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posted: 06/22/12 at 12:43 AM
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I agree with gail- a simple "okay that's fine, just let me know when" was enough for the email about bringing him over later.
As for her last email about the adult conversation see what she has to say, and if it's nothing you want to hear (like about the TV) say "No I decided I won't pay for the satellite service, but okay thanks for dropping off our child, I'll bring him by at such and such time" But if she says about you not responding about her dropping your son off at such and such time, then say "next time I'll make sure to respond."
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posted: 06/22/12 at 1:41 AM
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Gotta agree with the other ladies. The email about your son should have been responded to. A simple "that's fine" would have been enough. You will always have to communicate openly with her regarding your son. You may always have to be the hero and be the one to take the high road, it just is what it is. But, when she communicates to you that she's going to be late, it's only civil to let her know that you're aware of what's going on. She could have left you waiting and not emailed, but she let you know. I think ignoring that email was rather petty.
Emails about gifts or "adult conversations" can be ignored. She's not your wife, she's not your mother. You have to figure out your comfort zone with her. You can never have zero contact with her, she's the mother of your child. You have to find a happy medium that you can live with. This is all new for you, just take this and learn from it.
If I were in your shoes, I would send her an email that says something like this..."Sorry I didn't get back to you about "son" being here late, I got busy, but it's totally fine. Just let me know what time he'll be here. I'm not comfortable having an adult conversation, you can email me anything that you need me to hear. I realize that I there are times I do need to get back to you and I will. Again, I apologize for not getting back to you about "son's" visit. See you soon."
I think that lets her know that you realize there will be times that you have to keep contact and there are times that you don't think it's necessary. Just keep hammering home the "not necessary" while remaining civil for the sake of your son. Could you kill her with kindness? Not monetary kindness, attitude kindness.
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posted: 06/22/12 at 11:57 PM
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Agreed. I did email her back and said pick up anytime is ok with me, just to let me know.
I bought a HR monitor as I am trying to lose weight. It has a min exercise heart rate setting and a max. My min is set at 125 bpm. When I am exercising it beeps at 125 to let me know I am in my "target range".
The HR monitor went off when I saw her. My heart raced and I didnt even know it (I wouldnt have unless the monitor went off).
I cant believe it. As much as I know we should not be together, I still love her. I am a little surprised at myself.
Having said that...nothing was said at the pick up, so its me and my son and every park in the area all weekend! 
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posted: 06/23/12 at 2:39 PM
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Your heart raise for all kinds of reasons. Keep your toy on you and go drive in traffic and lets see how many times that thing beeps.
Don't expect yourself to be over her and un-inlove this soon after a break up. You are lying to yourself. Of course you still have feelings for her, doesn't mean you should be with her. You have to understand that love is like any other kind of feelings like frustration, envy, anger, joy...it passes if you stop feeding it.
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posted: 06/23/12 at 10:44 PM
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The thing I guess is, I want something more out of a relationship other than break up/make up syndrome for the rest of my life. I want happiness and laughter and love. And I am willing to wait for it.
She, she dumps me, goes on a dating site within days and whamo! She finds another man. I refuse to do that, go on a dating site, but she is finding instant gratification and may just be happy with that.
I find that incredibly frustrating and insulting to me as well. *sigh*
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