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posted: 08/06/12 at 5:27 PM
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Originally posted by tomie
I can bet if he asked for your number, you would have still seen something to analyze. Just take it easy!!! Consider seeing å therapist.
That's the problem, he does have my number but isn't calling, instead asking for my email address to communicate. What 34 yr old commincates through emails when they got your number at least texting. I really don't have time emailing a prospect back and forth, it's such a waste of time. He said that he finds it bothersome to message through the dating site. And to that I said, you can always call, or we can meet up, I just find emailing each other after a while very impersonally. He replied, That he has no problem meeting again but doesn't know what I think. I said I already told him through my text that I'd like to see him again. To that he hasn't responded. How much slower can he get.
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posted: 08/06/12 at 5:33 PM
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| I don't believe her to be a troll. At least not a troll in the usual sense where people are doing it for their own amusement. Her issues are real in my opinion. The main problem though is the refusal to seek help because she has decided therapy can't help her. A stubborn streak like I have never seen before. If she refuses to seek help she'll simply find herself alone and unmarried. Oh well...threads will continue to be posted as long as people continue to allow themselves to get drawn into them.
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posted: 08/06/12 at 8:17 PM
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I don't think she is a troll in the normal sense either. I think she has a distorted view of reality. Any of the following sound familiar to anyone?
A pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People are also usually very impulsive. The unstable pattern of interacting with others has persisted for years and is usually closely related to the person’s self-image and early social interactions. The pattern is present in a variety of settings (e.g., not just at work or home) and often is accompanied by a similar lability (fluctuating back and forth, sometimes in a quick manner) in a person’s emotions and feelings. Relationships and the person’s emotion may often be characterized as being shallow.
A person will also often exhibit impulsive behaviors and have a majority of the following symptoms:
•Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment
•A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation
•Identity disturbance, such as a significant and persistent unstable self-image or sense of self
•Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging
•Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior
•Emotional instability due to significant reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days)
•Chronic feelings of emptiness
•Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)
•Transient, stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms
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posted: 08/06/12 at 9:07 PM
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The man asked for an email address, just give it to him then see what he does with it. Does not mean he is going to go into a long email correspondance.Instead of assuming let him show you what he will do with it.
So my gut feeling was right, you had not been clear enough with him about wanting to see him again,
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posted: 08/06/12 at 10:39 PM
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I did tell him through the text that I too like to see him again.
Through the dating website before we met I asked him if he was perhaps taken or married because he was too passive for a guy in a dating site. The way he wants to communicate after a first date is unusual and perhaps as Margery mentioned maybe he's not that single afterall.
The least he could've done was call or text me to set up another date. If I gave him my e-mail it would only mean I'm settling to be OK with it, and I'm not OK with it. Instead of asking me when's a good time for him to call he asks for my e-mail? Kind of strange. So after pretty much telling him that he should call or ask me since he's unsure of, he hasn't responded at all and he usually would message me everyday.
I really need to learn to go with my gut because it seems my intutions are about right.
I despise phone conversations but when it comes to common courtesy or with my interested prospect I don't avoid it. Exception to the rule. Anywho, I messaged him that it was nice to meet him and wished him good luck.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 12:23 AM
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[[ What 34 yr old commincates through emails when they got your number at least texting]]
Perhaps one like me who is a) deaf (or 90% so without hearing aids) and/or b) has arthritis in his fingers that make typing and texting painful.
Don't look for trouble. It will find you on it's own.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 2:05 AM
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I don't think she is a troll in the truest sense either.
The impression I get is that baby is looking for some form of approval/affirmation or something she isn't getting in the 'real' world.
I don't think she is getting it though as I have a feeling that our reactions to things are similar to the ones people around her give her.
I've read from her before that she comes here because she can't talk to the people in her life about this stuff (unless I read wrong) probably because they get upset at her like we do. The cycle is just being perpetuated.
Even if she did seek counselling, it would be the cousellor who is wrong, or sucks at their job, and she'd switch cousellor's.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 2:38 AM
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Wrong Analysis about me! Sorry but all wrong.
As I've moved around in the past couple of years, my close contacts are not within a reach for a coffee, my new friendships at this point in my life are shallow and I don't like to share much of my private life or thoughts. In real life I am the exact opposite as in these forums and I know myself better than any of you trying to assume who I am. Matter of fact this is a fraction of what's going on with men in my life. In fact one of my girlfriends who is married said I made the right decision to break it off with my ex because it seemed his confusion was hindering finding my happieness. I think what people need to do here is focus on giving advice at hand instead of attacking someone's character because it doesn't fit every individuals POV.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 2:46 AM
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Originally posted by baby07
Matter of fact one of my girlfriends who is married said I made the right decision to break it off with my ex because it seemed his confusion was hindering finding my happieness. I think what people need to do here is focus on giving advice at hand instead of attacking someone's character because it doesn't fit every individuals POV.
Are you...okay? Like, seriously?
A LOT of people on here said repeatedly that you should break up with him...again and again and again.
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