|
|
|
posted: 06/03/12 at 3:14 PM
|
|
|
I can't say for sure, but overall I'd say yes it may make it harder to get over this person. Depending on the person you are, if they stick around (or don't) it might make it even harder for you.
Though I hope you aren't considering an abortion only because of that, my friend was married, her husband left her while she was pregnant (6 months so that obviously wasn't an option) and she says her son (who is now 8) is the best thing that happened to her. And yes, her ex is still around, but only to see his son. He's now remarried.
----------
click to: respond to this topic
|
|
| Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
posted: 06/05/12 at 7:31 PM
|
|
|
| Hi there~Well, it sounds like you're in a tough situation. But, I agree with bannarabbyt1 about not making any hasty decision about this pregnancy based on your feelings about your ex right now. I think it can be tough to work through the emotions you described regardless of your baby. Also, I'd advise getting a little outside help in making this decision. Even if you don't want to raise this child, there's always the option of adoption. And, I think a Pregnancy Resource Center can help you with this decision. So, I'd encourage you to look into that. In fact, I've heard of an organization called OptionLine during my time at Focus on the Family that lets you locate PRCs in your area (1/800-712-HELP). So, just FYI. Well, hang in there and make sure you surround yourself with lots of support during this time. Praying for you!
click to: respond to this topic
|
|
| Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
posted: 06/08/12 at 1:35 PM
|
|
|
Planned Parenthood (1-800-230-PLAN) is also a great resource with caring, sympathetic caregivers who can help you identify all your options, including health care during pregnancy, parenting, adoption, and abortion if that's right for you. I agree with bana that merely being reminded of your ex shouldn't be the sole reason to make decisions about the pregnancy. Honestly, you're going to think of him anyway. Right now you need to focus on yourself, your health, and how to build resources and a support system for whatever path you choose.
FYI Focus on the Family is a right-wing religious group with a specific agenda. You deserve bias-free support that is focused on you, not someone else's prescribed morality. PP fundamentally respects that the decision is yours and yours alone, and has information, care and resources for every option.
click to: respond to this topic
|
|
| Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
posted: 06/08/12 at 7:17 PM
|
|
|
I can't say for sure how it will feel. But, I can tell you that your child will be their very own person. When the baby is just born, there will be many thoughts of his/her dad. But, as they grow they are who they are and are different from their parents.
Once kids are one and they growing into toddlers, walking, talking... They are so amazingly adorable that there isn't much about them that can bring you down. Sometimes, the business of having a toddler can be heavy, but the little person themselves is a bundle of contagious happiness  I don't think it will matter who they look like, you will be getting to know a new person that is %100 genuinely themselves. Toddlers are great, your child will bring you joy no matter what.
----------
Love is not an emotion, it's a decision.
click to: respond to this topic
|
|
| Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
|
|
|
|
|
| |
|
