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Would You Ever Use a Dating Site?  posted: 02/08/11 at 12:49 AM
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Would you ever use a dating site?
I am a 22 yr old college student. I feel like I shouldn't have to resort to using a dating site but quite honestly...my dating life is non-existent. It has been for years. I haven't had a real boyfriend in about 7 years and I really am starting to miss that kind of companionship. I feel like the hardest part is just meeting someone worth dating.
I'm a little worried I might run into someone I know on a dating site. I wouldn't want anyone I know to know I used one. I also worry about what kinds of people use them. I feel like most 22 yr olds don't need a dating site to meet people and the ones that too might be a bit off or creepy. I told myself I'd never use one unless I was 30 and still single...but here I am considering it.
What do you think?
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posted: 02/08/11 at 12:54 AM
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I've been using dating sites, on and off, since I was about 20. Met my last ex and my boyfriend through online dating sites.
You do have to watch out though, because there are a lot of creepy and dishonest people on the free sites. I think somewhere around 90% of the guys I talked to were only interested in sexual activity.
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posted: 02/08/11 at 1:57 AM
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Ive used them frequently and had great luck with them...
Actually I ran into some one I knew at tech school on an online dating site. It was kind of strange at first, but it was a guy that would flirt with me at PT. He asked me out and it was fun for a while. Nice guy and still a friend, just didnt feel it with him though.
I would go for a paid site like match. I always had great luck with match because of the diversity of people and searching options. yes you will meet some sleezeballs and morons. I hope you can tell who are interesting and sincere and who are just in it to score some with chicks. Get to know them a bit online, then on the phone, then meet up if you want to. That is how I usually did it...a few email exchanges to gauge the person in mind. Anyone that wanted to skip the process claiming that they dont want to be email pals gets booted to the curb. Online dating is about sticking to your guns on how you want to proceed because you got a few creeps out there for sure that will try to push you to go their speed. You dont need those types...
I though...never went out on a date I didnt considered fun and enjoyable. Be cautious, but not too cautious. Lots of great people online.
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posted: 02/08/11 at 2:21 AM
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If you live in a metropolitan area, I recommend a dating site. There are a lot of people like you who are interested in dating/meeting new people. As long as you're mindful that there are bad apples online as there are offline, you'll be okay.
Test the waters with a free site like OKCUPID.
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posted: 02/08/11 at 3:07 AM
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| Nothing wrong with online dating. They say that online dating results in 3 out of 5 marriages. I have been using online dating since I was 19 yrs old(I'm now 28) I met my fiance on eharmony and so happy I found him. Plus if you are worried you will find someone you know on there they may feel the same way about you finding them on there...so what's the problem? It's very common anymore for people to online date, no reason to be nervous or embarassed.
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posted: 02/08/11 at 3:14 AM
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I found my first boyfriend from eHarmony, when I was 27 and he was 30. We're both introverted and picky, so it's hard for us to find someone interesting in real life. I don't know how much longer it would take me to find a BF if I didn't use online dating.
Yes it will be awkward to run into someone you know on a dating site. But think about it this way: you're using it, and they're using it too, so there's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. I don't think age matters either. Dating site is just another way to meet people. It's just better for some people to find a partner from dating sites than from clubs or bars. Be careful but don't worry too much. Good luck!
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posted: 02/08/11 at 3:20 AM
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You're totally right crimethink...the chances of meeting a quality mate at a bar or club is slim to none! At least it has been in my life.
I just I'm just bit bit embarrassed with myself. I feel like someone my age should be able to meet datable guys in real life. I guess I feel like somewhat of a failure.
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posted: 02/08/11 at 4:36 AM
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Dating sites aren't the worst thing in the world and if you were to meet someone on one and began a serious relationship how would you answer the question of "how did ya'll meet?" would you be ashamed of meeting them online and make something else up or openly admit it even though you don't want anyone to know you used one?
I met my fiance on a dating site, and yes there's weirdo's and idiots and a lot of guys are just looking to score but you can easily pick these guys out usually.
All you have to do is stick to you guns like fair said and know what you want and don't want and if someone pushes you past your comfort level boot them to the curb, don't be scared to try something new though. 1 out of 5 relationships start online now, and that's actually quite a bit. Just think about it and maybe give it a shot can't knock it until you try it.
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I def think I'm going to give it a try 