You won't believe this, but at Easter dinner he made a video, he sent to me, where his children all sent a message to me like"Hello Jennnifer" or Happy Easter" I couldn't believe that! And he went around the table to each one. I said to him, I can't imagine my children wanting to say anything- They'd probably hide under the table or say 'No way, mum" lol but his children were all so mannerly and mentioned me by name!!
He is unlike me in that he tells his children a lot!!
One of the arguments we had was how he would involve them in his depression following his wife leaving- three of them opted to stay with him and only the younge rone staying with the mother- The older ones were already graduated and gone away from the home-The idea that someone can edit you out of their life just causes anguish in me- One sentence can literally derail an online relationship it seems, Not for me personally, but I see it happening and this man can just turn on a dime about me. Okay so he is welcome to his opinion that I bored him rigid...Wow no one has ever said that to me- even my children say I am funny and interesting and when they are with friends here they ask me to tell their friends the story about the time I did this or that- So I was/am totally gobsmacked-
About loves-have had two in the last ten years. And if I ever mentioned my ex husband it was always in relation to his being over for dinner when the children were here visiting or dropping off something for our daughter (who lives with me) I mentioned that to him in case he ever wondered what our relationship was (my ex and mine) or heard a male voice in the background when he called. I never wanted to hide anything.
I swear I am not exaggerating when I say, he talked for hours every other night and always he brought the conversation around to his ex wife, whom he adored and was bereft when she left him a year and a half ago.
And it happened every time that he spoke nd I seldom brought up my past unless in reference to his conversations...I feel like I haven't had a fair fight at all- though this isn't a battle but it feels like one -I feel as if someone suddenly jumped out at me and said "April Fool: only it isn't April!!