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If your partner wanted a 3-some? posted: 05/11/12 at 12:55 AM
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I'm wondering how everyone feels about their guy/girl asking for a threesome.
What if they wanted it to be with the same gender as yourself?
How would you feel about them wanting the opposite sex (not the same gender as you) for a 3-some?
What would your limits or boundries be if you agreed to one?
Sidenote: I'm not in this situation.
For those who are single....how would you handle this situation if you were in it?
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posted: 05/11/12 at 2:44 AM
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I'd like to do a threesome with my bf and another guy. We've talked about it a lot, but we haven't even really tried to find someone. I think it's mostly that we're quite happy with how things are, and the threesome idea is more something fun to think about. In reality, it's a royal pain in the ass to find the right person. We'd have to sort through the email responses, pick out the ones that looked good, go out on "dates" with the guy, and then chose someone we both thought was attractive and whom we both got along well with. And of course, he'd have to be attracted to both of us. That kind of vetting process takes ages!
When I was really into swinging, the vetting process was fun and exciting. Now however, I just see it as a pain in the ass.
If a hot bi guy sort of falls into our laps, I'd go for it. Otherwise, I don't think it's gonna happen.
As for him wanting a threesome with another woman, the process of finding someone is even harder. There's a reason they call those girls "unicorns".
Then there's the problem that I don't particularly like sharing a girl with a guy.  If I'm lucky enough to find a cute girls who's into me....well, I want her all to myself. I honestly find it frustrating because guys tend to try and lead, but ummm...dude, I know what I'm doing, and I am quite sure I can do it better than you! LOL. I wanna be able to enjoy the girl energy, and having a guy there spoils it for me.
That said, if he really, really wanted to experience it, I'd do it for him 'cause he's a good guy and I want him to be happy, and to that end I'd do my best to help him fulfill his fantasy.
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posted: 05/11/12 at 4:13 PM
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For us??
Not likely it would EVER happen. We've both voiced how we feel and it's purely exclusivity. Yes I'm certain.
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posted: 05/12/12 at 10:25 AM
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My boyfriend and I have talked about having a 3-some (of sorts) with another woman. I'm attracted to women and curious about exploring that, and he would be happy for me to do that as long as he could be involved in some way. I don't know if it'll ever happen, but it is a nice fantasy for the both of us.
Having a 3-some with another man has never and will never be an option. He's totally straight, and the thought of another man touching me makes me feel physically sick, so that wouldn't work in the slightest. To be honest, I would be pretty offended and sickened if he even suggested bringing another man into the bedroom.
Limits and boundaries? Safe sex practised at all times. No anal play of any kind.
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posted: 05/29/12 at 11:26 PM
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| I'd say giddyap. My wife has no interest in women, so for us it would have to be an MMF. Finding someone, as blongrrl described, does seem like a pain in the ass, and as such we won't end up actually doing it unless it falls into our lap.
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posted: 06/02/12 at 2:03 AM
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My partner and I have talked about it, and we're both interested in having another girl join us, but like blondgrrl said.... very hard to find!!! I don't know if it will ever actually happen. It's fun to fantasise and talk about though. AT first I worried that I might get jealous or insecure about it, but I think I'm past that and secure enough for it to just be fun (I hope)
Neither of us are really all that interested in having a guy join us. Well, my partner is against it because he is not sexually attracted to men, and he also doesn't want to see me with another man (which I think is a total double-standard - if I'm going to see him with another woman, it's only fair. His retort is that I'm actually into other girls, he's not into guys...Hmm.) I'm undecided, but it's not really something that I fantasise about often (girls on the other hand....), and considering my partner's feelings, I don't see it ever happening.
If I was single, or had a bi partner? I'd probably go for it!
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posted: 06/02/12 at 6:45 AM
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| Nooooo way! I don't want to share him, and he doesn't want to share me. I'm not into girls (been there, no thank you), he's not into guys... and we love just being with each other. I could never see myself suggesting that, and I can't ever see him suggesting it, either. We've talked about it before and that's just one thing we feel no need to try. He's all I want.
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