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Open Relationships??  posted: 03/08/06 at 7:51 PM
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Good afternoon all. I want to know what you all think about an "Open Relationship"?
Me and my g/f have recently just broken up, after 2.5 years of dating, for the most part, we had a great relationship, minus a few complications, issues that were continually reoccuring and neither of us made the effort to try and solve them. It's been a week and a half....we now have a phenomanal relationship. We are brutally honest with each other, we don't feel we have to walk on egg shells, but no complications of a relationship. We continue to be each others primary sexual partner. But have had many conversations about remaining that way, but being in an open relationship, and also including other people to join and go out on our own. It always has to do with labels, so she said to me the other day, what do we tell people? "I am in an open relationship with my ex-girlfriend"??? Make any sense? Forget the labels, why do we have to label our relationships? Our sexuality? Ourselves?
I was just wondering what others thought of this situation and if there are any others in this sort or similar situation and how it works...if it has or it hasn't worked?
Thanks for listening and hope to hear some input....AJ
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posted: 03/12/06 at 1:40 AM
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Ok, my opinion on open-relationships is there is no such thing. You are either completely with someone or nothing. Bringing other people into an already shaky situation isn't going to work. It hardly works for people in strong relationships.
There are reasons you called it quits in the first place, are they going to all of the sudden get better because your sleeping with other people? NO! They can only get worse.
Again, this is only my OPINION on the situation. I'm just 1 point of view in a world of many.
Good Luck
Kryssi
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posted: 03/13/06 at 7:06 AM
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I've never been in an open relationship so my post is merely my thoughts on the subject.
I think open relationships lead a path to jealosy, destruction, and confusion. Like Kryssi says if someone is in an open relationship, well your really not in a relationship.
It may work for some people, but probably not for most. Then you also have to consider the increased risk for getting STDs. The cons extremely overweight the pros. Like I said this is only my opinion and I'm not going to tell you what to do 
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posted: 01/22/07 at 9:56 PM
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| I know everyone will have varying opinions on this but here is mine. Despite the fact that I am in a same sex relationship I also have some very conservative thoughts on relationships in general. You are either 100% committed to your partner or you're not. There is no having the cake and eating it too! Open relationships, in my opinion, send up a big signal that there is something critical missing in that relationship. It just opens the door to some major problems down the road. Personally, I am a very loyal and jealous person and I do not "share my toys" willingly at all! My partner is of the same opinion. We belong to each other heart, mind, body, and soul and no one else will be brought into it. Either way... I hope that both of you will eventually find that perfect happiness either with each other or with someone else! : - )
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posted: 01/24/07 at 9:40 PM
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Okay, this goes into the realm of 3-somes and the like.
IF you have a rock-solid relationship and
IF you wouldn't mind the other breaking everything off at any time when they find a good SO they love (not you)
and IF you can still fool around and have it be fun but not really emotional,
you should be fine. Mess any one of those things up and you are Screwed Royally. Emotions run strong with sex.
In fact, there is a term for this- F**k Buddy. I would tell others that you have been long time friends (you are women- people will believe it). If they notice you doing the walk of shame coming out of her place, you may have to explain. Keep in mind that your relationship with her may turn away a lot of potentially good partners. This might be fine now but...
And who knows? maybe in the long term this is the kind of relationship that you should have now. If that is how you want to live then there is nothing wrong with that. Just be obscenely cautious balancing all the emotional things that come with it.
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 posted: 02/14/07 at 4:46 AM
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My partner is married. They both share the same boyfriend. They are swingers. They are choosy who they sleep with and are very cautious. They mainly sleep with their friends. I only sleep with my partner and not her hubby. There is no jealousy what so ever. It doesn't bother me that I sleep on the couch while she goes sleeps with her hubby. We all my partner, hubby, the boyfriend, and I get along wonderful!
My partner loves her husband so much (married 5 years) that if he dies before her, she will never find another man (of course, keep the b/f). So this open relationship is unlike any other I've ever known.
I would never ever get involved with a married woman, but there's just something about her other than that, I much rather have a woman all to myself - not share. I don't mind sharing her.
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posted: 02/14/07 at 8:00 AM
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I couldn't do an open (or swinging) relationship.
Too many feelings involved in the sex, and I simply don't want to share my SO with anyone else. The ONLY way I'd even CONSIDER a third party is if we BOTH agreed to it, and then there would have to be some strict boundaries. However, I don't want to even go there. Too much risk involved, and I don't want to lose my sweetheart.
Peace,
Poetman
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