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My girl has never had an orgasm in her life posted: 04/05/12 at 10:57 AM
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| My girlfriend is just simply amazing. Shes beautiful, talented and smart. She has never touched herself in her life she just doesnt like too. When we have sex she loves it. But how can i give her an orgasm. Does she need to just let go of everything and let it happen?? I guess she doesnt know her body well enough?
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posted: 04/05/12 at 4:30 PM
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If she's never touched herself "but doesn't like to," it's likely because she's been shamed into that way of thinking. So massive walls to deal with in that area.
Here's the crux of the issue. If a woman has no clue how to please herself, then how in the world can she expect her man to know how to please her? Unfortunately, women are not as easy to please as men. With men it's very simple. With women you have ones that can only orgasm from clitoral stimulation, others who can have an orgasm from penetration, or G-spot stimulation, and more I am sure. There's no way to know what works for her unless she communicates that to you. But that's gonna be hard if she's never tried any of it out before. The ball is in her court, don't feel like it's your responsibility to figure this out for her. If she is unwilling to learn about how her own body works, then she must have decided long ago that having an orgasm wasn't very important to her. Unfortunately for you that means you don't get to experience the satisfaction of bringing her that joy.
If I were in this situation I would begin to initiate a very gradual and gentle process of getting her to question why she thinks the way she does towards her own sexual health. Somebody, somewhere has poisoned her mind.
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posted: 04/05/12 at 4:53 PM
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I was a G-Spot virgin till Robert tried this with me. (and I was 50) had no clue to what he was doing but OMG! Embarrassing as hell because I had this urge to pee. He explained that I needed to just let go as it was not what I thought. And I did... and OMG I actually squirted my CUM and it was the best "O" I ever had!
Just mentioning this as it will be great however quite embarrassing as she wont know what to expect.
So she's never touched herself. This is not so rare as one may believe. I never masturbated. NOPE I never did. So once I saw it in a porn movie... that I found to be more instructional...I discovered some of the BEST sex ever! This female was alone and it was focusing on her stroking her clitoris. She moved her finger across staying in the same direction. NOT back and forth.
WOW I never knew this. Your friend needs to know what to expect to receive this pleasure.
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posted: 04/05/12 at 9:14 PM
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| James, it might be hard to help her cum if she is ashamed of touching herself. It's by doing just that that many women learn how to move and be touched in order to orgasm. As with almost everything in life, getting good at something requires practice, and getting good at orgasms means she likely has to practice on her own. Once she learns to cum that way, she can apply what she's learned to intercourse.
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"My mother used to tell me, 'In this world, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant.' Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant." Ellwood P. Dowd in HARVEY
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posted: 04/07/12 at 3:06 PM
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I really hate these threads. I keep seeing myself as the "girl who can't orgasm" and I can see how all the advice people give is well meant and potentially could help...
and then I remember that when my ex's would try to 'teach' me to orgasm, it just made me feel guilty for not being able to O. And the guilt of failing drove me away from sex entirely.
I'm not saying that people are giving bad advice (far from it) but be very careful in how you relay that advice to your GF, because its very easy to come across wrong.
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