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I hate my small breasts. Implants? posted: 02/25/11 at 7:11 PM
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I've talked to many guys about this issue and it seems they all agree that bigger is better. I've heard things like:
- No guy prefers small breasts over big ones.
- Maybe only a bi guy would like small breasts better (nothing against bisexuality... I just think it's offensive that they imply that only a guy who likes guys would be turned on by smaller breasts because that would mean my chest resembles a guy's... which it doesn't... I'm not flat).
- No guy can be more turned on by small breasts than by big ones, that's unrealistic.
- Real women have curves, and real men like real women (right... just 'cause I have small breasts doesn't mean I'm curveless... I guess my small waist and wide hips are square or something).
- Small is OK, but big is better because you can t** f***, which is great and most guys like.
- There's more to hold with big breasts.
- More than a handful is a waste is BS.
- If you have small breasts you BETTER have a gorgeous face + above average body + great personality.
- A guy will look past that flaw and will love you for you, not because of your body.
And a long list of etc... I also live in a country in which the beauty ideal is really over the top for women (big breasts, big butt... and usually blonde and blue eyed, which I'm not), women are highly sexualized in the media, and it's OK for men to be just average and be on TV but not for women. There're are also a lot of pairings of average or ugly man and hot women, but you never see hot man/average woman.
It seems men are obsessed with big breasts. I feel awful about mine. The problem is men also seem to hate fake breasts (or so they say... or else they wouldn't happily watch porn or go to strip clubs if they hated silicone so much).
I hate my body, I don't know what to do, I just don't feel attractive to men. I just feel like a consolation prize for a guy with low self confidence who doesn't think he can do better... I know some guys might love me for my personality and that's great, but I've had guys love me and still think I'd look better with big breasts or that big breasts are more of a turn on and it just sickens me. I want a guy who will love me for me but who will also feel more turned on by my small A cup breasts than a pair of DDs, but I guess like those other guys told me, it's unrealistic to think that will ever happen, so even if I date the ugliest man alive, I will still have to accept that he'll think my breasts are sub par and won't be more turned on by them than if they were big.
I'm sorry, I'm just ranting... should I just take the plunge and get implants? Are implants that bad? I know I shouldn't care so much about men's opinions, but I'm a woman... of course I want to feel sexy, hot and desired! It's so unfair because I've never been a shallow woman myself, but it seems a lot of guys have been shallow to me especially about my small breasts, like it's OK to just make fun of them, or that it's expected that I'm OK with put downs because apparently small breasts are bad!
I know there are bigger problems in life, and that I should be grateful that I'm healthy, but I've noticed that guys my age (I'm 22 BTW), care a lot about looks, like I said, even the ugliest guys put down women like me sometimes because of things we didn't choose...
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posted: 02/25/11 at 7:19 PM
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If it was your ONLY problem, I'd say go for it.
As it is, I think you should work out the rest of it before you get surgery.
Also - what is the sensitivity of your breasts? Yeah, cleavage is nice, but at what cost?
I went through a this a few years ago... and came to accept Bai Ling as my personal hero rather than go through with surgery. Once I got it into my head that small was sexy - I found myself dating guys who loved smaller breasts (they found DD's overwhelming) - or at least, they loved that I loved my breasts.
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posted: 02/25/11 at 8:03 PM
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If there is another way for you to feel more confident about your body, maybe by hitting the gym or getting counseling, I'd say try that first.
Fake boobs can be nice in porn, or completely horrible, depending on my mood.
Will I want to have any sort of relationship with a porn star? Hell no, it's a porn star!
Do I find myself attracted to smaller girls? Yes.
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posted: 02/25/11 at 9:51 PM
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| I'm not saying that men want a relationship with an actual porn star, but with a woman with a porn star's physique (not even her face or hair, which are often ridiculously overdone)... but a thin woman with huge breasts. That's what I mean... and I think most men wouldn't turn down a relationship with such a woman... although many insecure males say "I wouldn't want to have a girlfriend like that, because every man would be always checking her out and flirting with her due to her hotness" (that's actually what my ex told me once when I asked him if he'd like me to look like a porn star... it wasn't like "No, I don't think that look is that attractive" it was more like "No, you'd be too hot and I'd constantly be jealous!").
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posted: 02/25/11 at 10:02 PM
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The notion that all men want women with big boobs is ridiculous. My boyfriend absolutely adores my boobs (sometimes I think he's in love with them :P) and I've never considered myself to have big boobs. Heck, I got a ton of (mostly unwanted) attention at my former workplace and I know there were many women with bigger boobs than me! (I am a 34B).
I'm almost tempted to tell you to find other guys to hang out with, but I know that might not be easy, specially as the culture appears to be different. If you want the operation for YOU and not for the guys, then go for it, I guess. However, do bear in mind the possibility that, as they grow up, those same guys will come to value personality over physical type, or realize that they actually prefer another body shape that the stereotypical one.
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posted: 02/25/11 at 10:02 PM
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Wow, I think you really need to re-think the guys you are hanging out with.
I have never ever been critisized for my size and I'm an A.
Men should be so lucky to get you naked, much less start talking crap about your breasts.
And it's complete BS that men are only interested in breasts- that is a very immature attitude to have and since you are 22, I'm guessing these guys are in that age range too. Just wait until they are over that shallow period- once they hit later 20s, they stop being stupid and start actually appreciating you for who you are. Yes, physical attraction is important, but that doesn't equate to big breasts.
Do not ever make such alterations to your body because you feel like it would give you an advantage with guys. That's just ridiculous.
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posted: 02/25/11 at 10:34 PM
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Here's another MPOV. I read the original criteria list and ALL of it sounds like something out of a highschool locker room. I participate in other online forums and the vast majority of men do not like fake ti-s. We prefer the natural look. Fake ones do nothing for me.
As for your present size, I like small ones, big ones, medium size ones. I like 'em all!
I also think you are wrong about men on all the other points you mention. It sounds like you have low self-esteem and think that physical alterations will help. They won't. We like women exactly as they are. Don't change things, don't ruin your body with tattoos and boob jobs. Be natural. And look for the kind of man who will accept you as you are.
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posted: 02/26/11 at 12:28 AM
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| If you decide to get them, make sure its for you. If you want them to feel better about yourself there is nothing wrong with that. You don't have to go for the biggest possible. You can get smaller implants and go up to a B/small C. It all depends on what you want. Again, if you want them for you, then go for it.
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posted: 02/26/11 at 12:52 AM
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"No guy prefers small breasts over big ones."
LIE!
I have ALWAYS preferred small breasts over large ones. I absolutely adore small breasts small enough that that have a smooth sexy curve beneath them rather than a fold or crease. I especially LOVE slim Asian bodies with high hips, small breasts and large nipples. Not little girl tittts but a lovely mature womans elegant petite breasts.
My wife is a tiny woman, and her breast size is medium size at 34B, each breast fits perfectly in my hands and I hold them often. I suck, fondle and squeeze them gently, I lay my face on them and relish their softness. One of my favorite things is to have her kneel over me and feed me her precious little breasts. I can't keep my hands or mouth off of them. Sometimes when blowing me she will rub her nipples on my c0ck which just about makes me shoot my load right then and their. Sometimes she lets me cum on them. Did I mention the fact THAT I LOVE SMALL BREASTS?
You do what you want to make your body self image fulfill you, but there ARE guys like me.
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