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posted: 03/07/11 at 11:37 PM
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So guys tell you that "small breasts are unfeminine", you "look like a guy", and "NO man would EVER prefer small breasts over big ones"???
I have VERY SMALL breasts and no one has ever said any of that to me! I don't want to say anything impolite about the guys you talked to, if they're your friends... but those statements are pretty rude and definitely not true.
My boyfriend LOVES LOVES LOVES my breasts, I mean he just can't keep his hands and mouth off of them, and I'm a 34A.
Also, did you read the post where that guy was singing the praises of his wife's little boobs? If there's one guy like that... or two counting my bf lol... you know there are more!
Of course it's not easy to love your body and become more confident, but it IS the true answer. If you get implants, you will not be prettier, you will be an insecure woman who happens to have big ol' plastic boobs. Appreciate your lovely small breasts, and you will eventually find a man who likes them even more than you do... trust me.
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posted: 03/14/11 at 2:55 AM
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Small breasts are the best. I like B cups or smaller better than C cups or bigger. I honestly cannot stand fake boobs.
Confidence is everything. See if you can fake confidence in a few interludes with men....that stuff is contagious. You might find that faking it for a bit can lead to actually feeling more confident about yourself because...well... there is nothing wrong with you. You are not inadequate because of your boobs. Do your best to learn to love YOU!....others will follow.
I know that probably wasn't the answer you were looking for, but it pains me when women that aren't a C cup or better waste one minute of their lives worrying about being unattractive.
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posted: 03/21/11 at 6:54 PM
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hey northernpegasus,
I definitely have my own body-image issues and I understand where you're coming from. That said, I don't think surgery is the answer for you. There are simply far too many risks. Countless women go under the knife and come out of surgery feeling let down and a few grand poorer. Frequently surgeons botch the procedure and the result is not something that would improve your self-esteem. Even if the surgery is successful, there will be scarring and I've never met a woman who with a scar who didn't feel insecure about it. Also, you may think you want it now, but afterwards you may feel uncomfortable with having some foreign synthetic material occupying space in your body.
I don't speak for all men and I know there's a cultural thing that's causing you to feel too small, but for my part, I've never thought twice about a girl's cup-size. Of course I was fascinated by them when I was a teen, but that's just a teenage boy thing. Since then I've pretty much covered the gamut and I found that it has no bearing on how I feel about a person or the enjoyment of sex. I was with only one girl who was very well endowed and I won't put down endowed women but I will say it didn't make me feel like I was missing out with smaller women in the slightest. Besides, there are PLENTY of men out there who are far more interested in other parts of a woman's anatomy (hips and bottom are where my mouth spends most of its time during foreplay).
It'd be ridiculous for me to simply say "Stop being insecure. Feel better about yourself! Presto chango!" But the good thing about small breasts is that they're right there for everyone to see. It acts sort of like a filter. Guys who would judge you for that, who think they're too good for a woman with a small chest, are going to be more in love with themselves anyway. They just use women as mirrors to reflect how awesome they are. Be glad that your breasts may keep these guys from poisoning your love life. Get out there and have some quality time with a man who loves your body because it's yours, not based on how it measures up to some ridiculous male-fantasy standard. Pretty soon you'll feel sorry for the women who still have to get their self-worth from self-worshipping assholes. It's THOSE women who really get a raw deal.
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posted: 03/22/11 at 5:33 PM
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| This is just another guys opinion, but I don't think that small breasts are unattractive. I can't say anything that will magically make you feel better about your body, but you should know that no matter what, someone will find you attractive physically. There are probably more guys, or rather guys you'd want to have a relationship with, that find you attractive now than if you got implants
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posted: 03/23/11 at 5:29 AM
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| We can't all be beautiful and we can't all be ugly. Some ppl are beautiful, some are ugly. Some ppl are beautiful on the outside, some inside. Some of us are blessed with the winning combo and some lack both a lot. Most ppl I imagine have a some nice qualities in both areas. So as long as you fall into the ave., which is most of us, feel blessed. Being ave. can b really rewarding.
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posted: 06/04/12 at 5:32 PM
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It seems that this topic has been abandoned for a while, but when I read all of this, I just felt that I had to leave a message (now I kinda fear that noone will ever read it, but even then, I just need to do this).
Why I'm so concerned: I'm in the exact same situation as the insecure girl that started this topic. And by that I mean: I really feel like I miss something important, something that makes you - well, a woman. I'm 21, I have cup 75a and I have been bothered about this for years and years. And I too don't want to be with a guy who would say "I don't mind about your small breasts", because it makes it sound like "he just will have to live with it, but oh well, he loves you enough to handle it". It's nice to know that I'm not alone with my freaky thoughts.
BUT: I don't know where you all live, but I live in Europe (Belgium) and the big-sized thing seems to be found much less attractive here. The average guy over here likes size b, size c maybe. More is almost exceptional. Sure, big boobs are the object of jokes and stuff, but that's also because it's a cliché that men like big breasts. We women also like to make jokes about 'how hot a guy with a sixpack is'. I do too. And you know what: I don't like sixpacks. I really don't. I like muscled shoulders and back, or sometimes muscled legs, that's my thing. And still the media spread the message that all girls and women adore sixpacks. Anyway, that's not what I really wanted to say: my point was that, yes, I too am looking for a man who really wants to be with small-breasted girls. And I know they exist, because I've been with several guys who couldn't resist my breasts. And yes, I did believe them, because sometimes when I was getting dressed (for example) I could see that those guys were trying to have a peek. And they really really really couldn't get their hands of of them during sex or foreplay. It kinda amazed me, but that's how it was. I once told one of my boyfriends I was going to get implants (which I didn't mean, I was just being my insecure self), and he got SO mad - and by mad I mean really mad - that he even told me he would never forgive me if I ever did such a thing. So here's an example of the other side; a guy who refuses to be with someone that wants to make her small breasts bigger.
I'm kind of thin, but I have a nice butt and feminine hips. Large breasts would be disproportionate on my body. Would I have wanted slightly bigger natural breasts? Yes. Would I want implants? NO. Because I know it wouldn't take away the idea behind it. If I would get a cup c, for example, and then find a boyfriend, I would always be wondering if I would've been good enough for him the way I was made. So it wouldn't take away a deeper problem that will always be there - insecurity, the fear of being disapproved of, the fear of showing who you really are. That's why I'm having therapy sessions. Oh, and by the way, if you'd like a professional opinion: my therapist (a very handsome man, by the way) told me that it is a myth that men are biologically more attracted to large-breasted women. Hear me? The man knows what he's talking about. And even if he doesn't, hell, his opinion is worth more to me than anyone else's. It's a myth that has gained popularity because of the media. The obsession with boobs could be explained by the fact that 'hidden' body parts are more arousing. Women are very private about their breasts and boys have to wait many years before they actually get to see a pair and maybe touch them (not counting internet pornography or breastfeeding when they were babies). It's the 'mystique' thing that is arousing. For example, maybe 200 years ago (I don't know exactly when it was) women's ankles were thought to be very arousing to men. The ankles were hidden around that time, and men - simple beings as they are - tend to be very interested in things they aren't allowed to see. But it was all about ankles! Which sounds hilarious now...
Moral of the story? Well, I don't really have any strong messages, besides *don’t enlarge your breasts for other people, just don’t*, because chances are you're not going to be happier afterwards, just like it would be for me when I would have surgery. I'm happy I found that out before I would have really considered taking breast implants. My advice to you is: try to look self confident, and try to find a guy who loves the little lumps, if it matters that much to you (which I totally understand because I think the same way). Believe me: there are lots of guys who like small breasts, and there are lots of guys that just like all kinds of breasts. You should be aware of the fact that, if a guy really needed bigger breasts, he wouldn't be with you in the first place, because if you're not wearing bra pads, he will be able to estimate your cup size even if you're wearing clothes. Guys mostly weren't surprised about my small breasts. Hellow, I'm a tiny woman! It's kinda obvious.
Oh and by the way, if you need a cheer-up, how about this:
http://www.listaholic.com/75-celebrities-with-small-boobs-and-flat-chests-that-we-love.html
Or this!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2IB_1GuC7k
I'm guessing not, but if someone wants to continue the conversation on this topic, please do.
With kind regards :-)
Sophie
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posted: 06/04/12 at 8:44 PM
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Sophie, please post your age in your profile. The Pillow Talk forums are restricted to people 18 or over, and we need your verification that you are old enough to participate. Thanks.
Guys, for the most part, love breasts of any size. I love small, natural breasts and strongly dislike anything fake.
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posted: 06/06/12 at 4:48 PM
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| Honestly, I've always felt my A-cup breasts for too small and been self-conscious about them my entire adulthood. I've considered breast implants but you also have to think the body fat in you. If you're skinny the fake ones will look horrible...eg. Victoria Beckham. My aunt got them done and she flaunts them too much and at times they look fake while other times they look more natural. I've figured I've got to live with what I've got but my insecurity will always be there though.
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posted: 06/06/12 at 6:53 PM
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Thanks for reacting, all of you. I didn't know this forum was 18+, I'm new to this site. But anyway! Breast implants. It came as quite a shock to me when I found out my mother has implants. I found out only a few months ago and I was really pissed as she was hiding it for me all these years. All this time I had just thought she was blessed with a large cup. She did it after she had 3 children, and apparently it was necessary because she used to have an A-cup and there was nothing left there after breastfeeding. The implants worked fine for her. BUT, if you consider breast implants, 1. be aware of all the possible negative effects (physically and emotionally) and 2. maybe postpone it untill you are no longer planning on having a new baby. Because I also heard stories about women that didn't breastfeed and that had larger breasts after their pregnancy (breasts that would stay the same way even after losing weight etc. etc.). Just wait and see what a pregnancy does for you. Maybe you'll have allthemore reason to have implants after that, or maybe you'll be more secure about yourself then and won't have the urge to get surgery anymore.
If I'm not expressing myself correctly, please forgive me, as I said before: I don't live in an English-speaking country ^^
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