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posted: 03/14/12 at 6:45 PM
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Originally posted by crimethink
Asexual is not a personality. It's a sexual orientation, or at least something like that, which means some people are wired like that and can't be treated or changed. But from your posts we can't say your husband is asexual or not. It's up to him to decide.
I read about asexual and his personality traits are quite similar. Noe the challenge is how to get him out of this mindblock or personality or orientation. I am thinking of taking someone"s help, who can talk with him and try to change his orientation.
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posted: 03/15/12 at 6:29 AM
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my advice is try sex therapy it cant really hurt to at least try and see what happens. he sounds like he has issues with the thought of sex.
most likely he dont want to ejaculate during intercourse cause he finds it un-hygienic, maybe the thought just bothers him, or maybe something happened in his past that makes him shy away from it. many other reasons can cause it. i wish you luck
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posted: 03/17/12 at 2:45 PM
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Originally posted by Bellcross
my advice is try sex therapy it cant really hurt to at least try and see what happens. he sounds like he has issues with the thought of sex.
most likely he dont want to ejaculate during intercourse cause he finds it un-hygienic, maybe the thought just bothers him, or maybe something happened in his past that makes him shy away from it. many other reasons can cause it. i wish you luck
I think this most accurately describe his behaviour. He hates sex cause f hygene issues and also he says he is just lazy and dnt like to go down and inside.
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posted: 04/01/12 at 1:35 PM
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Today i forced sex on him. We had intercourse for about 15 minutes, he did
Nt ejaculate even after 15 minutes.
I also noticed his penis become small when he puts inside my vagina but the moent he takes them out within few seconds they are erected and become very long. But while penetration their size is reduced. He also has very wide penis.
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posted: 04/05/12 at 8:50 AM
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Any reply please?
QUOTE]Originally posted by couple99
Today i forced sex on him. We had intercourse for about 15 minutes, he did
Nt ejaculate even after 15 minutes.
I also noticed his penis become small when he puts inside my vagina but the moent he takes them out within few seconds they are erected and become very long. But while penetration their size is reduced. He also has very wide penis. [/QUOTE]
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posted: 04/05/12 at 9:19 PM
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| It seems he is not ready for sex, and may never feel comfortable with it. If he wants to get good at controlling his erection and his performance, he probably has to spent time on his own learning how through masturbation. It's difficult to have successful sex when the only time you're sexual is the occasional pressure-packed intercourse experience. That'll turn it into a frightened turtle almost every time.-
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"My mother used to tell me, 'In this world, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant.' Well, for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant." Ellwood P. Dowd in HARVEY
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posted: 04/06/12 at 5:36 PM
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I noticed you keep saying "how do I change him/fix him". You can't. If you're in this marriage and immediately wondering how you can change your husband, then you need to seriously evaluate what this marriage needs to be for YOU. If you need sex, if you want children and want a healthy, intimate relationship beyond petting and kissing, you need to talk to him. You need to tell him what you need, and if he isn't willing to meet you half way, then you should consider moving on. So many people are afraid of divorce, but you'll soon grow miserable and resent him if you don't get what you need. He needs to know that, clearly, and calmly.
There's probably no way you can ever "fix this" or make him more sexual. There's no telling why he is the way he is, that's what counseling is for. Suggest going to see someone, either by himself, or with you. If he won't even take that small step for the marriage (which is a step that doesn't involve hygiene) then frankly, he isn't 100% in this marriage.
It sounds to me that he's a germaphobe and it's affecting his sexuality. He never told you about this behavior with semen and oral before marraige? Love is strong, but, without fulfilling your sexual needs it can dwindle. There's not much more that can be said on here that can help.
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