I know better and so do you! Are you just testing me to see what kind of person that I AM OR WHAT?"
This has happen to be on a number of occations since my husband has left. I only have 2 four legged pets to keep me company and a small goupe of 'real friends that i can realy talk to'. So I'm dealing with it on a daily bases and my husband is aware of all of this. We do not lie or hold anything back, he know' he can trust me..........to stay true to him and to our marriage.
I hope i have not borried all of you. but I think its a very bad deal of some one cheets with another person while their spouce or boy friend are over seas deployed.
Married to the same SAILIOR for 25 years this Novermber 2003 and loving it. We go camping and dirt bike riding and for Valenties day 2002, we got our first Harley Davidson! So, you see, I realy have had lots of chances to cheet, but I have nevered and will never.
Life is good!
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Navy guy who needs advice. posted: 07/14/03 at 3:37 PM
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Hello,
I am leaving in November to begin my career as a Navy Pilot. I have been really worried when I think of what it will be like to marry someone, especially if they're not part of the Navy because I worry they wouldn't understand. I appreciate all your comments and hope someone could respond to mine and help me out.
There are a lot of thoughts that go through my brain. I would feel terrible to leave my wife for 11 months out of the year alone. I feel like it is a terrible thing to do to a woman. I also wonder what intimacy can really exist in a marriage of this nature. I fear being cheated on because I wonder what happens when a "friend" comes into my wife's life and offers a friendship and care that I simply can't compete with. Or a "friend" that gives my wife to be the unconditional attention I could not give. After all I must answer the call come hell or high water and my love for my wife, could never exceed my obligation to my duty. The worst part is that even when I'm not serving somewhere for some war, even during peace time, I'm still on a ship and I'm still far from my wife. The times during which I will be able to be with her are so limited. I think about my children to be as well but that is a whole other complicated issue.
I am not yet married but I would like to be one day. I would really appreciate your comments on this matter. I have never met a wife of someone in our armed forces so I don't know what I'm looking for when I meet someone. After all the woman I'm looking for has to have qualities that far exceed those of the typical girl.
Thanks for your help in advance,
Luis
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unjustified fears posted: 09/28/03 at 11:33 PM
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The decision to be in committed relationship requires two no matter if your in the armed forces or not. "Cheating spouses" is not a phenomenon of the military alone (see stats on divorce rates in the US). So, I wouldn't fear the "impossibility" of maintaining a committed relationship, let alone marriage, while being on active duty just because you are in the military.
Women have proven to be devoted spouses while their men are away on active duty since the inception of the armed forces and this is primarily due to the fact that when they entered into the relationship, both parties understood and and accepted the fact that deployment is inevitable and supporting her man during this time is critically part of this obligation and commitment. So as long as you and your prospective mate are committed to being honest about your feelings and thoughts, are consciously aware of the decisions you make at ALL times, and you maintain some sort of creativity while you are apart from each other, you should be fine. There ARE women out here that aren't afraid to stand alone for a brief period of time to stand united with their men for eternity.
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Navy-wife-soon-to-be!* posted: 03/29/04 at 6:53 AM
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hello everyone,
I am getting married to a Sailor* in 2 weeks! He is stationed in Goose creek, SC studying nuclear engineering. I live in the high desert California...3000 miles apart can really hurt.initially in feb 2003 he left for boot camp and i cried and cried thinking id never see him and when/if i did, it would be a short time.fears arose quickly- will he lose interest, when will i see him, what will i do, how long wil he be gone, will he meet a gal in the navy. Well, over a year later, i am more thankful than ever for him having joined. Besides the support and appreciation i give anyone willing to serve the country, this was my boyfriend and i am proud of him more personally because this separation has i think, in a sense, matured our relationship and made us ready for the next step. I would never have thought id marry at 19, but now more than ever i am ready, especially with the military financial support. i look at some articles about "before you say i do" and most of the theme is not to be so preoccupied with wedding planning, rather than planning on ways to sustain a marriage. and then i am reminded that as youve all said in one way or another, we are all in different positions as military wives. and that can be to our advantage. My fiance and i are very sexual and sensual. its in our nature and i am (*as i am sure he is) thankful that our libidos dont over shadow each others.we are getting married in vegas on his leave and dressing like a cowboy and cowgirl with both our families in a little chapel next month.then we are flying to upstate NY for his prototype. one advantage that i was going to mention was that since we are separated during this wedding planning period, we have time to observe other relationships before and after marriage and get the chance alone, to think of ways to prevent anything from screwing up our chances. dont get me wrong, we both took care of the reservations, transportation, rings, clothing etc. but we are both very focused on what is most important and of our obligations as husband/wife. I am so thankful to be marrying him and partly because of his brains, and bravery in the navy. So i feel this bond between us all, feeling immensely proud to be a part of this. we are. we are the support unit for them. wow i really like this whole site, i got drawn in lookin up tips for romance. well, got nowhere at first because the excitement of him getting leave, has heightened our gratitude for each other,and thus every tip we had already been there. the one thing i really wanna do when he is here that i am nervous about is a strip tease*. our extensive letters and deep emotion filled messages/emails, make our relationships' odds much greater than a typical relationship at our age. it absolutely takes a lot of the physicality which can more than likely, (pre-maritally) harm a relationship, and left us with a clear view of what we both want in life. and that is to please the other. thanks for the support you all! watch our wedding at http://www.vegasweddings4u.com/livewebcam.html on april 14th (wednesday) at 5:30 pm pacific time!!!!! respond please..to let me know someone read this...*
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Meet me in the bathroom- thats what she said
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posted: 03/29/04 at 7:23 AM
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| I HAVE BEEN A NAVY WIFE FOR ONE YEAR AND ONE MONTH.MY HUSBAND IS STATIONED ON VA BUT IS ON DEPLOYMENT UNTIL AUG.I AM PROUD TO BE ONE AND I LOVE MY HUSBAND.WE HAVE A 4 MONTH OLD SON TOGETHER.I DONT THINK I COULD EVER CHEAT.IT IS HARD AND I AM ONLY 20 BUT I LOVE HIM AND WOULD DO AGAIN FOR HIM.IF ANYONE NEEDS TO TALK PM ME
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posted: 03/29/04 at 7:42 PM
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prolifegirly,
my fiance, Corey, was in Goose Creek, SC to study nuclear engineering also! Have you been there to visit your man at all? It's a very nice place and a great base. Corey is thinking about trying to go back there and teach, so when we get married, we want to go back there to live. Right now, he's in Georgia, after staying in Goose Creek for prototype. Good luck with everything. The wedding, and the move, and married life.!
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~*Jen*~
Corey and Jen~ April 29, 2001
"Today I love you more than ever, but I will not love you this much tomorrow, for then I will love you more."
*I love my sailor*
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navy men and stds posted: 12/06/04 at 3:39 AM
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hi,
i dated a guy in the navy earlier this year and we were really good friends and still are , maybe in the distant future after his deployments we may still get back together . We were even considering getting married . I am still a virgin but i have an anxiety disorder that makes me worry about everything . The guy i dated just finished sub school in groton and we dated while he was in there . The reason i am so worried is i was wondering how often does the navy do HIV testing . I have no health problems that i know of but he told me the navy does regular std testing and he could get kicked out of he gets something and someone else told me that wasnt true .He called me monday telling me that he is being deployed to the mediterean and i think later to iraq but im not quite sure . He told me he has been tested before and was negative . He also told me that they do regular testing for stds and drugs and he was clean . He just got to his base in VA and got his deployment orders for the mediterean in i belive late january or early febuary . I was just wondering how soon before deployment does the navy do hiv testing . thanks and if u can please reply to this message it would mean alot to me
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Re: Navy guy who needs advice. posted: 12/06/04 at 5:12 AM
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Originally posted by luispdelgado
Hello,
I am leaving in November to begin my career as a Navy Pilot. I have been really worried when I think of what it will be like to marry someone, especially if they're not part of the Navy because I worry they wouldn't understand. I appreciate all your comments and hope someone could respond to mine and help me out.
I am not yet married but I would like to be one day. I would really appreciate your comments on this matter. I have never met a wife of someone in our armed forces so I don't know what I'm looking for when I meet someone. After all the woman I'm looking for has to have qualities that far exceed those of the typical girl.
Thanks for your help in advance,
Luis
First off Luis, I would like to say that I applaud your concern for your future wife and children. Second I would suggest that you try to relax and let life take its course. Maybe your career will bring you to fall in love with a military woman who understands the demands of your career. Maybe you will fall in love with one of us, wonderfully enlightened "military brats" whom have a heads up on what a military relationship requires in order to maintain sanity. Maybe you will meet a teriffic civillian woman who will become part of you Navy life. You definately have the intelligence and the heart to assure this special person that they can handle the job. Simply put . . . I believe the sacrifices are worth it. Hopefully you and your future sweetheart will agree. Don't let it get you down. I wish you the best of luck and love while you go after your career!
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Kandie *~ GO OU ~*
*Army brat, Navy sister, fiance' of a disabled veteran/ american contractor*
A war put off is not a war avoided.
— Charlton Heston
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Beautiful Navy Wife Poem and Art posted: 12/19/04 at 4:59 PM
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You have got to see this Navy Wife image, its beautiful!
go to navychief.com and click on "Navy Wife"
also heres another poem:
The good Lord was creating a model for Navy wives and was into his sixth day of overtime when an angel appeared. She said, "Lord, you seem to be having a lot of trouble with this one. What’s wrong with the standard model?"
The Lord replied, "Have you seen the specs on this order? She has to be completely independent, possess the qualities of both father and mother, be a perfect hostess to four or forty with an hour’s notice, run on black coffee, handle every emergency imaginable without a manual, be able to carry on cheerfully, even if she is pregnant or disabled and has a flu, and then she must be willing to move to a new location ten times in seventeen years. And oh, yes, she must have six pairs of hands".
The angel shook her head. "Six pairs of hands? No way". The Lord continued, "Don’t worry, we will make other Navy wives to help her. And we will give her an unusually strong heart so it can swell with pride of her husband’s achievements, sustain the pain of separations, beat soundly when it is overworked and tired, and be large enough to say, "I understand, when she doesn’t, and say "I love you", regardless.
"Lord", said the angel, touching his arm gently, "go to bed and get some rest. You finish this tomorrow". I can’t stop now, said the Lord, "I am so close to creating something unique. Already this model heals herself when she is sick, can put up six unexpected guests for the weekend, wave goodbye to her husband from the pier, a runway or depot, and understand why it’s important that he leave".
The angel circled the model of the Navy wife, looked at it closely and sighed, "it looks fine, but its too soft". "She might look soft", the Lord replied, "but she has the strength of a lion. You would not believe what she can endure".
Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek of the Lord’s creation. "There’s a leak", she announced. "Something is wrong with the construction. I am not surprised that it has cracked. You are trying to put too much into this model".
The Lord appeared offended at the angel’s lack of confidence. "What you see is not a leak", he said, "it’s a tear". "A tear? What is it there for?", asked the angel. The Lord replied, "Its for joy, sadness, pain, disappointment, loneliness, pride and dedication to all the values that she and her husband held dear".
"You are a genius!", exclaimed the angel. The Lord looked puzzled and replied, "I didn’t put it there".
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NavyWyf
Navy Wife Gifts at:
http://www.navychief.com
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posted: 01/30/05 at 8:51 PM
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| My point of view is that if whoever you do find TRULY loves YOU a "friend" or someone else trying to take your place would be a joke. In my experience with the Navy so far it has made us love each other more because we charish the few times we do get to talk or see each other. All it really boils down to is a true test of love. If you and her know your feelings about each other, cheating won't even be an issue. I wish you luck in all you do and hang in their.
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i miss arthur so much!!
