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Thoughts about a 3-some with two guys and a girl? posted: 10/12/08 at 6:54 AM

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It seems to me it's def. an unusual thing, but when i was asking my bf about 3-somes, he said he'd prefer another guy, though he's completely straight- that'd it'd be for my pleasure. Don't most guys want another girl? The two 3-somes I had before were two girls, one guy (I'm bi, so enjoyed them, tho i was tech. 'the other woman' in both). I know people/couples sometimes think of the grouping to spice things up, he has no gay leanings whatsoever, and it makes me sick to think of another woman touching him or esp. visa versa, but that just adds to the confusion.

Why would a completely straight guy want another guy in a 3-some with his girlfriend? i think went like he was thinking of me playing with the other guy (like a sub/dom/kink kinda thing i think), or just being pleasured by both, or one guy inside me while i gave the other a bj, but idk. Is it weird he's had those thoughts/that fantasy? Does it mean anything? In a flip sense could it also mean he's fantasized about another girl and this is preliminary in his head? Somebody translate for me. I'm not sure if i'd do it even if i was interested [whether because of my own hang-ups or what], and i know you shouldn't do something you're not comfortable with, i guess i just wish i could get in his head more, understand

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posted: 10/12/08 at 7:40 AM

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Idk Honestly I think its out of guilt, or he doesnt care alot about the relationship. What I dont understand is, why would he want to watch you with another guy, after he got hurt really bad in the past by someone cheating??i would kind of be leary, about where his mind is at right now..I also think due to your other threads, that he is interested in someone else, he still talk to her and hides it from you.. I would totally be wondering where you stand.. I mean Why would he want to do this 3some with another guy, maybe out of guilt.. I suggest you really talk to him, and find out exactly how he feels about you, communication is the key to every relationship, and i'm not trying to be rude or anything, but he seems to communicate more with his ex.. thats a red flag...but I would talk to him ASAP b4 you decide anything. Also whose idea was it??and How long have the two of you been a couple??

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posted: 10/12/08 at 7:44 AM
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Some guys like the idea of another guy taking their woman.

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posted: 10/12/08 at 1:51 PM
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Despite hotmomma's very strong post, as a guy I can honestly say that I would prefer to have a MMF threesome with my missus rather than a MFF.

I don't have any interest in the other male either however it has been a fantasy of mine for a long time.

I'm sure you will find many guys are the same!

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posted: 10/13/08 at 12:23 AM

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All guys wanting a MFF threesome is obviously a generalization, and certainly doesn’t apply to all of them. My threesome fantasies include both MMF, and MFF scenarios. Of the two, my preference would also be to have another male, but if I were single, I would be an absolute fool to turn down an opportunity to f*ck two hot girls who are willing to share me.

The thought of a hot guy with a big beautiful c*ck f*cking my woman to a screaming orgasm and cumming all over her turns me on like crazy. Though I would never risk a healthy relationship to have a threesome, they are still very arousing to think about and discuss with my partner.

I find it comical how some guys will talk to their women about threesomes, expressing their desire to have one, and then say, “It’s for her pleasure.” It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl, bottom line is he would like a third party in the bedroom wither it be for voyeuristic purposes, or an additional person whom to have sex with. He’s thinking about his pleasure, guaranteed.

Only he knows his ulterior motives behind his desire for a threesome. Everything else is all speculation. But if he is telling you how much he would love to see you get f*cked by another guy, chances are likely that he’s not holding too much back.

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posted: 10/13/08 at 8:05 PM
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I've commented before but MMF is my husband's favorite. He is visual and me doing that for him is highly stimulative. We've been doing this for awhile, and its not always easy on the jealousy factor, which is why I would only recommend it for mature long term couples to explore. New relationships that go down this path probably wont last long. After you are long term committed, it seems easier to explore your fantasy lifestyle.

But I guess you can't generalize, everyone is different.

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posted: 10/14/08 at 2:42 AM
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I personally find both scenarios quite erotic, for different reasons. I'm a totally straight male, but the thought of a MMF threesome is appealing, but only when the female is my SO (I don't think I'd want to be the odd male in such a threeway).

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posted: 10/15/08 at 6:33 AM

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I find it hot and I don't think it's an uncommon fantasy at all among straight guys. It doesn't usually indicate there is something wrong in your relationship or he has some other latent desire, just that the idea of watching you take on another guy (or two at once) is just kinda hot!

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posted: 10/15/08 at 10:03 PM

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First, just because a guy fantasizes about a threesome doesn't mean he actually wants to do one, or that he feels incomplete without one. It's actually a very common fantasy, and many couples use the image just to spice things up!

Secondly, look up "cuckold" fetish- it's quite common for a guy to fantasize about his gf being ****ed by another guy.

But again- that doesn't mean he actually WANTS to do it. You'd really have to communicate more to find out exactly what is on his mind.

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posted: 10/18/08 at 4:37 PM

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Hmmm... why would a guy want another man to have his woman....

well all men are sex addicts and perverts.... right? (actually not far from the truth).

First this is probably the wrong forum to get a deeper understanding of that.

The folks over there are in the "lifestyle" and can give you more help at understanding 3somes or other variants.

For some it's best left in the realm of fantasy, but others do live those lifestyles. Some happily, others not. Such is life.

It doesn't have anything to do with guilt, more about voyeurism. And it isn't cheating if all parties agree in the open about it. What hurts the most about cheating (IMO) is the lie, the going beyond the back, the breaking of trust. With a 3some it is highly unlikely your SO doesn't know about it. Unless you are the third wheel in somebody else's 3some, but thats a different issue.

As to me, I wouldn't mind a FMF, because there are some things you just can't do with just one woman... (like have one riding your face while the other is riding your c*ck). Likewise MFM... you can't spit roast a woman with just one guy...
(if you have no idea what spit roasting is look it up in the urban dictionary).

Mostly my fantasies are MFM or MMFMM (gangbang), or MFMF (swapping wives), i.e. most of those involve other men with the wife or gf. With swapping mates we both get to nail the other guys wife, while our own is being nailed..... One of my wildest fantasies is a "circle of friends", a kind of club, where the women are all the communal sex slaves of the men. Any man can have any of the women and have her however he pleases, and we have parties from time to time.... lol... My tendencies are to D/s relationships. I like to be Dom, I like the woman to be sub, hence her submitting to a gangbang or one other guy for me is a turn on.... Would women ever be that submissive? Probably only in my dreams. Would I like it in real life. I'll let you know when I've tried it.

Part of the turn on with an MFM is the voyeuristic aspects, watching a woman orgasm is a turn on - it's what sells porn. An MFM is like porn only in real life. Another aspect is submissiveness I talked about above. Another the taboo. Taboo sex seems to be more exciting. Another is knowing our woman is desired by more than just us. Tends to bring out a competitiveness. Wanting to do her better than the other guy. But when one guy runs out of steam the other can keep going. It also makes the woman seem more sensual and sexual if she can do multiple guys. She's a sex machine (and I mean that in a positive way, she's extra sexy) and that's a turn on. "Hey my woman is so sexy she can take on five guys and totally wear 'em and still want more... " ... what guy wouldn't want a dream lover like that? She gives five guys raging hard-ons, makes 'em all limp again and says next.... yeah, that would be one fun (and scary) lady...

OK, I'm sure there are many men that just want an ordinary monogamous vanilla relationship. But there are a few others of us that well we're sometimes beyond kinky.

So what's not to like? Oh, STDs, jealousy, envy, her leaving for the other guy(s). minor problems like that.

Most people in the lifestyle will say it only works if there is a solid relationship to start with, and totally open and honest communication between the partners in the primary relationship, well thought out and well established "rules" and boundaries (friends or no friends), which for me would mean either partner could veto any scene or third party. A monogamous relationship should have those same elements of open and honest communications and a fairly simple rule - sex with others not allowed. A relationship that includes 3somes - the rules get more complicated.

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