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Not In the mood? posted: 06/25/12 at 2:12 AM
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Me and my boyfriend hadn't had sex in 2 weeks, mainly we hadn't even have the opportunity. But today after we went to our dancing class, we hung out at his place watching the soccer game cuddling. Then he began to sexually please me, but he didn't wanted to have sex, and said later. So later it became late and I had to go home and he to sleep. I got really irritiated, he admitted that it was long we just hadn't had the opportunity. And today he was just not in the mood, he was happy to be laying there with me on the couch.
This is the same guy who said sex was important in a relationship and we just began having sex 2 months ago. He's my first. I got so upset because it feels like he's pushing me away.
Why has this happened?
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posted: 06/25/12 at 4:32 AM
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Sometimes to us guys, lying with you and cuddling can be just as nice as eex. It's not always the case, obviously, but it does happen. It apparently happened this time with yours. You were watching soccer and cuddling, he started teasing you a bit then realized it wasn't what he wanted so stopped. It also is possible that the ambiance of watching sports on TV simply didn't stoke his lower embers very much.
Your best bet is just go with the flow. Two weeks can feel like an eternity without sex, but it really isn't. He's at least talking to you, cuddling up and being sweet. Count that for an encounter this time. Next time shoot for something with a bit more passionate or romantic setting.
Cheers,
Poetman
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posted: 06/25/12 at 5:02 PM
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| There will be times that you're not in the mood. So why is it a bad thing if the guy isn't in the mood? Stop thinking that everything that happens to tick you off is him pushing you away. The only thing that's pushing the two of you apart your continued habit of making mountains out of molehills. The two of you have so much potential to be happy, I don't know why you insist on looking for the negative points and blowing them out of proportion. Try to focus on being happy and see how pleasant it can be.
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posted: 06/25/12 at 9:23 PM
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How can you not be in the mood when you're only 4months together and hadn't had sex for 2 straight weeks? I don't get it, I can't wait to jump his bones and he's not in the mood? I did tell him I felt extremely offended and unwanted. He said he just had too much to eat, okie so we ate a lot, and that he had garlic breath, and the game was on was just happy to lay there with me. Yet, I'm still confused he was turned on cause you can feel it and then when I'm trying he turns me down??
oh and he admitted he feels a little heavier because he put on some weight these past weeks. we're not even married or anything or we didn't even have sex a few hours before it's been 2 weeks...too long!
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posted: 06/25/12 at 11:36 PM
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How can you not be in the mood when you're only 4months together and hadn't had sex for 2 straight weeks?
There can be various reasons, one's libidinal drive varies from one particular day to the next depending on multiple factors such as sleep, stress, personal issues etc... The desire for sex is not predicated wholly on how long one hasn't engaged in such activities, theres much more to it than that.
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Yet, I'm still confused he was turned on cause you can feel it and then when I'm trying he turns me down??
Its one thing to get turned on, its another to actually gather the energy to act on these urges especially when one is already in a fatigued(physically or mentally) state.
Or there could simply be other reasons behind his refusal for sex, ones which you seem to have in mind. But if you think he's an honest guy, I would take him at his word. If this is a repetitive theme on his part, thats when I would give this matter more thought.
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posted: 06/26/12 at 10:43 PM
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Another thing to consider. what frequency of sex do each of you think is normal? You want to jump his bones since it's been two weeks, he doesn't feel that much of a need/desire. So maybe you are not sexualy compatible there. If one of you wants sex ALL or MOST of the time, while the other is content with 1-2 times per WEEK then that needs to be considered in the long-term outlook prospect.
Just a thought...
Poetman
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Rodger Swan 12/19/1986-1/26/2010 Gone too soon, remembered forever. R.I.P my friend.
You have everything that I have to give; it is the only way that Love truly exists. You and I are each One, and we are both One~E
I cannot be accurately judged by the meat and bone wrapped around me - its features were not my choice.~E
I Love you. Love Me as I Love you, you are Me. you are not me; only here are we we, separate rather than Me, One.~E
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