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Dad to be posted: 08/01/12 at 12:38 PM
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Hey fellas,
Just looking for a nice idea for my fiancé. I'm 7 months pregnant and even though I am trying to include him in everything and ask him to rub the oil on my belly etc. I can't help feeling that he is feeling left out. Anywhere we go people will ask about me and never him. It used to be about us but now people are focusing on me and the baby. He hasn't said anything but I want him to realise its us with the baby. He has a pretty stressful job and I know he is worrying about whether his contract will be renewed or not. So he's prob worried about being a good dad/provider. I guess I want to reassure him and look after him. I have a good job... We would struggle on one wage but we wouldn't starve and I will get paid well during my leave. We have family around us too so we are lucky.
I'm sure some of you know the feeling of becoming a dad... Concerns that you might of had. I know he's worried about me.. I'm very petite and carrying a very big baby. He's mentioned that hes worried about my health ( i was sick pre preg and during it too) and says if anything happens he wants me in the end with or without the baby....that sounds so cold and I actually cried as I know I would give my life for this little baby. Maybe on some level he's worried that something might go wrong and he will be on his own without me.
I just want to do something nice for him and maybe get some insight into what you guys felt when your OH was expecting.
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Grá mo chroí, beidh mé i ngrá leat go deo xxx ( Irish for: love of my heart, i will be in love with you forever)
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Re: Dad to be posted: 08/02/12 at 7:20 AM
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Originally posted by cooorazy Luv
Hey fellas,
He's mentioned that hes worried about my health ( i was sick pre preg and during it too) and says if anything happens he wants me in the end with or without the baby....that sounds so cold and I actually cried as I know I would give my life for this little baby. Maybe on some level he's worried that something might go wrong and he will be on his own without me.
You are lucky that you have such a caring fiance Anyways just expects some good thinks. It is the fact that everything happens.
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posted: 08/02/12 at 10:28 AM
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He seems really excited about everything but I can sense how nervous he is... Not about having a baby ( we were told we might never be ale to have kids) but about the labour and delivery of the baby. He' s worried about me. He's going to be a great dad so I don't think it's that and I tell him he will be a great dad too. He talks a lot about our childhoods and wonders what our child will be like... Will they want a blankie like he did, will they have an imaginary friend like I did? Etc. He talks about teaching them to play sports.. And how he wants them to see how magical Disney is when they are young..he had tears in his eyes last year when we saw the fireworks display and said "if we ever have children I want them to see this". He brought me to America to propose last year Boston - New York - Florida because I had never been.
We had to postpone our wedding due to our little miracle. Everything was booked and deposits were paid. Everyone had been focusing on us and the wedding. Now everyone is focusing on me and the baby. He has been great and I love him so much. I just want to make a fuss about him instead of everyone fussing about me?
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Grá mo chroí, beidh mé i ngrá leat go deo xxx ( Irish for: love of my heart, i will be in love with you forever)
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posted: 08/02/12 at 12:42 PM
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"We had to postpone our wedding due to our little miracle. Everything was booked and deposits were paid. "
Why did the pregnancy casue the wedding to be delayed? That sounds a bit topsy-turvey.
You are right to consider his feeliings in this and it easy for dads to feel left out leading to problems. but the main danger comes after the baby is born. That's when dads can feel most neglected.
Robert
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posted: 08/02/12 at 1:24 PM
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| We postponed as I'm due in Oct and wedding was set for Dec. if I have any complications / c section it would put me out of action for a while. We decided to postpone for a year so we can concentrate on being parents and not worry about having a newborn at the wedding. We decided it would all be too much. We will have a little flower girl or page boy with us instead.
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