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my girlfriend continues with sex but stopped oral posted: 09/23/08 at 5:51 AM
tony1987  [more]
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ok MEN

my gf and i are together since 7 months and although we have sex like before, she suddenly stopped giving me blow jobs. i told her i had noticed and she said she needed to be in the mood. she used to do it before. howcome she is still in the mood for sex, but not oral anymore? she says she loves to do it but never does now unless i ask for it. MEN tell me of your experiences! thanks guys

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posted: 09/23/08 at 10:18 AM

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you just got to live with it and ENJOY it when it happens or move on...............i am in the same situation and i am married. it wont change a bit now or in the future....sorry!!!!!!!!

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posted: 09/26/08 at 1:40 PM

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well i am not a man but i get turned off when my husband ask for it i want to give it to him when i want its a turn on for me to know that i am doing something to him that he loves do you ask her for it often try not to ask and see what happens

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posted: 09/27/08 at 12:21 AM
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I am also not a man... but my SO is constantly asking for head. I always give head to him when he asks BUT... I know he likes it a lot better when I am in the mood to give him head and he doesn't have to ask. Maybe you just need to be patient and then you will get mind blowing head

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posted: 09/27/08 at 3:55 AM

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I do not agree with the posts above.

You deserve an explanation from her about this, but it seems to me your needs have been cut off cold turkey. She sounds pretty inconsiderate to me, showing NO regards for your needs whatsoever.

I'm not too hopeful about your ability to get far with this. I take her aggressive action as a signal of rejection.

BY all means, sit her down and have a talk about this but you may wish to be ready for her to break up with you. When women cut you off from sex in the manner you describe, IMO they are preparing to dump you by cutting all ties beginning with sex.

I don't have a very high opinion of her. I think you can do better.

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posted: 09/28/08 at 8:19 AM

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Hmmm...well,

First of all, I am always astounded when people talk about 'Asking' for things. I have never HAD to 'ask' for anything!

I think if you know your partner very well, then things happen, you can ofcourse 'motion towards' certain acts but it all happens fluidly and in tune. Generally the only things I would imagine there being any discussion or foresight in would be if you were both trying something new.

With regard to your aituation, then I would politly ask her (When not in an amourous situation but when it is appropriete), just mention in passing how much you enjoy it when she does it and ask her about what she really enjoys.

I garrentee you, if you open a conversation with anything resembling "Why you do no longer give me blow jobs?" then you can pretty much kiss that goodbye lol. It will sound like a verbal attack and make her feel bad.

The idea is just to rise the issue in a non-aggressive way, I do agree with talking about it as you do want to have total openess with your partner in life.

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posted: 10/11/08 at 1:07 PM

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My SO asks for blow jobs all the time.
More and more frequently he won't achieve orgasm with out them.
I find it completely depressing that he's no longer turned on by all of me (I am usually totally dissociated while performing oral sex).

Tragicly, I am ineloquent in arguements and I always lose discussions that address the issue.

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posted: 10/11/08 at 9:11 PM

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My SO asks for blow jobs all the time.
More and more frequently he won't achieve orgasm with out them.
I find it completely depressing that he's no longer turned on by all of me (I am usually totally dissociated while performing oral sex).

Tragicly, I am ineloquent in arguements and I always lose discussions that address the issue.



This whole post is sad on many levels. Firstly, why should he have to ask for them? If you're with him, shouldn't you be doing your part to keep things going in the re-ship? That means sex too!

No longer turned on by all of you? People change all the time. I think this is natural as long as he still loves you and is spending time with you in other parts of the re-ship too.

What's dissociated?

OK so what is the issue to be addressed?

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posted: 10/12/08 at 3:22 AM

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On this thread, its just that if all he's asking for is oral, she may be feeling neglected. Intercourse is often more intimate for woman, and she may be using sex to get intimacy that is lacking in other areas of her life.

:P I'm a mess, but I did have a relivant point. I just failed to make it in the last post.

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posted: 10/18/08 at 5:11 AM
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maybe she's just nervous about how to do it?

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