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posted: 07/30/12 at 3:33 AM
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Now, lets not kid ourselves here. People pay more or less attention in what we say in our profile. If they like our pictures and we can put 2 words together they will message us. Then everything is decided on how you come across in person and luck. You can be the perfect man on paper but it doesn't click in person, that you cannot work yourself into, it's there or it's not.

So we're back to what I was saying, meet, meet, meet.

When you meet someone that it clicks with she's not going to care you don't like the same kind of movies, or you're a bit insecure, or you're nervous, she'll overlook all that.



Yeah, thing is as I said I am not just going to date to date. I have had women message me and turned them down (not replied). Funny enough they've all said your profile is written pretty well.

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posted: 07/30/12 at 3:33 AM

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I think you could afford to beef up your "what I am looking for" section. Similar values? What values are that? Some one you can enjoy your time with? Doesn't everybody? A lot of these phrases are obvious. There is a lot about you, but very little about a visualization of a woman there. I know what you are probably doing...you dont want to exclude any potentials. But being this broad will get you everything you don't want and absolutely no where. When I read something...I always start checking off of I have what they want or not. If they dont give me to go off of...I figure they will take anybody?

Your whole persona on here reads more like a biography than a person one can relate to. I liked the part about the Montreal Canadiens as they shows a bit of humor and character. The rest seems a bit stiff. That is just me. The largest impression that I get is you are very smart, other things? Either obvious or difficult to relate to on a romantic level. There are a few things that can be reworked to give you better appeal. Even though I read all of your stuff, there are few things that are better left for conversation than on a starting paragraph.

Here are the only things I saw as significant:

I am an intelligent, young, hard-working man whose worked for everything he has. I currently work in a job that I love. <---this is good, it shows you are in a good place in life.

I am pretty easy to converse with. <---this is obvious, but you can reword this a bit to make it sound more appealing. Either way, its not a negative.

I am a big fan of the Montreal Canadiens, but the way they're playing lately I dont like to tell people that. <---this showed character and humor. The little specifics that can become conversation starters.

In me, you will get someone who's funny, smart, challenging, secure and treats you well. < ---challenging maybe not the right word. Challenging has a negative connotation to it. The rest is fine. What are you trying to say with the word challenging? Challenging translates to me as a pain in the ass. So are you a pain in the ass? :]

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posted: 07/30/12 at 3:42 AM
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So are you a pain in the ass? :]


That's really up for you to decide I guess

Thanks though, by the same token I dont want to to produce a novel because people wont read all that. I like that mine says enough about me but leaves enough that we can elaborate if we meet. Like the similar values comment. That's something we can elaborate on.

I suppose with any dating profile you can add/subtract, alternate, some things will stick out for others.

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posted: 07/30/12 at 3:46 AM

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I would experiment with adding and subtracting from your profile and see what works best. If you get a string of women that are your type...you are likely on the right track. I do it all the time...I get very different results when I change around my words. I think people read this stuff more than people think they do. At least the serious ones do.

Those are the only ones who count any way.

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