Hello. I am 22 and my bf is 55. We have had an on and off relationship for a year now. It was off and on in the beginning only because the age gap thing did scare me and bother me in the beginning. Now I am deeply devoted and head over heels in love with this man. So my question is... With this large of an age gap is it unusual to experience thoughts of uncertanty about our lives 20 or 30 years from now? I mean when I'm 60 he will be 90 and possibly gone... Then I will be heartbroken and alone for the next who knows how many years. At the same time though... I would cherish our years together and never regret a thing. I know I'm rambling but It does help to know if you are not the only one in the world going through stuff like this. Thank you...
It's not just you. My age gap is a bit smaller (I'm 24, he is 43) but I still think about it sometimes. What is worse for me is that I have known several men who have died fairly young - my grandfather was only 66, a former friend/lover of mine was just 51 - and it does make me aware of the fact that we could only get 15 or 20 years together. And that is quite scary, but not enough to make me have second thoughts. I figure that whether we have 5 years together or 30, I won't regret anything.
I will admit I did think of that to with my ex who was 21 years older than me.
But no matter what age your partner is does not mean they will live any certain amount of time. Death takes people when they meant to go, not cause they are old.
posted: 11/18/09 at 12:37 AM
