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posted: 08/07/12 at 8:33 PM
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Originally posted by banarabbyt1
He can't see you for a few weeks because he's apartment hunting? I'd move on, sounds like a lame excuse to me. I mean if he said over the weekend or something, but weeks? It doesn't take that long to find an apartment! Even if it did, he doesn't have one day a week, for a few hours, to hang out? Nah, sounds like he doesn't know how to say he's not really interested, a guy who is interested will make time, not tell you he'll see you in a few weeks.
Well he didn't say he doesn't want to see me in the next few weeks, he did mention that he'd like to see me again (when possible) if I'd like to as well.
I somehow think he's interested but trying to keep his options open or that he's got other priorties at this time. I'll make a pass then.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 9:14 PM
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| Well if you think he's interested then continue to pursue him, IMO if he were he wouldn't be telling you how busy he is, but that he'll see you "when possible" and continuing to email despite you telling him to call/text and not email or go through the dating site. IMO he'd be telling you when he is free and asking you when you are free, that sort of thing, I mean, I'm not the one speaking to him, but to me, just seems like either he's not really interested, or he's too busy right now for a real relationship, which for you, doesn't seem to be what you want.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 9:40 PM
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| Maybe he's just letting you know that right now it's important he gets a new place to live because let's face it, having a place to live is important, but that he does want to find time to hang out again. I think he was really great to be honest with you. However, maybe that's just me.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 11:20 PM
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Well here's another update.
He messaged me and said, he'd definitly want to see me again because I made a really good impression etc etc. That he'll definitly call me tomorrow and even tell me something he's dealing with at the moment which is rather uncomfortable situation. I'm assuming it has something to do with his ex which he mentioned on our date most of his stuff is still where he used to live with her. He texted me that he'll call tomorrow night and wished me good night.
Do I have "emotional unavailable men" applied on my forhead, it seems I just hand pick them myself ...so annoying.
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posted: 08/07/12 at 11:35 PM
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First off doesn't sound like he is emotionally unavailable and you BOTH are in the same boat of getting out of relationships and deciding to start dating right away again. So you both are in the same boat either take it slow get to know him and when it feels right for you two to make it "official" or enjoy this as getting to know a guy who is in a similar situation as you and helping you move past your last ex.
On another note hun keep in mind we pick the same type of men not because we "have a sign" calling for them but because ourselves are attracted to the quality and non verbally put out that vibe and it attracts those types. Just saying.
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posted: 08/08/12 at 12:01 AM
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Yeah I wouldn't want to be with someone who is dealing with drama right from the beginning. Why is he even on a dating site if he's got so much going on?!
It's your call, but I'd tell him to hit you up when he's done with whatever he needs to do and available, and in the meantime keep looking, don't wait around for him, and if he's nothing but drama definitely don't hang around! That way if you are seeing someone by the time he can, oh well, and if you aren't, then you can see if you can have a relationship.
Either way, keep looking 
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posted: 08/08/12 at 3:15 AM
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Baby..maybe this guy likes you alittle but he's not too sure about his feelings..well, it is still the early stage now so just perhaps the message is not that clear from him, Anyway, *if* I really like a guy, i would give it afew more dates before I judge or conclude anything but that's me.(bcos I don't like 'rushing')
Actually, this is very easy to handle, if you dont like his way of texting communication then TELL him honestly that you prefer through phone calls for follow up dates. If you feel that he is moving too slow and think that he is wasting your time then move on to the next date..simple as that! no rocket science, no mind games and you dont have to crack your head at all..
But always remember this baby..while you are picking/choosing a guy..he's also choosing you.. If every guy you date, you keep over-analyze everything and trying to find some minor 'faults' with them..to be honest and imo, I think you will never find that guy you are looking for and worst of all..you may never get married bcos none of the guy is good for you.
I always believe this..if everyone (including me) advise you the same things again and again maybe its time you really open up your ears and listen up..I have been reading your threads for months and it's always the same problems repeating in your dating/relationships. Yeah, its true that your ex does have some issues thats why your last relationship didnt work out but you need to fix your own issues too before it gets worst, otherwise every relationship for you will never last long. Just my thoughts.
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posted: 08/08/12 at 6:17 AM
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Do I have "emotional unavailable men" applied on my forhead, it seems I just hand pick them myself ...so annoying.
It's not that.it's just a lot of people actually get out of relationship or marriage fresh,jump right to dating sites thinking they can do it or they want to move on and then woalah. If you think about it,didn't you just have mention couple days ago or a week ago you went out with a guy and you suddenly missed your ex? technically it's the same. The different is, you don't make it 'known' or at least not yet.
I think some people without they realize it ,bump into their 'own baggage' that they try to 'run away from it' in dating sites a lot sometimes. You get off from relationship fresh,want a new start even though you still not fully move on but you think you should move on,you join dating sites,meet this person and oops he/she's thinking the same thing! As long as you spotted that earlier,it's a good thing. instead of thinking it's annoying ,you should be thanking God. I'd rather meet someone that I know have baggage earlier than meet someone who pretends they've moved on when he clearly hasn't and along the line when he's with you,keep thinking bout the ex and months later,drop you off.
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posted: 08/08/12 at 12:05 PM
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I'm with Bana. On this one. So I send him a txt today saying that how I understand he seems very hesistant and perhaps it's due to the fact that he's still connected to his former relationship. The fact that he's taking so long to make date 2 seems very complicated to me.
I understand that he's choosing me too, but he's not taking the opportunity, I can't have a man being undecisive on a first date that he's dragging this along. He says he wants to see me again but there's no set date. I'm trying to avoid mind games and having things complicated. I did tell him however, to contact me when he has time to date.
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