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Am I bi or not? posted: 03/07/06 at 10:10 AM
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This is new to me. I mean I've always thought girls were attractive. Like I'd see a girl and be like "Oh, she is pretty" or something like that but never really thought much of it. But lately I have really been thinking that I might be bi. I have thoughts about kissing girls or what it would be like. I actually think I would enjoy it. I have also thought about dating girls lately. Like there is this one girl that I'm very attracted to and I asked myself if I would date her, and my answer was yes, but the only thing is I wouldn't be brave enough to actually do that I don't think. Nobody else knows of my thoughts and I have never told anyone. In fact I'm scared to open up to anyone about it because nobody thinks I'm that type of person. I don't want my friends to think I'm crazy or anything although I know they wouldn't mind. They just wouldn't think I would be like that at all. It would definitely surprise them to say the least lol. So, am I in fact bisexual or is it just a phase or curiosity I'm going thru? This is very confusing for me 
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posted: 03/07/06 at 10:14 PM
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| Kiah87, I was in your situation for years, not knowing. Finally when I turned 30...I realized that this was something I needed to try. I let a close friend of mine know how I felt....for years I had been attracted to women, and needed to experience it. I have been with one woman. We dated for 2.5 years and broke up....just over a week ago. We live together, our kids, family, co-workers don't know what went on. It's really hard to live a lie and not be who you really are. I love her, we have a fantastic relationship now...we did before to, but got lost and lost track of the importnat things we had. I wouldn't change a thing and I have no regrets. Altho, I am now very confused....I love women, every single one of them is beautiful in their own way. But the thought of dating a man....a man who knows how to treat a woman intrigues me just as much as being with another woman. I am so confused. My advice to you.....would be to go with your feelings and your heart, I have had many conversations on coming out or experimenting. And I think to do when you are younger, and have fun, find who you are in this mixed up world. Not necessarily settle down, but have fun, be safe and just enjoy life, it's too short. It tends to be all about the labels......why do we need to label our sexuality? Our relationships? AJ
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posted: 03/31/06 at 10:01 PM
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I am in a similar situation as you. Though I primarily consider myself straight, I have had occasional crushes on women. Unfortunately, I'm too shy to let them know, and most of the girls I'm interested in are usually taken.  I would say just give it a try if you can find a willing partner and see what you think. Right now I am trying to do the same because if you don't experiment, you're missing out on gaining important self-knowledge. Good luck!
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posted: 04/01/06 at 4:32 AM
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| well, it happends to me also..im so my curious bout it not untill i had a relationship in a girl, for start its ok then tym goes on it become worst.but i never regrets the tym and wat happend coz it made me relialized and to knw who am i reli...now i had a online gf and i love her with all my heart..
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Wats the difference?  posted: 04/20/06 at 9:15 PM
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So if I was to sleep with a woman wud that then make me Bisexual of Bicurious? To be bisexual does it mean have a relationship wiv a woman?
I don't want a relationship wiv a woman i love men! hehe (at times) but i wanna have fun wiv a woman and dream about it.
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posted: 04/20/06 at 10:38 PM
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| Bicurious means that you wonder what it would be like to sex a woman...Lots of 'straight' women have fantasized about this but never acted upon it....It could be a one night stand type thing just to satisfy a curiosity or to have fun......It turns out to be serious when you want to be with the woman all the time....You sound curious....for now.
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posted: 01/08/07 at 8:29 PM
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I was in that position all through my sophomore and junior year of high school. I only let my boyfriend of two years know what was going on, because I wasn't sure. The first step is to really think about the possibility of being with another female, and think about it for a long time. Becoming bisexual isn't an easy choice, it's a life choice that you have to make, because it's going to make people think differently of you. It's a part of who you are. Secondly, as was said before, try and find a partner that's interested. If your friends are alright with it, pick a close friend, open up to them about it and maybe ask if they know anyone who's either bisexual or lesbian and if you think they'd be interested in you. Trying it is the only thing that's going to let you know for sure whether you're bi-curious or bisexual. Having other people answer for you isn't really reliable, because they're not you. If you let them convince you it's just a phase, when it really isn't, you could miss out on the experiences of your life. The easiest way to come out is to a very close friend first, talk it over with them, get comfortable hearing yourself talk about being bisexual. That might determine, in itself, whether you think you are, or are not.
So yeah, that's my story. Hope it helped.
Good luck!!
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posted: 01/09/07 at 9:04 PM
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I was there too, but I would call this bisexual (of course you didn't mention men in the OP, so I am assuming a little).
I define bisexual as having the ability to fully enjoy sensual/sexual contact with the either. It doesn't neccessarily mean you want an LTR with the same sex or with the opposite sex, for that matter. You can emotionally switch-hit like that.
Myself, bisexual, always have been. Never had the chance to explore it until I broke up with my longtime SO and did the typical response to the 'alternative ad'. It actually wasn't that bad and found out I loved it. Catch is, I also realized that as much as the same sex did something for me, I didn't really want a relationship- it was just fun and a happy thing.
Once I verified my feelings, it really was a wonderful feeling and I got so much more honest with myself.
What I would suggest is follow up sometime if you see the opportunity and in a safe way. Then just be honest with yourself afterwards.
Bi, all the way.
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confused and interested posted: 03/12/07 at 9:22 PM
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ok, i'm a newbie here, and i joined just to talk on this thread, so thanks everyone for being here!
my own experience is this: i've always been attracted to guys, primarily because that's all i knew. i never fully experienced same-sex attractions until i moved to nyc and well, obviously, anything goes there. at the same time i was working through a lot of crap with my past, and i questioned everything - my faith, my basic principles, my family, and lastly, my sexuality. i started having (and still have a bit) a huge huge crush on a co-worker. i was her boss actually, so of course i didn't act on anything. besides, at that point, i just thought it was so wierd to be attracted to another woman. she kissed me once, as a joke, when we were totally drunk, and i loved it. and of course, never mentioned it to her.
so here i am, a year later. i still get girl crushes, but am now with a wonderful man. i'm not sexually active, so it seems wierd that i'm even worrying about this. i've always believed to wait until marriage, and i still hold onto this belief a bit. recently, i've just had a lot of dreams about kissing and making out with girls. because of abuse in the past, i have a really hard time getting close with my boyfriend, but being with a girl just sounds wonderful.
oh boy, i've waxed long! there's my two cents. if any of you have any suggestions or comments, please don't hesitate to send them my way.
signing off...a confused woman!
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posted: 07/12/07 at 3:59 AM
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Amber chain said:Becoming bisexual isn't an easy choice, it's a life choice that you have to make, because it's going to make people think differently of you.
I don't feel it is a choice to be bisexual you are just born that way. You know your bi when you get off to girls doing girls and you like kissing them and being in a relationship with them. I liked girls since i was realy young but didn't know the label for it until i got to my teens.
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posted: 08/23/07 at 8:06 PM
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| i have had a couple encounters this my friend that is a girl but i am also engaged to a man. but my experiences was before him. and i am not bi or bi? i am stright but every non and then i think of doing things with her. but that is only because it is different. with a guy there are only so many things you can do. but with a woman there are so many other thing you can do.
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