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posted: 09/07/10 at 1:30 AM
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| Never rush a man to get married. If he wants to he'll propose when he's ready. Sounds to me that he's not ready to settle down yet. On that note you have to decide if you are willing to wait for him or if not being engaged is a breaking point for you. So many people want to rush marriage, many just want to rush the engagement to show off a ring. It should be a mutual want between the two of you. If it's what you want and what he doesn't you cannot force it, if you do you'll both be sorry and you'll wind up another statistic in way of divorce. Marriage is something not to be rushed, it's a lot of work to maintain and trust isn't the only key, communication is a big key and obviously he doesn't have that ability right now or more likely doesn't want to. Forcing the issue of even talking about it is making him want to run. My advice is let him go enjoy his freedom and you never know who you'll meet while he's out waiting until he's 30. You want a man that is on the same page as you in life.
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Jacob Ryan and Brandon Rider Born May 3, 2006
Isaiah James born November 22, 2010
"We are as the wings of a butterfly, bound
together with the love of God."
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posted: 10/18/10 at 1:13 AM
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Geez, you sound a bit pushy. Perhaps this is why your first marriage failed as you rushed into it - much like this new engagment sounds.
Perhaps take your time to really get to know eachother before rushing into another marriage.
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Together Since: 10 Nov 2001
Engaged: 06 Nov 2011
Married: 10 Nov 2012
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posted: 11/07/10 at 3:44 AM
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firstly, i think he may be trying to tell you something if he wants to get his own place after living together with you, and wants to move away to a different state or even overseas. that doesn't sound like he's really in a good position with you in the relationship.
second, i think you really need to relax. why is it so important to get married? it's a piece of paper, litterally. and once you're married, if he decides to move out or leave you, divorce is NOT fun and it certainly isn't quick.
Why can't you just be happy to be in love and in a relationship? why put a marriage to it? i'm assuming that if he said OK let's get married in a courthouse tomorrow, just you and me, no fancy wedding, no fancy ring... none of that, then it suddenly wouldn't be good enough for you. (I could be very wrong, and i don't mean to offend, I just see a lot of people who want to get married, but if it's presented to them in the above mentioned situation it suddenly doesn't hold the same meaning).
the WORST thing you can do is pressure him. you'll either scare him away from you, or force him into a decesion he'll regret making.
If you want to wait because you think this is right, you think you will (eventually, no matter how far away) get married, then stay with him and wether or not he proposes, be happy.
If you have a 'time limit' set in mind, stick to it, and leave if you're tired of waiting, no shame in that if marriage is something you've really had your heart set on.
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A gentleman is simply a patient wolf.
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posted: 12/31/10 at 8:16 PM
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I have to say I know exactly how you'd feel. I have never been married(engaged once years ago and was in a 5.5 yr relationship that landed with a child and never a talk of marriage) When my ex and I split we were no closer to being married than we were a year into it. So, I took 2 yrs to myself and I've learned a lot about myself. I'm 28, I have a 3 yr old child and want more children. I do not want to be with someone for a year or more and no ring (at least my engagement ring) on my finger. Many people call me pushy maybe but at this age you should be ready to settle down and KNOW what you want and who you want to spend your life with. I don't want to be in my mid to late 30's having my other children. I learned in my break that it was a big thing for me and that someone want more kids or want kids. Sometimes you can't help it when you know your deal breakers and this seems to be one of yours. I don't think it's wrong at all but it sounds like you both are at different points in your life and he's not where you are unfortunetly. You may be matched every other way but if you can't see eye to eye here one of you will resent the other(him if he gives you the ring because you are ready or you to him for NOT doing it) so maybe it's time to find someone who is PERFECT for you and also want the timeline you want. I know they exist my man knew right away my "timeline" and couldn't be happier 
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posted: 01/07/11 at 2:54 PM
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| Update: so out of the blue I ask my bf what is he going to spend his tax money on. He said a ring......... yipppeeeeeeeeee. So my birthday is the 31st of jan. I believe I will get an engagement then or Valentines day. I told him I wanted to be surprised. I am so freaking excited. Will keep you ladies posted.
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A man is only going to treat you with the respect you demand-- not deserve!
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