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Taking him..  posted: 05/15/12 at 6:17 PM
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I love this forum! I was first on here in 2004, and was just becoming active...learned everything I needed to know about sex and pleasing him...
Anyway, my question. I have a new partner who has more length than my previous one. I'm a petite gal, and when he puts it all the way in it pushes against my cervix in a way that I'm not used to. It hurts actually...And he likes to do it hard and fast sometimes, but I'm afraid of getting hurt. Is it possible for my body to get used to him and be able to take his full length without discomfort?
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posted: 05/15/12 at 6:32 PM
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Probably not. All I can suggest is that you make sure you are fully aroused before penetration, to allow the vagina to expand as much as possible. But the truth is, most vaginas can only take so much.
I've also had this same 'issue' - the absolute maximum I can take is 7 inches, and anything that long has to be gentle. I've tried experimenting with toys and different levels of arousal, but it makes no difference. My vagina, when aroused, can be stretched to 7 inches and that's it.
You could try experimenting with positions, and use those that give more shallow penetration, that might do the trick.
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posted: 05/15/12 at 11:05 PM
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Get on top so that you can control how deep it goes.
When on the bottom, you can also experiment with the angles of your pelvis so that it doesn't go in as deep even if he is thrusting rather hard.
Another suggestion: when he wants to get the feeling of going deep, lube up your thighs, lay on your back, and squeeze your legs together- then let him fvck your thighs right there against your vulva. This feels good for you too, since his penis will rub your clit. You can do this doggy-style too, with him putting his penis just between your thighs but not inside your vagina. It's not perfect, but it's a great substitute, and doesn't hurt you. 
There are times of the month (not sure what that is about?) that my bf feels too big for me, too. I can take it for just a little while, then I have to ask him to stop. If you have to ask him to stop, or not to do something because it pains you, do NOT feel bad about it. There are so many other exciting, fun things you can do in bed that missing this ONE THING is not going to kill your sex life.
And if he DOES act like an a$$ about it, well....take your sexy self and go find someone who really appreciates you.
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posted: 05/20/12 at 12:37 PM
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I too am a small woman and hubby has about 7', so it also hurt at first. I'm lucky that hubby is gentle and cosiderate and we were able to try various positions and techniques. We have found that the doggy position works for us. Have you tried foreplay? We have found that petting, licking, fingering helps us relax and we only use lube for anal.
Honey, I have found that when both partners are considerate of each other there are no real sexual experiences that are out of reach. It took 3 years before I could swallow and 5 years before I even let him attempt anal. After nine years we enjoy oral sex to its fullest and I can normally swallow all if not most of his cum, (hubby even goes down on me after gets off) and I have learned to enjoy anal.
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