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posted: 09/01/12 at 1:51 AM
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| I think you should explain your financial situation to her. She might not realize how little you have right now. Tell her you want to make her happy but that there's no way you can afford an extra $70. You can offer to help her pick out other shoes, or maybe she'll offer to pay for yours. If she's your best friend, she should understand and try to solve the problem. I don't think politely telling her this or bowing out will cause the friendship to end.
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posted: 09/01/12 at 7:55 AM
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A friend of ours is getting married and she wanted shoes that match the bridesmaids dress too. Her maid of honor which is also my good friend can't afford the shoes but the dress is long so it's not like people can even see the shoes. what she ended up doing is,she bought a pair of shoes ,a lot cheaper that looked almost alike. and on the wedding day where everything was going so hectic with a lot of worries from the bride what could possibly go wrong,
I kinda doubt that the bridesmaid shoes would be in her list? . The maid of honor didn't tell our friend bout the shoes she picked but then again the bride has something new ,like a lot of new things to worry about. that being said,as I put it, the bride maids and maid of honor dress are very long dress covering their feet so no one can even see the shoes.
I'd tell her I can't afford it.
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posted: 09/01/12 at 2:09 PM
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[[bestest friend!]] This. You are NOT the maid of honor, you are a bridesmaid. So by that fact alone, you should not have to buy shoes that you can't afford. With the other bridesmaid feeling the way you do, you have another person to back you up.
Remember too that on The Day, people will be looking at HER not your shoes. She needs to remember that too. Does she think the camera man will be focusing on her attendees apparel down near the floor instead of her all-out-princess attire? If so, she'd better find a new photogfapher.
Tell her you can't afford the shoes OR if you DO go for it, recoup your money and sell them on eBay when the wedding is done!  You'll probably turn a profit!
Best of luck,
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P.S. You don't want to wear shoes that don't fit well-your feet will ache for *days* afterwards!
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posted: 09/02/12 at 3:41 AM
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Well the *good* news is that there is an outlet mall near me that sells this brand of Tennis shoes. Rather than buying the customer 3 colored converse (with our names embroidered). I'm gonna buy some solid color ones and switch out the laces.
Hopefully I can get a good price for them.
I have a sneaking suspicion that she and her hubby-to-be will be having kids or pregnant when my wedding comes around, so I will keep in mind how budget-strapped I am right now and not return the favor later.
She's running low on funds as well. She just cut alcohol out of the reception to save money. I just want to be like *ahem ahem* maybe we can cut out ugly shoes? :P
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posted: 09/02/12 at 11:47 PM
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Originally posted by Descension
I just want to add that -- her maid of honor is 1500 miles away. So the planning and expense of the bachelor/bachelorette (combined party) as well as Bridal Shower are on me as well.
When it is my turn, bitch better be on point.
Paying for that stuff falls on the best-man/MOH ? Eff that jazz. I hope I never have to deal with that.
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posted: 09/04/12 at 5:14 PM
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Descension -- if she's cutting out alcohol, which is unbelievably tacky IMNSHO, she should be more receptive to other people's financial issues. I would definitely tell her about your solution at the outlet mall.
fair is fair -- people get nutty about their weddings, especially sill, immature brides who want their bridesmaids to wear sneakers & then can't afford to host a proper party b/c they failed to plan the financial side of this with any common sense. So while it's crazy, I could see a bride like this to end a friendship over a pair of sneakers b/c no matter what Descension says there's a chance this bride will take it as a personal attack.
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