A collection of love, romance and relationships resources including advice, poetry, quotes, dedications, chat, horoscopes, romantic ideas, message boards, free love postcards and much more!!
What's New Today on LYC...
Monthly Romance Calendar
Forum Quick Links:   Forum Home   |   My Home Page   |   My Inbox   |   My Calendar   |   Find Members   |   FAQ   |   Terms  
Popular Forums:   LYC Chat   |   Love Advice   |   Sexually Speaking   |   Military Spouses   |   Online Romance   |   Ask A Male   |   LDR   |   Holidays  
Lovingyou.com > Pillow Talk > Sexual Health > How do Make Love to a Man with Ed? Rating: Thread Rating: 1 votes, 3.00 average.
How do Make Love to a Man with Ed? posted: 07/24/09 at 10:01 PM
dingtowngal  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 11
 Group: New Member 
 Joined: May 2009
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
Hello Everyone,

Need some tips and advice....
My hubby has never been a very strong or lasting lover. But now it is not working at all.
I have recently discovered self-pleasure and I am craving sex, but hubby is not able to make it happen. We have gone to see the doc and with hubby health issues, he is not able to take anything. Now what do we do? Need tips and advice on how to make our love life work. Any suggestions is appreciated!!
Thanks...

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 07/25/09 at 2:22 AM

Loxbox  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 880
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jan 2007
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
My boyfriend appears to have ED as well, although we haven't gone to see a doctor. Whenever he goes to see one, they say it's his weight and smoking, they don't even examine him. Even if he has a cold, they will say all his health problems are from his weight and smoking.

My suggestion to you is just make the best of it, if he is hard then enjoy the sex with him while you can. If he goes soft, try mutual masturbation. He can help you by touching you, or even giving you oral. You may not get to have sex, with him in you, but you can still enjoy pleasure with him with you. Just make him feel wanted, and don't let him think you're disappointed.

I constantly have to cheer up my boyfriend and get him out of a depressed state when he loses his erection during sex. I would feel so much more happy if he would understand that I love him regardless, and there are other ways to please me.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 08/02/09 at 12:35 AM

BleedingHart  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 3825
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jul 2006
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
I wouldn't call it bad medical advice. No question about it that good cardiovascular health is key to strong, lasting erections, and smoking and being overweight are both very detrimental to it. However, the advice he is getting may not be very thorough. The doctor should also suggest ways to help him in both of these aspects. If he wants to improve the quality of his erections, he is undoubtedly going to have make an effort to lose weight and stop smoking.

To dingtowngal,

There are many options for couples who suffer from ED. The most important thing is to be supportive, and not to put any pressure on him to get hard. That within itself may be sufficient.

Your partner has more than just his penis at his disposal: He has his fingers, hands, lips, and a tongue as well. All if which can be incorporated into satisfying sex play for you. If you desire intercourse, you can utilize dildos and other toys designed to penetrate. There are even phallic attachments that he can use that simulate an actual erection.

Just like with Loch, I cannot stress enough how important it is that your hubby strive for a healthy body. He needs to eat a healthy balanced diet, and exercise to promote good cardiovascular health. Physical conditions eventually lead to psychological issues as well such as lack of confidence. It is important that he remain positive.

Eventually, you'll proabably desire that he have an orgasm. But try to take things one step at a time. Once the two of you can conquer the ED, then he can start trying to achieve an orgasm as a firm erection is usually required for this to happen. Once again, be supportive and do not add any pressure.

----------
Consumation of the soul is done willingly.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 08/02/09 at 6:33 AM

Loxbox  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 880
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jan 2007
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
He used to be very healthy until he was hurt in Football, he tore the ligiments in his left ankle and they have never healed. Since then he has never tried very hard at anything. He legitimately is in pain when he tries to run.

I have talked with him many times about his weight and smoking, but a person has to WANT to change for a healthy lifestyle. I can't push him. All I can do is continue to talk about it, and the positives that would come with it. I love him dearly, and I don't want to see him live unhealthy, but if I nag him and bother him constantly it will only make things worse.

He has tried quitting smoking 3 times, and each time he lasts longer, until something stressful happens.

Also, for some reason he just does not like doctors anymore. I keep asking him to see one, trust me, but he either says he will but he doesn't, or says some excuse.

So there isn't much I can do but to be gentle and work on the changes slowly and help him improve his health at a pace that isn't going to scare him.

I'm starting to believe boredom in the bedroom is also a factor in men going soft, at least, in my man anyway. I started changing things up and now we're having sex every night. I asked him if our sex was more interesting now and he said yes, that before it was stagnant and boring. I keep telling him to communicate with me about that kind of stuff...and can only hope that he will start.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 08/02/09 at 12:50 PM

bialy  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 3843
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jan 2009
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
Loch, does he swim? Swimming is low-impact cardio-vascular exercise. He can drop pounds easily by doing laps.

It's his health and sex life on the line. That should be enough motivation.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 08/02/09 at 1:04 PM

Loxbox  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 880
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jan 2007
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
He doesn't know how to swim. We went swimming two weeks ago and it was really great, and it really meant a lot to me that he came and did it.

I'm not trying to make up excuses for him, I love him and I'm not going to leave because the sex isn't every day or anything. We still talk about it, and are open about it.

I'm not exactly healthy either, we BOTH have to kick our habits.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 08/02/09 at 2:46 PM

Loxbox  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 880
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jan 2007
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
Well, that's a little harsh. I'm not even going to reply to that.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 08/02/09 at 11:57 PM
igor  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 709
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jan 2006
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
Dingtowngal - I don't know what your guy's issues are that he can't take ED drugs but another possibility is to use a c**k ring and a pump.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
posted: 08/03/09 at 8:39 AM

BleedingHart  [more]
IP: Logged
 Posts: 3825
 Group: Member 
 Joined: Jul 2006
 Status: OFFLINE
Make Buddy | PM User
Any kind of heart condition takes you out of the running for meds like Viagra and Cialis.

----------
Consumation of the soul is done willingly.

click to: respond to this topic

Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse

 

Notice: Use this form ONLY if you are already a member! New users, register for free here!
Notice: This is our quick reply form, for all reply options such as smilies, HTML and more, click here!
Fast Reply:
Your User Name:    Want to register?
Your Password:    Forgotten your password?
Subject: (Optional)
Show Signature: include your profile signature.
 Notice: By submitting to this site, you agree to these terms of use.
Forum Options:
· Save this topic to my favorites (subscribed)!

· Email this topic to a friend!
Rate This Thread:

Back To: Lovingyou.com > Pillow Talk > Sexual Health > How do Make Love to a Man with Ed?

 

LOVINGYOU.COM SITE MAP
LOVE:  Communication | Affairs | Dating | Getting Serious | Getting Married | Break Ups | Loving Yourself | Support Groups | Dear Love
ROMANCE:  Romance 101 | Ideas | Date Nights | Recipes for Two | Romantic Travel | Craft Ideas | Holidays & Celebrations
PASSION:  Lovemaking 101 | Passion Play | Loverotica | Ask Aphrodite | Pillow Talk
INSPIRATION:  Love Poetry | Love Letters | Love Quotes | Love Stories | Dedications | Printables | Lovescopes | eCards
   Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Contact Us | Writer's Guidelines | Suggestions

Lovingyou.com, Inc.SM All rights reserved.

Message board powered by vBulletin. Copyright ©2000, 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Limited.

SheKnows Lifestyles