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Is this pathetic? posted: 08/04/12 at 11:44 PM
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| Do you think losing weight to impress a guy is pathetic?. (If you read my last posts it's been about the same person). Okay..So before summer break began, I made a promise to lose weight for this guy I really liked but it was mostly for my health but he was a great incentive..In my opinion..I couldn't understand why he liked me..cause comparing myself back then..I was a hippo..but anyway..It's three weeks until school starts and from my highest weight I've lost about a good 20 pounds..I'm seven from my first goal since I just came back from a cruise lol..but really I need a guy opinion..is it shallow?
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posted: 08/05/12 at 12:34 AM
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Well, the idea of losing weight in order to make yourself a more attractive mate isn't pathetic. That's instinctual. You knew that in order to catch his attention, your physical assets would have to be more noticeable. Not pathetic.
On the flip side though, you need to also be aware that if your motivations are only to snag the guy, then nothing will prevent you from putting it back on. In order to lose weight and keep it off, you have to commit to a lifestyle change. He's not enough motivation for that. That can only come from you making up your mind that you're doing this for your own personal health.
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posted: 08/06/12 at 3:33 AM
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| I'm doing it for my health first and foremost cause I want to live longer and I didn't like what I saw in the mirror..and well..I always thought "well I'm always the nice funny sweet girl, but guys wont go out with me cause of my size". When I met this person..he saw me, the real me..and I couldn't understand why..I want him to be taken back when he sees me..but yea you're right..it's all about the lifestyle change..I will take it one day at a time
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posted: 08/29/12 at 6:22 PM
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Hi Lauren_lolo,
Got to agree with Agilrforme on this, looking and feeling better/more confident are effective in attracting a partner, but the looks don't keep the partner, the light inside is what keeps someone with you and this guy has already noticed it, brilliant...
the change has to be for you, he will benefit from a more happy, confident and sexy you, (you will too) but that is the perk of the change, not the reason to do it.
If you use it as the driver for a relationship, and the relationship fails, you will probably lose your drive to keep the change of lifestyle going.
Better for you to do it all for you and see if he warrants all the perks from the happier you, in the relationship, he may not be man enough for you when you get to where you want to be in your own mind and body. (but it'll be fun finding out..:-)
love and luck
Cyrano
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