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Sex drive  posted: 05/15/12 at 2:48 AM
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Hi everyone,
So, I'm feeling a bit anxious and would welcome your thoughts.
I was on the combined pill for nearly six years, I came off them in mid-March because in the last two years the pills had been messing with my sex drive, lubrication and sensation. It had to be done, I was really unhappy and feeling empty.
I had a copper IUD put in at the beginning of April, so I've had it a good month now. At first, I was relieved because I felt more like myself again. In the last few weeks, I've been going from one extreme to another. My sex drive was sky-high, I was masturbating at least every day if not more than once a day. Now, I'm feeling almost the opposite and this is in a short space of time.
I know this is probably due to my hormones and the last of the effects of the pill wearing off. I know I've been very very stressed lately and that's bound to be affecting things. But in the last couple of times I've seen my bf, I have noticed that while I am with him I will want him immensely and will feel like I need him to touch me but then, when he actually starts initiating or returns my moves on him, I feel like I want to stop. He has noticed this and was hurt.
I'm not going to be able to see him again for a while, but what can I do to stabalise myself a bit?
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posted: 05/15/12 at 8:13 AM
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Irregardless of what method of contraception you are using... STRESS can literally kill your sex drive... If you have anxiety with your man touching you / initiating - this can also change your lubrication and receptiveness...
You should get your man to give you a nice back massage (oil and all) to relax that stress away prior to initiating anything; otherwise go to a spa and get those kinks worked out...
Have him start slow with initiating sexual acts... IE Oral play (whatever gets you going and more receptive) - and not to penetrate until you have climaxed at least twice...
In the meantime, make sure you are not overstimulating yourself solo - as this will potentially make you raw / more sensitive... As well as less DRIVEN (not craving that contact from your man)
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