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How to teach my husband to eat me posted: 11/12/04 at 5:07 PM
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We've been married almost 20 years. I would just die for oral sex, but the few time he's tried doing it, he's too rough...just not right...and it's so frustrating. After a while it became unpleasant, and frankly I don't think he really liked doing it to begin with. I had tried instructing him, but he was still too rough...a bull in a veritable china shop.

I'm getting ready to ressurect our lame and pitiful sex life soon and I need some ideas. I used to give him BJs, but when he stopped going down on me, I decided to stop doing that to him, too. That was years ago...I suppose we should have talked more about it and not let so much time go by. But it's never too late to change.

OK, guys, help me out here. If you are experiened at going down on your woman, please tell me how to instruct my man. ..what to tell him that won't get him defensive or whatever.

Also, I need to get an opinion...should I shave my bush way back? I always try to keep my legs shaved or waxed up to the bikini line, but unless it's swimsuit season, I usually leave the bush alone. Is that too much hair to deal with...should I shave it really well (I've heard some jobs referred to as "shaved down to a little landing strip, LOL).

I appreciate any hints you can give me. Or even books to give him. Or whatever... Thanks!

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posted: 11/12/04 at 10:15 PM

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Damn Senser!!! You are too funny!!! Love the way you word your replies. LOL

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You teach him the way you would anyone else in any thing else.In stages....Show him how to touch you there at first with his hands,lips, and tongue....Then progress from there to nibbles,sucks, and kisses.Most men at first tend to dive in like they are entering a vagina with their penis.Oral requires a soft,gentle, touch.
Get a ice cream cone and have him pratice licking and tongueing it.It will give him an idea of how to do it.It is a simple and fun way to learn.
Shaving your vagina closed,but not bald would a good idea as well.

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posted: 11/12/04 at 11:20 PM

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Here. (you may have to re-spell the last word in the URL since the LYC forums censor certain words)

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posted: 11/13/04 at 2:23 AM

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Shave or better yet get a Brazillian bikini wax. It'll hurt like hell, and I could never imagine paying someone money to rip my pubes out, but hey, there's always a price.

But that's first. Just do it, trust me.

You may even have him shave you. Personally I can't help diving in after I've just worked the razor.

Second, shower right before. You are not dirty. But showering makes you tasted even better to him.

After that, just tell him how you've been dreaming about his tongue down there. Direct him - tell him to go slow and soft. Just like when we are young and have to tell girls "no teeth!" when they are first giving oral, you'll need to tell him "softer" or "too hard!".

There are good books on cunnilingus. Get it for him and tell him that if he'll do that for you, you'll __________ for him (swallow, anal, whatever you know he'd want you to do).

Otherwise there are instructional porn videos out there - as pusser suggests.

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posted: 11/13/04 at 6:32 AM
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Senser, you crack me up!

And Pusser, thank you for the web link. Very interesting site.

The ice cream cone analogy is really interesting, too. You guys have been very helpful!

One new thing I've learned from this site is that fruit or juices can make you taste sweeter. Of course, I knew that onions and garlic can make your sweat smell awful, but I never thought about other secretions. Hmmm, very interesting. Now I think I understand why one old boyfriend (years ago) tasted so sweet, while another did not.

If anyone else has a suggestion or comment, please jump in!

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posted: 11/13/04 at 6:46 AM
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There's a lot of good books out there as well. You may not get him to read them, but you might be able to read them to help you talk to him about it.

Hey - even better idea - figure out how to give an awesome mind blowing bj to him. Then do it. Then after he picks himself up off the floor, tell him if he wants another one, he's going to have to learn to do the same for you!

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posted: 11/13/04 at 3:11 PM
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I love going down on my girl (well ex, but you know). She shaves. I mix it up on here. But usually pretty gentle and slowly going faster.

She loves it.

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posted: 11/14/04 at 4:31 PM

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Shaving or trimming or leaving it or waxing. All a personal preference. I love my girl shaved, and I want her waxed. She won't, no biggie. She shaves for me! All the more yummy.


Anyways, I posted this in another thread, but I'm going to reuse it because well, it sort of fits your need. Have him read it, if you can convince him to. Then have him try it on you, because it's pretty much instructions on how a guy should eat a gal:

Set aside a lot of foreplay time. Say, 2-3 hours worth? That's about a good time, to work her up. Seriously. You can even take longer, it wouldn't hurt.

Start just by simply kissing her, from her lips, to her face, to her neck. All the while caressing her body with your hands, Feeling her curves, all of them. Not just her waist, or her butt, but her back, her arms, her neck. Everywhere. Be soft, very soft. At some points, just trail your fingertips across her skin. Makes it feel like electricity, especially when you're really aroused. But even then, you need to arouse her southern partner, and bring her up to speed, so that you can please her entire body. Girls/women have erroneous zones alllllll over their bodies. Find out where your girl's zones are. For some, it's the neck, others, beind the ear, navel, stomach, small of the back, inside of the elbow, armpit, between her breasts. The possibilities are nearly endless. Notice I'm only giving you examples of her upper body. That's because I suggest you spend some time on her upper body, before moving down. It builds the suspense. If you know her zones, go for them. Nuzzle them, tickle them softly, bite on them, whatever it is. Make sure to pay attention to those zones, but avoiding all the obvious sexual areas. If you don't know her zones, spend awhile finding them. You can tell when you hit one just by her reactions. Shivers, moans, breathing, etc. Always got to pay attention to these.

Kiss her all over, leaving a bit of a wet trail after every kiss. After awhile of caressing her, and making out with her, you can slowly move down. Kiss her chin, then nuzzle her neck awhile. Kissing it, and even sucking on it a little. Move down between her breasts. Notice I haven't told you to do anything to them yet. You could be caressing them this entire time, but I'd advise that you avoid that, so that she wants you to do it more. The more she wants it, the better it will be for her. Start kissing around the meat of her breasts, moving in a slow spiral circle, from the far outside, towards her nipple. When you reach the nipple, just graze it ever so lightly with a kiss, then move to the other breast. Repeat it, if you want. Then finally you can suck on her nipples. If you want, and she allows of course. (I've known girls who don't like this, so yeah. Girl dependant. If she likes it, go for it. If not, avoid it. Only do what you know she'll like) Anyways, spend some time on these, as much as you like. When you feel like you've gave them enough attention, move down some more. Give her tummy some attention. Play with her navel. French kiss it. Lick it, suck on it. Whatever floats your boat. Caress her stomach with your hands. BTW, all throughout this, never forget and leave your hands still. Keep them busy by caressing her body, by avoiding her genitals! The more you avoid it, the more she anticipates it, the better it'll be, the higher chance you can make her cum.

After you've spent some time on her tummy, kiss down, skipping past her pu55y. Kiss her inner thighs, on top of her thighs, outside of the, behind them, moving down to her feel or ankles. Spend some time kissing and caressing her legs alone.

Personally, I'm a leg guy, so I love spending my time down there just caressing my babe's legs. So awesomely smooth and soft.

Anyways, a number of girls have a zone right behind their knee. In that little bend. Sort of similar to their neck actually. Hehe...

Now you can slowly move back up, and kiss your way back up through the inside of her legs. When you finally reach her pu55y, don't actually go for it just yet. Tease her. Kiss her pelvic bone, above of her pu55y. Massage the meat there, right above of her clit. It'll move her pu55y so that she'll feel it real good. Make sure to spend some time kissing the inside of her thighs. Then kiss her pu55y directly, but NOT on the clit. Just lick and suck on her lips for awhile, avoiding the clit. Brush it once in awhile, really lightly, just to give her a hint of what's to come. At this point, my girl would be shivering every time I'd brush her clit, so yeah. (BTW, all that time that's passed, could be over an hour, and hour and a half. So yeah, like I said, go slow. Time passes so freaken fast when you're having fun. Especially sexual fun! )

Keep kissing and licking and sucking her lips, and finally part her lips, and lick inbetween them. Start from the bottom, where her hole is, and move up. Keep in mind, to NOT use a stiff tongue. Pretend as if you're licking a soft ice-cream cone. You'd never use a stiff tongue would you? Same thing here. Stiff tongues can hurt her. A lot of guys never realize this, and just stab and spear her with their tongue. Craziness. I did this once, one of my first few times going down on my girl, and she was like, GENTLE!!! THAT HURTS. So yeah. Keep it soft. Anyways, licking from the bottom up, just when you're about to hit her clit, lift off, so that just the tip of you're tongue grazes her clit softly. Do this a few times. That'll drive her crazy!

You can even turn your head a bit, so that your lips are somewhat horizontal with her lips, and French kiss her pu55y. Great stuff.

Around about now, after a few teasing licks, just lick it full on instead of lifting off. Start slow. Lick softly, and find what best suites her. Ask her which method feels better. There are a number of things you can do. Lick up an down, or in circles, or (as I've heard a lot of people say) the alphabet. Try your name, then hers. *shrugs* Whichever it is that feels best to her, stick to that. Don't always change motions. I learned that the hard way. My girl got mad at me because I kept speeding up, then changing motions, then stopping. BE CONSISTENT MAN! Start slow, then pick up speed, but be consistent. And whatever you do, don't just stop. If you want to stop, slow it down a bit, then a bit more, then a bit more, to let her come down slowly. When you're driving a car, you wouldn't just pull your e-brake, and expect to come to a stand still from 60 mph, now would you? You slow down first, then come to a stop. Same here.

Add things to the mix. Use your hands. Finger her while licking and sucking on her clit. A lot of girls vouch that it feels better that way. So try it. Just keep at it at a steady pace, and with some luck, and hope, she should cum sometime.

Whatever you do, don't try to rush it. Make it enjoyable for her. And you know what? You should be enjoying this too.
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Hope that helps.

BTW, can anyone give me feedback on this? Anyways or things to improve it? Still a work in progress... Hehehe... just a side note.

I can't really give you advice on how to instruct him to go down on you, well because I personally ask my girl what feels good, and what doesn't. And I tell her before hand, to get vocal about all of it, meaning to let me know what's better, what's good, what's not, and to make note of what she prefers. So yeah. Just talk softly and gently. Hopefully you can convince him to try this on you, I know it gives my girl crazy pleasure, so I hope it can do the same for you.

~cn2k

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posted: 11/17/04 at 8:17 AM

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Damn Computerin, I read one post from you and I feel like a groupie! Nice!

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