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My girl likes to jump right into intercourse posted: 03/25/09 at 8:53 PM
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| Some tips???? She says she's never been a huge fan of oral. She loves to give me head (especially in the car) but me or in her past has never been into getting head. I gave her a huge orgasm a couple weeks ago but she still seems like if I never tried going down on her she'd be totally cool with that. I love doing it. She like direct stimulation on her clit and I think I get her off pretty good by rubbing her G-Spot and licking her clit at the same time. Any tips on what more I can do? I'm trying to learn her spots but she's difficult
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posted: 03/26/09 at 12:16 AM
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| As a woman I sometimes have a bit of a hard time really getting into it. My fella loves to please me that way and most of the time I need to be talked into it. He tells me he loves my taste, feel, smell. That I am the most incredible woman and that he just adores that part of me, how can you deny a man when he is speaking such beautiful words. If your girl is like me I want my So inside me. Some of us just love the feel of you slick and sliding against us. You might try using your sexy/erotic words, getting her mind involved as well as her body... Just an idea.
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posted: 03/28/09 at 5:42 AM
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i wouldn't worry about it. i'm not much on foreplay honestly. I like getting right into intercourse. that's the good stuff! as long as i'm all lubed up and excited and in the mood, ready to go, why waste any time? LOL. Some girls just like it that way, some guys too 
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posted: 03/28/09 at 6:37 PM
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You know, quite a few women get turned on and ready for intercourse just by blowing a guy. They'll suck your c*ck like a champ, and then hop right on your throbbing man meat and ride you until you explode! I refer to these kind of girls as being "low maintenance". You certainly have to appreciate this type, as the best way to get them off, is by you getting off.
Now don't get me wrong, I absolutely love to give a girl oral, and I don't mind foreplay. But once my johnson starts getting stimulated, I prefer for that pleasure to be constant. I think most people are that way actually. So I really much rather go from getting oral right to intercourse, and I will gladly give her oral before and/or after the deed.
Your girl sounds like she is one of these women I speak of, and God bless her, lol. But if you're an oral lover, then God bless you too, as most men would rather skip out on foreplay all together. You just have to communicate. Let her know that you would really like to go down on her, and hopefully she will allow you to reciprocrate her generosity towards you.
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posted: 03/29/09 at 6:51 AM
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One thing a lot of men fail to understand....sex is about mutual interest and individual preferences as well. And many women experience sex differently from men...both physically and psychologically.
I will say this...most women have a difficult time telling a man exactly what they want or don't want, like or don't like because we are often afraid to turn the man off or bruise his ego. A woman who has some sexual experience usually has had situations where she has tried to do that and the man took it personally or turned around and blamed the woman for having issues.
Since chances are she will not go into detail...I will tell you some things that many men do during oral that some women may not like.
1) They are too rough....they lick or suck too hard...to the point where it is uncomfortable, irritating, or even painful. The area is very sensitive and you need to keep it light, tease, and go back and forth on the pressure, take time and build up. (Better yet, go get an instructional book or DVD.)
2) They pressure a woman to have an orgasm and the oral experience becomes about HIS skill in "pleasing" her rather than her true enjoyment and feeling of caring and love.
3) If a woman is not in the mood for oral, the man thinks something is wrong and makes an issue out of it or otherwise takes it personally.
4) Sometimes a woman does not want oral because she is (a) on her period; (b) feels unclean; (c) has not shaved/waxed; (d) has a feminine irritation.
5) A woman may want more cuddling and kissing before anything else OR she may just want to go for intercourse.
6) Unlike a man, a woman's ability to orgasm is much more psychological. This is something many men do not understand because men are wired differently. If she has a lot on her mind is anxious about something, it can get in the way.
7) Having an orgasm for a woman can be more "work" than for a man. And there are times when she doesn't need to worry about it in order to enjoy the sexual experience. She may have a different kind of orgasm or satisfaction through intercourse. For women, sometimes it's enough to feel close and intimate. Some women have difficulty with orgasms and may want to avoid the pressure to orgasm that oral requires...it has nothing to do with the man's skill as a lover.
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posted: 03/29/09 at 7:44 AM
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One of my exes...was not so great at oral.
He always offered, and I always said no. Because not only was he bad at it, but it was boring.
He did this thing...it always seemed like my vagina told him something he SERIOUSLY disagreed with. He'd just always shake his head "No!"
I think someone told him somewhere it was all about using your whole face or something...whoever did that needs smacked.
He'd get so into it and I'd have to cover my mouth to keep from laughing 
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posted: 03/29/09 at 8:30 AM
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Originally posted by Katie S.
6) Unlike a man, a woman's ability to orgasm is much more psychological. This is something many men do not understand because men are wired differently. If she has a lot on her mind is anxious about something, it can get in the way.
Says who? Sorry to take this out of topic, but this is something that I need to clear up for any and all females that are under this impression. If I can reach out to at least just one of you, that would truly make me a happy camper. So listen closely and carefully please.
Men are just as susceptible to psychological distractions as women. The difference is that it takes something on a grander scale to affect a man's emotions to point that they will experience an inability to perform, and/or an inability to have an orgasm. Men are wired differently only in the sense that it is easier for them to let go of their emotional disturbances. So it’s not that they don’t understand; it’s that many men are selfish lovers, and really just don’t care. The ones who truly don’t understand are usually inexperienced.
A huge problem is that a lot of women stereotype men into being these really simple creatures. This presumption needs to stop! Because when a man cannot perform or have an orgasm, the woman often takes it VERY personally: She will begin to think that something is wrong with her, she's not doing something right, or that her partner doesn't find her attractive. All the while the majority of the time, and in almost all cases, it has absolutely nothing to do with her. However, she will make it about her. This is a mentality that is not shared by males, because most of them in fact DO understand that sometimes things don’t cum so easily for females if you know what I mean.
The fact of the matter is this: If either partner has difficulty reaching sexual climax, communication needs to open up, NOT shut down. Unfortunately this is what happens, while assumptions take the place of proper communication.
Other than #6, I agree with everything else.
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posted: 06/22/09 at 11:00 PM
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Originally posted by BleedingHart
You know, quite a few women get turned on and ready for intercourse just by blowing a guy. .
That does it for me all the time...Im ready within the first minute of a blow job...even kissing my man does it for me, but i do prefer some foreplay, rather than just jumping into it.
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posted: 06/23/09 at 12:36 AM
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My S/O is amazing at oral! I couldn't imagine denying him the pleasure-- or rather, my pleasure-- of doing it.
My first experience with oral was bad. Not the type of 'bad' that I never wanted to try it again...he was just...well, he had absolutely no idea what the hell he was doing. No tongue action practically.
Despite that, I kept an open-mind and knew that it would be something I would enjoy with someone who actually knew what to do. I'm guessing your GF probably had a 'blah' experience that has made her indifferent to it.
Either that or, as a few others have said, maybe she's self-conscious about her appearance down there, etc.
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sex first thing posted: 07/01/09 at 8:35 PM
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A ex GF always wanted to have sex first. I mean within 5 minutes of seeing her. She liked foreplay but made it clear that before we did anything, movie, dinner, drinks, that the first priority was sex.
She said that she would think about sex during the day and when we got together she was ready for sex. Who am I to complain?
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posted: 07/31/09 at 8:22 AM
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In the past, I wasn't into oral sex at all. If I wasnt asked to give head, I never offered to do so and I didn't give a hoot about oral sex for myself either. My first boyfriend was a big fan of '69 and he was rough and selfish about it so I didnt like it. I wasn't deeply in love with him so I think that made all the difference emotionally because he did give me orgasms technically. Still, I wasnt fond of '69 on the whole.Just wasnt my cup of tea.
I guess you could say that I just liked missionary style sex.Boring and dull I know.Simple and easy to do.lol
I kicked one lover out of bed because he got too wild about oral sex.I can only take so much of it and than I just want it to stop.
he wouldnt stop so I kicked his ass right outta bed.no problem.no regret.didnt care if he didnt want to ever do it again.guess it doesnt mean that much to me .i havent analyzed it.perhaps i should.perhaps if i had enjoyed it in the begginning, i would feel differently.not everyone is wild about oral sex.i dont think it makes me a bad lover in the long run.just a boring one i guess.lol
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posted: 07/31/09 at 6:59 PM
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| Okay I felt kinda how your girl does. I wasnt big into receiving b/c the few guys that did do that, didnt do it well oe did it for like 2 mins and thought that was good enough. It kinda turned me off of it b/c it didnt really turn me on and kinda frustrated me. I would give head, but I really got to the point where I didnt want to recieve. Than I met my fiance and he loves to give oral. He knew my past issues with it and he slowly warmed me into the idea and let me guide him, even though he knew what he was doing. It gave me a comfort to feel like I had control. Now, I love it! He is the only man to make me cum from oral and I now know what it is suppose to feel like. I think I also needed someone who emotionally understood where I stood with my oral "issues". I think you should talk to her and be open with her and tell her you want to satisify her and let her guide you and tell you what feels good and what doesnt!
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posted: 07/31/09 at 8:16 PM
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My wife rarely will cum from oral, but she knows that tasting her is a huge thrill and a turn on for me. She's commented how hard I get when she's sitting on my face (literally). Once she realized how hot it got me, she started getting into it too and now she gets really wet seeing how excited it makes me. Now it's a turn on for her knowing how hot she can get me, and she'll sometimes tease me with it.
I suggest letting your lover know how hot it gets you to taste and touch her, but in return you have to not make it be about getting her to cum. Hopefully she'll enjoy treating you that way. If she happens to cum then so much the better, but let her know that it's your kink and she's giving you a huge treat.
Hope that helps.
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posted: 10/14/09 at 1:52 AM
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I love giving woman oral. I've done so much of it with my ex wife while married and the other two girlfriends I've been with. This however tops the cake. I met my girlfriend and the one time I gave her oral, she loved it. She was squirming like there's no tomorrow and said, "God you're all over the place". It made me feel good that I was pleasing her, but that was the last time. Later she told me that she spots and bleeds due to Endometriosis. Therefore, the first and only time we did it was when she wasn't spotting. Thank God. What I'm here to say it that I would continue, but she doesn't feel comfortable because of spotting and I can live with that too.
I on the other hand would love for her to arouse me as well, such as a hand job or a blow job. She doesn't want to give blow jobs because she has braces in her mouth and she doesn't want to hurt me. I can respect that too. I want to find ways thru communicating with her that we should both get each other aroused. During foreplay, she doesn't want me to finger her, so the only thing that is left is carassing and playing\sucking her breast. I would like her to take me. Reach down and start to massage me and get me so freakin hard that it will take me a week for it to go limp. My problem is that if I can't get hard and stay aroused, then I don't feel like a man and can't please her. Any advice?
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posted: 07/01/09 at 8:08 PM
