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Wife 42 never masturbates?  posted: 04/15/08 at 10:01 PM
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Ladies,
My wife says she never masturbates. I believe her. Married 22 years! She says when she was young, she tried it and felt nothing from it. I find it difficult that she doesn't, because I do it all the time. We don't talk about masturbation much. We have a great relationship in every way, except we don't experiment and try new things. I would like to try watching each other or watching her, but I don't know how to encourage her to try this with me when she doesn't even do it on her own.
I want to show her how I do it, or have her hold me when I want to masturbate, when she is not in the mood. However, she seems uneasy talking about it. Also, I want to experiment with toys for her and me. She seems so uneasy about toys too. When I bring these things up, she gets anxious. Please share any ideas or insight as to how I could help or encourage her to lighten up and have some fun with these things.
Thanks, Mike
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posted: 04/17/08 at 1:52 PM
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| My wife is 44 and says she does not masturbate either. She had tried it a few times and says she does not have enough hands. I would love for to put on a show for me, I do not have a problem doing it for her. I work evenings, sometimes i think she does but does not wanted to admit to it. We have a great sex and right now this not part of it. Being married to her for over 24 years I know are sex life has changed and what we enjoy. Maybe one day this will be a part of it. Toys are the same way. But I am not giving up hope.
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posted: 04/20/08 at 2:48 AM
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| Hmm I am 23 and I dont masterbate. Like at all. I dont know why. I even bought toys. I just feel awkward even when I am by mysefl. I am completely into men masturbating though. what I mean is when my SO does it is a huge turn on. I wonder how to get past the whole awkward feeling but I just dont know.
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posted: 04/22/08 at 2:14 AM
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I'm almost fifty and don't either. I have in the absence of a relationship in the past, but in a relationship where we have sex usually twice a day every day, I just don't have any desire to devote the time to masturbating as well. There are just so many hours in a day and given the option of intimate sex, I'll take that and pass on the other. 
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posted: 04/22/08 at 4:24 PM
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| not all things are normal for everyone. maybe she was taught that masturbation was wrong or dirty. or maybe she tried it and it just wasn't for her. some people are fine with their sexuality the way it is and don't feel the need to learn or try new things. i have a very close friend who only has sex because she knows her husband wants it and to make a baby. that is all sex is to her. Your wife might just be sexually closed off and I've never seen things work well if you try to force or insist things on those type of people. it's almost like they shut down even further.
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posted: 04/25/08 at 8:19 PM
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| I don't masturbate. I'm 21. I don't find anything exciting about it. Well I've never done it so what do I know right? But it's Okay I can live without it. My boyfriend does the hand work for me and I would rather have it from him than myself. :P
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The best love
is the kind
that awakens the soul
and makes us
reach for more,
that plants a fire
in our hearts
and brings peace to our minds
and that's all you've given me
That's what I hope
to give to you
forever.
-The Notebook
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posted: 04/25/08 at 8:48 PM
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I do masterbate because I'm 'supposed' to.
I find it really boring and unstimulating... but anything to be normal, right?
When my SO presses me for a show, sometimes I do it to make him happy, sometimes I get so angry I want to scream. He doesn't understand that I really DON'T get any pleasure from it.
He usually winds up looking on-line for some technique that I've over-looked that will be the key to my auto-erotic pleasure.
And I'm getting tired of being pushed. I know I'm not doing it wrong, I'm just not that into it. I'm running out of patience and I want the subject left alone before it causes a permanent rift in our relationship.
I don't think my situation is quite like Jaded's post, but equally volitile.
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posted: 12/21/11 at 7:36 AM
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What about the 41 before her? (couldn't resist!)
Seriously.
Mine doesn't either. I wish she would...and she is trying.
In her case it is a combination of her semi-strict upbringing and ignorance.
We have begun to diligently study our sexuality recently and she is trying to loosen up. It will take a long time. But her willingness to experiment is increasing and so it goes...
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