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he flirts but won't ask me out Post posted: 10/27/10 at 4:02 PM

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What should i do about this guy from work that flirts with me like crazy( been going on for months) but still hasn't asked me out? At first it was "hey how you doing" or "whats up" now its "hey beautiful" and "hey sweetheart" etc. I've made it obvious i like him; told him I'm single and available.
(I could ask him out but last time I asked a guy out, I eventually ended up doing all the calling, texting, making plans. I felt like I was doing all the work. )
Anyway, there have been times where I would just speak and go on about my business without flirting back, and he would go out of his way to get my attention! It would be so much easier to let this one go if I didn't run into him all the time.

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posted: 10/27/10 at 9:19 PM

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Is this the same guy from work you exchanged phone numbers with back in April?

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posted: 10/28/10 at 12:26 AM

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Although I am not in favor of dating where you get your paycheck, I would ask him out.

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posted: 10/28/10 at 5:32 AM

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unfortunately its the same guy. He really knows how to get my hopes up just to disappoint me everytime.

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posted: 10/28/10 at 5:52 AM

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lol wow you guys really keep track of situations, and Cool breeze he most likely likes the attention or your reaction when he flirts with you, if he liekd you enough he would ask you out point blank i dont think he is the shy type if he is flirting that much, he enjoyes your reaction so stop reacting and he may try even harder at first but eventually he will stop.

you want someone who whill take initiave not play games

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posted: 10/28/10 at 6:52 AM

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It's been 6 months since you've exchanged phone numbers, you see each other on regular basis at work so if he had been interested he would have made his move by now.

I think some of the things he does, like calling you sweetheart and beautiful, you interpret as being flirting but is probably just affectionate. The parking guy at the office calls me gorgeous each morning and I never interpreted it as being flirty.

You could ask him out yourself but I think it will just be more disappointment for you. Time to move to something else dear!

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posted: 10/28/10 at 8:34 AM

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This has happened to me SOOOO many times in my life. I have no idea why guys like to flirt and not ask the girl out. A lot of guys just like the attention they get and don't want to go through with a relationship (because most guys are pigs).

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posted: 10/28/10 at 9:25 AM

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Because they are not flirts but "just being nice."

Just simply ask him out, starting with lunch, then drink after work but seriously, do not mess around with a coworker!!!

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posted: 10/28/10 at 9:35 AM

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Some guys, some people, just like to flirt. I know I do. It's fun. It's easy. It makes people smile

Asking you out is not so easy, because unlike flirting, he runs a risk of real rejection. So maybe he lacks the balls to do it. Or it could be that he has a rule against dating at work, or something else.

You've listed some reasons you have for not asking him out yourself. Perhaps he has similar reasons. Keep going like that and the two of you will never get together. So break the cycle and ask him out. "Are you ready to put your money where your mouth is, bub?" The previous experience is not this experience. It ended because he wasn't right for you, not because of the way it began.

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