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How do you guys survive your time apart? posted: 08/01/07 at 7:58 AM
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It's driving me insane that I won't get to see my sweetie until December.
Tell me how to survive such a long time apart. How do you guys keep the faith? Worries and speculations are such slippery slopes. How do you get a grip, especially when he/she is not the kind to give verbal assurances. How to you juggle the daily grind of a full time job (or 2) and anxiety when you get home, alone. How do you make ends meet when plane tickets cost a fortune? And the weight of the decision of "to move or not to move" on a daily basis? Tell me why don't you guys just try to find someone closer? My best friends think I should. Why does it have to be so hard?
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posted: 08/01/07 at 9:18 AM
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Its been a long hard day for me so ill start. lol
It's driving me insane that I won't get to see my sweetie until December.
December? Look on the bright side, your going to see your sweetie. I book my ticket today and it was NOT going to see mine [the realization that she just doesn't want to see me]. Feel better? lol
Tell me how to survive such a long time apart.
How much do you want it? so so... or too much! Remind yourself what your working for. Before, I always do that. And Daydream. I had pictures printed out, her presents everywhere, even the first thing she gave me pin to my desk as a reminder.
How do you guys keep the faith?
believe in the other person. hope is free. No reason to not have faith.
Worries and speculations are such slippery slopes. How do you get a grip, especially when he/she is not the kind to give verbal assurances.
Worries - thats a long one. You can only control of things in your life TODAY. Worrying about tomorrow does no good but hinder your progress today. We live day by day, cant change the past, cant perdict the future. So what are you going to do today that will make tomorrow better?
Trust them? When you doubt... your saying their liars. Liars of their feelings for you, of that they say, what they do. Have some faith in your mate. And know that your mind is stupid sometimes...[i know it sucks, mines way stupid] Speculations are just that... no proof behind them. No proof no pudding.
How to you juggle the daily grind of a full time job (or 2) and anxiety when you get home, alone.
I take a deep breath [like i am now, i miss her lol] Then i look at a picture of her and remind myself what im working for. There is no... giving up, nothing that will stop me. You have to be hungry. fuken hungry.
As for the lonely part, im sure you can ask them for help if your lonely. Talk to them when you can, write letters, ect. And know that soon you will see them... touch them, look into their eyes, see their smile. Things that people who have their love sometimes take for granted every day. Ahh hahaha there i go :P
How do you make ends meet when plane tickets cost a fortune?
Depends where you are. As for making ends meat... thats a budget situation and living below your means.
And the weight of the decision of "to move or not to move" on a daily basis? Why worry about this when you cant even make ends meat? Get stable then think about it. When you do though.... How much do you love them? [yes, i know that we have friends/family we leave behind too... someone has to move. someone has to let go and sacrafice for the other. It just all comes down to how much we love the person and the risk we are willing to take for them]
Tell me why don't you guys just try to find someone closer?
Because we love the one that we are/were with. It didn't happen by choice, it just happened lol. Closer would take care of some problems but you'll still have problems regardless. LDR's take more work, effort, love. More of everything. You really do know that when you make it through... there's a better understanding and closer then ever.
My best friends think I should. Why does it have to be so hard? Yea, we could abandon things and go for the easy route... sorry thats for wussies.
"Its the hard that makes it great."
Who ever appreciated anything easy that they ever did? NO ONE. If its worth a damn its going to be hard as shit.
Woo long one. Good regardless. Stay strong...once you've hit rock bottom the only way left is up lol
ps. OO and you can post on here :P someone will answer, am i right? hahaha
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posted: 08/01/07 at 2:39 PM
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How do you get a grip, especially when he/she is not the kind to give verbal assurances.
-- Communication is key. If you need verbal assurances then you need to tell them that.
How do you make ends meet when plane tickets cost a fortune?
-- The earlier you book a flight, the cheaper it is. Also there's the option of working more, cutting back on things, and/or a combo of both.
And the weight of the decision of "to move or not to move" on a daily basis?
-- If this is a serious relationship and by serious I mean lifetime then eventually someone will have to move. The key is finding out what makes the most sense in terms of who should move.
Tell me why don't you guys just try to find someone closer?
-- Because I don't want "someone closer" I want the man I am committed to.
Why does it have to be so hard?
--Life is hard. Relationships in general are hard. LDR's are no exception.
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posted: 08/01/07 at 3:07 PM
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All i can say is I got to know a man from the inside out for the first time an I wouldn't trade that for anything.
I have to trust an know he loves me,I keep our memories close to my heart an his face memorized in my mind..an no its not easy I miss him so much every min of everyday But what we have is so special ,I don't want it with anyone else..why would I?
To me His love is a gift ,something I'm fighting to keep real an awaiting the day we can be together forever
Good luck,as for me Im staying right where i am
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posted: 08/01/07 at 5:42 PM
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The faith depends on your love and trust... In an LDRs insecurities are bound to creep in... But you gotta be strong... Remember communication and trust is the key to succeed in an LDR!!
Finding someone closer is always easy... But that is not the answer otherwise each one of us would not be posting here in this forum...
Take Care!!!
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Nishant
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