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posted: 07/15/12 at 12:19 PM
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A young 20 y/o woman, from Craig's list, accepting to meet an older man at his home, I know who got mad at her, her pimp. I don't think a 20 y/o would tell family that she's on craig list and visiting men at home.
What happened to you is exactly why I tell men before our second date that I have H. Sometimes I even tell them before meeting. I refuse to see them 3-4 times, then I get dumped and end up disappointed. I have been very lucky so far, no one refused to meet me or date me because I have H-2.
If you are on daily antiviral and use protection the chances of you passing this are close to none. This is your best card when you date uninfected people.
Those H dating websites are very popular in the US. They are well done, lots of health information on them, chat rooms, etc. The best one is positivesingles.com if you want to try it. I personally prefer regular websites. I have no problem dating uninfected men, I have a good friend of mine that also was diagnosed positive and she's been successfully dating negative men too.
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posted: 07/15/12 at 4:25 PM
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Actually you are pretty lucky...she could have just walked out of there and given you no closure at all. She could have just vanished. I wouldnt be so hard on this girl, Herpes is scary for most people. I dont know why age has anything to do with this, you weren't fooled, you were just rejected. This is going to happen more than once in the dating scene until you get the hang of it with telling people about Herpes and I would do it earlier than later as Gail has indicated.
If some one is "falling in love" with you, you are too late in telling them about this issue. Then it looks like you were hiding something and the other person might feel betrayed.
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posted: 07/19/12 at 1:15 AM
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My better judgment got the best of me and I emailed her asking for an explanation of what happened between us and what she wasnt honest about.
It turns out she has a guy that has been stringing her along since high school who she continues to sleep with (and lives with with another roommate) but who wont give her the relationship she wants, and she keeps going back to him in hopes that will change. She said while we were together she thought she would be able to end that and be with me and had avoided him during our time together, but after my confession she ran back to him. She says that basically my issue isnt as big a deal to her as her inability to stay away from him and that she would just be unfaithful if we had a relationship. Her email was intended to scare me away. She feels she is protecting me and doesnt feel she deserves better than she has.
So in a way I guess I dodged a bullet but then I feel bad for her. Ive been in those types of relationships and they never work. Either way I got the closure I wanted since I know even if I hadnt given my confession chances are this wouldve ended similarly eventually.
Thanks again everyone for your advice and support.
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posted: 07/19/12 at 1:30 AM
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You know I heard a saying once from some one on TV:
"Their rejection is Gods protection." - Basically...there is a reason for everything...and the reason is probably something you don't want any way.
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posted: 07/19/12 at 2:03 AM
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Thats my feeling on it. Im a little mad at her for going into it like that. Telling me she was falling for me, telling me she wanted a future with me - all the while knowing how she was.
I think she was hoping for a magic pill rather than the courage it takes for her to break her own cycle. Substituting me for him I suppose in a way.
I hope she is able to break the cycle and find her happiness.
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