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A sad, sad break up. posted: 08/27/12 at 2:29 PM
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I have spent another weekend alone without him in sight. Oh he calls and texts abundantly mainly to tell me how busy he is or too tired to drive the 10 minutes separating us.
Since we had our talk about him spending the night over once a week I felt he was slacking off a little. He would still communicate with me often but most of the time he would not pick up when I was the one calling, or he'd leave my texts unanswered.
Last time he visited, last Friday, I asked him jokingly in how long he would make a respectable woman out of me (meeting families) he replied when he'd get his head cleared of all his problems. I interpreted that as 'never'.
When he called good morning today I told him I could not do this anymore. I cannot go through another weekend of being without him. I love him and I want 'him' to be in my life but I see it's not going to happen and he will never deliver on his promises. He replied: oh Gail for god's sake don't start. I said to him: Will do you understand that I am breaking up with you? He said yes, he understood that and he was going to make his call to the government (something I knew about) and then he'd call me back and let me know how it went. I said No. You and I are not going to talk again unless it's to tell me you will be in my life the way 'I' need you to be.
He said he understood and said good bye.
Now I have got to put on a smile and go to work. I wish I could just stay home and cry.
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posted: 08/27/12 at 3:14 PM
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Break-ups suck. But you've given him lots of chances to grow and compromise with you and he seems to dig his heels in every single time.
You can find someone who is on the same page as you- it may not end up exactly in the package you want, but if it's good, then you'll be comfortable with the compromises and not always feeling like you're doing ALL of the work.
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posted: 08/27/12 at 7:05 PM
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I ended my friendship with my 'stalker' friend. I have just spent an entire year listenning to her about her ex, how much she loves him, about all the women he dates and how much she's hurt over it all. I've listenned, encouraged her, checked up on her, took her calls late at night, while on vacations, while at work.
I told her I broke up with Will and that I am ok but very sad at the same time. She said: 'you did the right thing' and started talking about her ex and all the women he dated on the weekend and how she's hurt, etc. After those months of listenning to her I expected a little more generosity of the heart on her part. I told her so and cut her off.
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posted: 08/27/12 at 8:03 PM
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| I am terribly sorry it had to come down to this Gail. I know how much you cared about him. Its also considerably insensitive of your friend to give such little attention to such a major event. Sometimes people are so caught up in their own problems they lack the ability to give more to others. She has nothing to give...she is caught too far into her own mess and I think she figured since you said you were OK that she didnt spend anymore time on it. Perhaps you being such a strong person...never really registers with those that are naturally weak.
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