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have you had/would you have a relationship with someone in a wheelchair
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Relationship with someone in a wheelchair posted: 11/25/03 at 4:02 PM

sexysmile  [more]
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Has anyone had one? If not would you?

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posted: 11/25/03 at 6:35 PM

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I lived with a man in a wheelchair for a bit over a year. The only reason we split was because I don't tolerate any kind of abuse.

If you are considering dating a man in a wheelchair there are lots of things to take into consideration.........is he independant or does he depend on others to help him do his daily living? Would you be willing to invest that much time in a relationship with someone that is in a wheelchair? If sex is important to you and he can't perform, could you deal with that?

My sister lived with a man in a wheelchair for 8 years and they split because he could have sex and she got it elsewhere..........Basically, dating someone in a wheelchair has lots of downfalls, but if you two really work at it, there's no reason it wouldn't work. If you'd like to chat further about it, you can pm me.........

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posted: 11/25/03 at 11:32 PM

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I haven't, but (ignoring the fact I'm happily married) I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with it. It's not like I'd be embarrassed being seen in public or anything like that. In fact, there were a couple of girls I knew confined to wheelchairs that I did think about. Very attractive, those two. Questions I would have would be (1) as deborah pointed out, would my life be consumed taking care of her, and (2) what would our sex life be like?

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posted: 11/26/03 at 12:22 AM

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I've often wondered what it would be like, but if I loved a man enough, I would. I went to a dance about 6 months ago, & a man asked me to dance who was in a wheelchair. I didn't mind at all--dancing w/him was fun.

It may be a little harder to make plans w/someone like that or to adjust to a different lifestyle, but if I loved someone, a disability like that wouldn't stop me.

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posted: 11/26/03 at 2:12 AM

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i had a college roomate and friend who was in a wheel chair...she pretty much good do things on her own..she needed help with some things but pretty much she could do on her own..

i woudln't mind and I am not too sure it would bother me. If i really loved the person and wanted to be with them I would hope I could over look there disability...I haven't actually dated anyone in a wheel chair.

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posted: 11/26/03 at 6:12 AM

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Hi Deborah

I myself are actually in a wheelchair and have had a 'fling' with someone else in a wheelchair, a long term relationship with an able bodied man and have just come out of a 'friends with benefits' relationship with another able bodied man.

It's just that not much gets said on the subject and I thought it was a good thing to bring up

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posted: 11/26/03 at 3:04 PM
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No I haven't

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maybe

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posted: 11/26/03 at 11:00 PM

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Wow, this is a very powerful subject because to say the truth I dont want to offend anyone. Personally, I think its diffent if my bf were suddenly discapacitated in any way and if I were starting new. If my bf were I would no doubt carry on and ajust my lifestyle to his handicap without further questions, I would be heartbroken not only for him but just dealing with a new life, no driving for him possibly no sex etc. I would hope that the relationship wouldnt fizzle because of this.

If it were someone new, Im afraid I couldnt deal with it, I wouldnt allow myself to get involved too much because I (selfishly) dont want that responsibility. I want a lot of kids and a big house, a career-the whole nine yards. My passion is travel and how would I take long walks on the beaches of Thailand? For all these reasons I couldnt do it.

Please, I dont want to offend anyone, this is likea question about whether or not I would date a man of a different race or religion, it is not meant to be discriminating in any way.

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posted: 11/27/03 at 3:42 AM

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Being together with someone who is disabled in any way is hard,no doubts.
Probably the key is-whether your partner BECAME disabled or you met him when he ALREADY WAS.In first case it would be easier for me to stay with him(i hope it never happens with us though)in second case it would be a difficult decision.
I read in newspaper a story when there was a girl who had terrible disease that causes absolute paralysis of all her muscles, even breathing muscles, she breathes through some kinda pipe that inserts into the hole in her throat,she cant walk, hardly can type anything.So somehow she was visiting chats while being in wheelchair and somewhat managed to type.She met that man and they fell in love gradually,but she didnt tell about her condition.
When they met it was a shock for that man to see her like this.
It took him some time to recover and to think and to decide.
They stayed together...Hopefully untill this very moment.

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posted: 11/27/03 at 4:12 AM

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I have never dated a man in a wheel chair. My bf's doctor said that he expects him to be in a wheel chair by his 40th bday. I love him and I would not mind if had to be in a wheel chair. I would not mind. I love him for him. I love pampering him and taking care of him. I just hope he wouldn't want to push me away because he doesn't want to be a burden for me.

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