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Have you ever lied about how many?  posted: 06/10/12 at 7:55 PM
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I was just wondering how many people have ever lied about how many men/women they have had sex with..
With my ex bf i told him at first how many, he was a virgin and i wasnt... Then he started to get awkward with me and he told me that it bothered him, the thought of me being in bed with someone else. This was after we already had sex so, after time went by i thought it would pass but, it didnt and, i told him i lied because i thought thats what he wanted to hear and he believed me that i was a virgin when i first slept with him..ooops... So pretty much our 7 year relationship began with a lie but hey, dont judge me i was 16...lol..
With my fiance i once asked him how many people hed been with, not that it really mattered until he said hes not positive but around 20! That was a shock but, the sex was so great that within 10 minutes of asking him and us hooking up, i got over it and never thought of it as a problem again but more as experience... I never lied to him about my past or anything about me sooo much better start..lol...
Soooo, how many of you have lied about the amoutn of sexual partners you have had? Why did you lie?
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posted: 06/10/12 at 8:21 PM
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I've never lied. Once I had a guy get angry at me because he believed I was a virgin, and he found out that I wasn't. I pointed out that he never asked me.
I believe in trust, honesty, and loyalty in a relationship. If you can't be open with the person you're with, then it's probably going to be a very long battle to survive.
My current SO asked me shortly after we met how many, and I told him. I've told him about all my ex's, and he told me about his. After a while you kind of have to be open to it. When you're in your 20's+ you can't assume much.
I don't think I can ever lie about my past...I've always been very open about my experiences. However, I can understand why you would lie at that age.
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posted: 06/10/12 at 10:35 PM
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Nope. I have never lied. If a guy got angry, well....I'd tell him he could go fvck himself.
But I don't go out with such people in the first place. If someone judges you on how much sex you've had, instead of your kindness, empathy, intelligence, and sense of humor, then he's absolutely not worth your time.
Don't put up with slut-shaming from ANYONE.
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posted: 06/11/12 at 9:17 AM
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No, I never lied about how many partners I had..I've told my hubby about my past relationships so he knows I'm not a virgin and I know he's a virgin when we were dating.
We are very open and honest with each other, my past relationships doesn't bothers him and he told me truthfully that he doesn't care about the past either, since the day we got married, his love and actions have proven his words.
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posted: 06/11/12 at 1:40 PM
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Nope. Lying about something like this is a surefire way to get yourself in hot water later on if the truth comes out.
One of my friends recently lied to his then fiance about his sexual history. They are married now. He felt that if she knew the truth she would think less of him. I wonder what will happen if she ever finds out.
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posted: 06/11/12 at 3:49 PM
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Nope! No need to. It was basically full disclosure without a ton of detail because it just wasn't necessary. But after that conversation, we basically agreed to never bring it up again because.. well, who wants to be reminded of that? haha.
Now sometimes when we're talking and I'm like "well before me..." and he just says "wait, there was anyone before you?" Obviously we know that's not true, but still, it's cute. 
And with an attitude like that, what's there to be jealous of?
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posted: 06/11/12 at 5:49 PM
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When I was a young woman it was important. Somehow I was putting more value on someone that had less partners. At my age I don't care anymore.
I don't ever ask that question anymore or answer it.
Last time I asked that question the man answered me he had been with hundreds of women. It did not change a thing on how I felt about him.
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posted: 06/11/12 at 6:08 PM
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The funny thing is things really do come back to bite you in the booty. Right after i told him the "truth" as in lied and told him i lied the first time. We went to my friend sleepover birthday party.. My friends knew about my sexual past i mean come on at 15,16 us girls tell eachother everything. I never told them that i lied to him and we were playing this "truth or dare" game that was a board game with pre set cards. The truth card i happened to get was how many sexual partners have you had! It was horrible.. Ofcourse i said just 1 but my friend was like, umm, wtf is going on..lol. Shes like suzy its called truth, i was like umm, i am telling the truth.. It was horrible!
I did it to make him happy. I felt really bad about it our whole relationship. At one point, i actually forgot how many people id been with since i was living a lie.. Oh man, i'll never make that mistake again. I pretty much started to believe that he was the only person id ever slept with.
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posted: 06/11/12 at 6:17 PM
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| I've never lied about it... but then the numbers thing is tricky for me anyway. I've been asked a couple of times, and my standard reply tends to be - well, it depends, what constitutes a sexual partner and are we including non-consentual sexual encounters? Because my number can vary quite a bit each way.
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posted: 06/18/12 at 9:27 PM
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| I wouldn't lie about it, but that doesn't mean I'd give that info away. It's no one's business, and I'd laugh it off without giving actual numbers, or even a range.
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