 |
| |
|
|
I don't understand why i'm feeling this way about him  posted: 11/20/09 at 6:00 AM
|
|
|
Hey guys so, I have been seeing this guy for a little over 3 months now. Little background info: I've been in 3 relationships and they have all lasted longer than a year. I fell in love with two of them. Okay so...
I understand that 3 months were still feeling each other out and such but I have this awful feeling in the pit of my stomach that we're not supposed to be together.
He his a huge sports guy really tall and lean muscles. He is very very sweet and caring and gentle. I really like him a lot. Now, my last bf's were big muscle smoking drinking bad boys. So there's been a huge shift in what type of relationship i'm in now from every other one i've ever been in.
I'm just wondering if it's normal to feel really happy with your SO but wonder once in a while if this is the right choice to be with him. He makes me so happy but i don't get why i'm not 100% into this relationship.
I'd like any input or advice but Please please don't tell me that it because he's not like anything i've ever dated before. I know that and it's something to get used to .
Ok sorry if this sounds like a bunch of mumbo jumbo just trying to write as fast as my brain is thinking. Lol
----------
“Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free til they find someone just as wild to run with them.”
I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love.
click to: respond to this topic
|
|
| Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
posted: 11/21/09 at 5:41 PM
|
|
|
This is only because he's not like anyone you've ever dated before. *lol* just kidding.
This could be your intuition kicking in and something isn't right, sometimes our gut feeling may sense something that we haven't seent he signs of yet. You've been in love and in relationships before, so you know the feelings of doom when you see them.
Or maybe you are at the point where you are deciding if this man should be a more permanent part of your life. You've been in love twice. Is this feeling you are having possibly a fear of repeating the past or of getting hurt?
I've never had the feeling that I wasn't supposed to be with someone unless we soon after stopped being together.
But in the end, don't follow your heart or your mind, follow your gut. If it doesn't feel right, then something isn't right. Maybe you. Maybe him. Maybe the relationship itself.
Trust your intuition with this one. Look at yourself, your guy, and the relationship in a well-rounded way. Is it what you want? Is it what you need? Can you handle it? Are you ready? Is he ready?
Unfortunately, I can only speculate on your feelings because they are yours. It's what you do with them that will make you stronger. Go with what you know. If you don't feel 100% in this, then you aren't and there's probably a reason for it.
I wouldn't just dump him immediately, but trust your feelings when they tell you something and make sure he is the right guy for you. Maybe he is a great guy, but that doesn't mean he is the one and only great guy for you.
Whatever happens will be just what should happen. Good luck to you!
----------
It's all a learning experience... as long as you're willing to learn.
click to: respond to this topic
|
|
| Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
posted: 11/21/09 at 6:07 PM
|
|
|
| I've known a few women who have been attracted to the "big muscle smoking drinking bad boys" and they need this type to feel excited in a relationship. There is nothing exactly wrong with this, but it seems like the problems start when you begin looking for bigger commitments. Hell, that's true with any group of guys. But the bad boys, as a demographic, can be kind of tough to pin down for a commitment. I'm not saying all of the "bad boys" are like this. In fact, I've known some that are really tough on the outside -- big hulking muscle men -- but unbelievably soft on the inside. I think a lot of women fantasize about this type of guy, but -- I'll tell you -- they are a pretty rare breed.
click to: respond to this topic
|
|
| Options: Reply To Topic | Start New Topic | Edit Message | Quote Message | Report Abuse
|
|
|
|
|
