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Re: Is he flirting of is it lack of confidence?? posted: 07/31/12 at 5:39 PM
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Originally posted by confuddle
This guy friend had a minor surgery on his face / chin. He emailed before we met for coffee that he "doesn't look as handsome as normal" because he has a small bandage on his face. Well, he looks okay, normal.
Then I casually mentioned that while I was on holiday I saw some sun tanned, well-suited, good looking guys in Rome. He responded via email - " I guess my Italian car and Italian suits just isn't possible to close the gap between me and the good looking Italian men you observed."
Hmmm. I am not sure if he is flirting or just a lack of confidence. by the way he is good looking ! Sometimes I am not sure if he is interested in me or not.
What is your take on all these ?
I think he 'likes' you, not as a friend but as a possible gf.
Reason being, when you said about seeing the Italian men and their suits etc right after he mentioned how he was not as handsome as normal due to the bandage on his face- (most 'friends' would have just asked you about the last sentence- about the guys you say you saw or your holidaya nd yet he took it as a sort of slight- he felt you were comparing his not being as handsome or as well dressed as the men you saw on holiday, .it wouldn't have caused such a sensitivity had he felt he was just a friend
I think he felt less than his insecure self around you and hurt, he feels he couln't possibly measure up to what you saw or seem to like.
No, he is not flirting- he sounds like a very sensitive person who has this crush on you and yet plays along as a friend - Do you like him? He sounds more angry or sarcastic as he knows you have no idea how he feels.
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posted: 07/31/12 at 5:57 PM
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Originally posted by confuddle
Well, he did hit on me a couple of times - kiss me on the neck a couple of times. We have just pretended it never happened and talked as normal, as if nothing did happened. That is why I think he probably likes me and is interested in me.
I remember this guy! (gosh I need a life!) You're still dancing around pretending you're not interested in each other? Why don't you stop this non sense and tell him you see him being more than just a friend!
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posted: 07/31/12 at 7:38 PM
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Originally posted by Gail65
I remember this guy! (gosh I need a life!) You're still dancing around pretending you're not interested in each other? Why don't you stop this non sense and tell him you see him being more than just a friend!
Perhaps we do like each other as more than friends. We only catch up once every 3 or 4 months but when we do, there seems to be an undercurrent / electric. We don't run out of things to talk about. Moving to beyond friends is scary as we have known each other for such a long time as friends.
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posted: 07/31/12 at 8:01 PM
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There are only two options to resolve this equation then:
1. You tell him straight out and deal with the consequences
2. You keep it strictly platonic and move on from this guy
Sure all of this is scary, but you are basically in a stale mate. You wont give him clear signals, but you are hanging onto him. This can not be healthy for either of you and wasting both of yours time. Personally if you are only chatting every 3-4 months, I see nothing here exists. Yeah you have something to talk about...because you never talk.
It doesnt mean you were made for each other. Maybe you should stay friends.
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posted: 07/31/12 at 9:48 PM
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Originally posted by fair_is_fair
There are only two options to resolve this equation then:
1. You tell him straight out and deal with the consequences
2. You keep it strictly platonic and move on from this guy
Sure all of this is scary, but you are basically in a stale mate. You wont give him clear signals, but you are hanging onto him. This can not be healthy for either of you and wasting both of yours time. Personally if you are only chatting every 3-4 months, I see nothing here exists. Yeah you have something to talk about...because you never talk.
It doesnt mean you were made for each other. Maybe you should stay friends.
I like your straight forward answers.
I ave kept it platonic so far, nothing more. Our communications via emails etc has been friendly, perhaps a bit flirtatious sometimes, but never crosses the line.
It is frustrating sometimes and I need to resolve it soon
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Re: Re: Is he flirting of is it lack of confidence?? posted: 08/01/12 at 10:22 PM
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Originally posted by jenniferj
I think he 'likes' you, not as a friend but as a possible gf.
Reason being, when you said about seeing the Italian men and their suits etc right after he mentioned how he was not as handsome as normal due to the bandage on his face- (most 'friends' would have just asked you about the last sentence- about the guys you say you saw or your holidaya nd yet he took it as a sort of slight- he felt you were comparing his not being as handsome or as well dressed as the men you saw on holiday, .it wouldn't have caused such a sensitivity had he felt he was just a friend
I think he felt less than his insecure self around you and hurt, he feels he couln't possibly measure up to what you saw or seem to like.
No, he is not flirting- he sounds like a very sensitive person who has this crush on you and yet plays along as a friend - Do you like him? He sounds more angry or sarcastic as he knows you have no idea how he feels.
The truth is I don't know how he feels!! I can only guess he may have a crush on me !
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posted: 08/02/12 at 2:07 AM
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You will know how he feels if you just asked. I did that once with some one...and got my answer. He wasnt into me as much as I wanted to, so that gave me the luxury to finally find some one who did.
Just ask. What good does wondering do you? Day dreaming this long is only going to crush you harder if you find out nothing is real. Better to rip the bandaid off asap.
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