For those who miscarried and then went on later to conceive again (or have never had a baby/been pregnant), how long did you wait? Do you mind sharing your story? Here is mine:

Been married over 6 years, last summer hubby and I moved to another state and I started my career and he found a good job after a few months.

While we did accumulate some debt we are well under way to paying that off. We decided last October it was time and I got off the pill. In November we conceived and since we were going to see our families for Christmas we didn't say anything to anyone. MAN that was a hard secret to keep, but we kept saying "this is going to be the best Christmas ever" when we got on the phone with our families.

A few days before our trip, I went to the doctor (primary) and did the old confirmation and got the hand on the shoulder and whole "my dear you are pregnant" from the doctor. My due date was set at August 14th.

It was the happiest time of our life. I kid you not when I say my husband was strutting around like a rooster lol. We went to the store the day before we left for San Diego and bought bibs that said "I love grandma" and tucked them in our suitcases.

Fortunately for us our moms are good friends, so we did Christmas together. We had both mom's open their mysterious present together. Everyone was so excited, all the women were crying, the men were hugging my husband, winking, the whole shebang.

A day or two later, my morning sickness kicked in with GUSTO- I couldn't keep a thing down but I didn't care because it was worth it. At that time I thought I was around 6 weeks.

I'd been having cramps but I shrugged them off as my uterus stretching to make room. I figured things were fine as I still had morning sickness and no bleeding.

I went to see my doctor (obstetrician - not primary), first she said she'd see me at 10 weeks but when I told her about my PCOS and cramping she said come in now. I went in at what I thought was 8-9 weeks. She said it looked like I was just under 5 weeks and that I must have confused the time I conceived (I was charting everything) and that she'd see me in 2 weeks to check again. She had me do some blood tests and would call me with results.

I got a call back the next day to come in again, something was wrong, my HCG was way too low for the point of pregnancy I was at, so they wanted to do another blood test.

I went in that Friday morning and by that afternoon there was another call, my HCG was drastically dropping, and they made me take progesterone suppositories to try and "keep" the pregnancy. At that point I was overwhelmed and confused- WHAT was happening?!

A few days later I went back in, levels were still dropping, another ultrasound showed the HCG was continuing to go down. My doctor at that point told me that she thinks I wouldn't miscarry properly because of the progesterone she gave me and that my baby had passed at just under 6 weeks (we never saw a heartbeat) and that at this point I should have been around 9 weeks, so I have to have a D&C for fear of infection that could kill me. I went home and hubby and I cried but scheduled the D&C.

By then my coworkers knew I was pregnant so I called my boss and told her what happened and she told me take the time I needed.

I had my D&C January 20th, 5 days after my 29th birthday. I cried before the procedure, and for many days after it. I still cry now and then (like right now).

My doctor says start trying again as soon as I get my cycle (which has just come), or wait if I want to.

At this point I have no idea what to do, go back on the pill a few months- or just start trying again? What would you do? What did you do? Part of me says Bana, just go for it again, don't wait, just do it. The other part says "omg what if this happens again?" I think I'll have a nervous breakdown if it does, at one point part of me thought I'd never be happy again. And while I am better, I still feel emotionally fragile and unsure if I am able to deal with this again and wonder if a small break will help me emotionally cope. I'm thinking at most, if I were to go back on the pill, it'd only be for 3 months, and my wonderfully hubby is fully supportive. I've been fortunate to have great support from friends, family, and coworkers through this whole ordeal.

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I'm sorry to hear that aisling.

No still not pregnant, having a really hard time coping with all of this Past few days I've just been super unhappy, tearing up, etc. Hubby says I'm watching too many pregnant women on TV and I'm like WELL I can't help that because it's EVERYWHERE on TV. I should be happy, hubby and I both have wonderful jobs, great family, good friends, we are financial secure, etc, but I'm so unhappy and it's driving me crazy

Hubby and I decided if I'm not pregnant by this summer we are going to go to a doctor. There is a great doctor with PCOS in our area who told me to come see him if I'm unable to conceive. We've had unprotected sex ever since my miscarriage, you'd think at some point it would have just happened!

I haven't been taking care of my health either. My work offers a gym and a wellness program, I just signed up so Monday I am starting again with the workouts and counting cals and all that to finish the rest of the weight I need to lose.

I hope it works out for you too aisling.

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