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is sex more difficult for a women if it's been a while? posted: 06/14/12 at 2:39 AM
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hey i haven't had sex in about 6/7 months so i am bit nervous to do it this weekend. i know because i don't do it a lot that i am not that good at it. i feel bad because the person i am going to do it with is well experienced and he's really in shape. we have done it before several times but he always does everything and usually if time spaces between us its harder because i am 'tight.' i am nervous that will be the case this weekend. i wish i had more experience to be the girl on top. I would like to do those cowgirl/reverse cowgirl/ frogger positions. i am going to try but i just wish i could have those skills.. i guess it is just experience.. figures when i move away he gets interested again..
I'm basically wondering how i can do those woman on top positions successfully if i haven't had sex in a while...
he's never complained before if i was tight. We usually just try again the next night but we have limited time this weekend. We would be lucky to have two nights in a row to practice
saw him last weekend before leaving for a flight and we are planning to meet again.. its just for fun but i just wish i could be better at it!! i know i can't help it if i haven't that much practice.
at least i am good at other stuff and i do enjoy it so that is good enthusiasm. i also have a nice lingerie set.
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posted: 06/14/12 at 8:31 PM
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Hey, don't worry to much, you can never learn new positions if you don't try. Maybe talk to him about it? Tell him you would love to try. Usually with a women on top men love to guide your hips so, you get a better idea of how to move like that. Have him guide you the first few times then you'll get into the swing of things pretty much right away. Whatever feels good for you will probably feel good for him. Be a little careful though, dont go crazy up there (lol) you can hurt him...
If you've been together previously, and im guessing mitionary, then he knows that your not experienced and will need some guidance just let him know your interested...
I was in a relationship for 7 years and he liked being in control, he hates girl on top because hes afraid he will get hurt.. he was a weird one.. so only positions we did was him on top and doggy.. how.....fun.... Now with my fiance, we try everything and its great. You just have to open your mind. Good luck!
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posted: 06/15/12 at 5:27 PM
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If you're worried about being too tight, or hurting him (yourself) just get yourself some lube. It's also good for a couple to incorporate foreplay, this will get your body ready to go, but you have to relax and just enjoy it.
Look up on google sex positions, there's some great sites and advice on there. Obviously your guy might be different on what he likes. All you can really do is try, and I think he'll like it regardless of your experience. From what I've noticed, when a girl shows the initiative, it can really please a guy.
Good luck 
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posted: 06/22/12 at 8:10 PM
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Girl on top is fuuuuun! I wasn't very experienced either, but I'm comfortable with my boyfriend and I tried a few different things until I could move in a way we both like. Now, since I've experimented so much when I'm on top of him, I have several different ways to move that feel good for both of us so I can switch between them if certain muscles get sore.
It took me maybe three days of being in bed with him and testing out different things to really get good at it and get comfortable sustaining a rhythm, and as a few more weeks went by I got so I could last longer and not get sore as fast and added a few more positions.
Don't worry. If your guy is worth his salt he'll help you, help you move and let you figure things out for yourself up there. It's a little awkward at first but you just have to find your stride so to speak and then things get a lot easier! My boyfriend used to help guide my movements by my hips a lot when we first started that way, but now a few weeks later I've been known to tell him hands off and I just do it myself and he loves it! Most guys will love being able to lay back and just watch you so don't be nervous about it. It's really, really fun!
As for too tight... don't force it, because that'll hurt, but even when I'm tight my boyfriend and I can just work at it a little - he'll touch me or something to make me more relaxed and ready - and in a few minutes I'm not too tight anymore. As for being too tight because you haven't in a while... I haven't had that experience. Usually I'm too tight if I've been doing it a lot, or I'm a little sore, or if I want him really fast and we haven't played around much beforehand.
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