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posted: 08/02/12 at 3:02 AM
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Originally posted by Gail65
What do you have to lose? absolutely nothing. Live dangerously a little, take a chance, provoke life!! If he doesn't like you back so what! You'll move to next. Maybe, just maybe he does like you too.....
What have I got to lose ? Well, my pride for sure, and also our friendship. I would find it hard to see him again. Sounds silly, eh !!
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posted: 08/02/12 at 3:18 AM
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What friendship? You guys only talk every 3-4 months. This sounds like an acquaintance to me. Is he the only friend you have at this moment? I mean whats the worse that can happen?
"Hey I was wondering if you liked me more than a friend?"
"Oh um..no?"
"Oh OK. Was just curious. So did you see the olympics?"
Done...move on. It will get awkward if you make it awkward. At least you know and can stop spending all of this time wondering if he likes you. Or you can make a decision to stop infatuating.
And think about how many times guys have to lose their pride when braving themselves up enough to ask a girl out? A lot of them get rejected to. Consider this character building. Whatever hasn't killed you, made you stronger. Sure it will sting, but you won't be so hesitant the next time. Personally I believe the older one gets, the less of a shit they give whether a person is going to reject them or not, as long as they don't waste their time!
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posted: 08/02/12 at 3:31 AM
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Originally posted by fair_is_fair
What friendship? You guys only talk every 3-4 months. This sounds like an acquaintance to me. Is he the only friend you have at this moment? I mean whats the worse that can happen?
"Hey I was wondering if you liked me more than a friend?"
"Oh um..no?"
"Oh OK. Was just curious. So did you see the olympics?"
Done...move on. It will get awkward if you make it awkward. At least you know and can stop spending all of this time wondering if he likes you. Or you can make a decision to stop infatuating.
And think about how many times guys have to lose their pride when braving themselves up enough to ask a girl out? A lot of them get rejected to. Consider this character building. Whatever hasn't killed you, made you stronger. Sure it will sting, but you won't be so hesitant the next time. Personally I believe the older one gets, the less of a shit they give whether a person is going to reject them or not, as long as they don't waste their time!
You will be a good friend for someone lucky out there. You are not a councillor by any chance? LOL!!
Besides meeting up, we do email too. We have known each other for over 12 years, and have worked together previously.
I love your pragmatic answers. I sound like a ditzy wimp at the moment - I am on holiday. I will get over this once I go back to work.
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posted: 08/02/12 at 3:45 AM
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hahaha, no not a councelor! More like a nosy neighbor. :]
12 years is a long time, so I can see the hesitation...but I still figure if he likes you like that, he would be more proactively of telling you so. I think its crazy awkward he kissed you on the neck....but then you guys pretended it never happened?
Were you two drunk at the time? What was the circumstance around that? And flirting...eh..a lot of people flirt. I would not take that as a clear signal without more evidence in hand.
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posted: 08/02/12 at 4:11 AM
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Originally posted by fair_is_fair
hahaha, no not a councelor! More like a nosy neighbor. :]
12 years is a long time, so I can see the hesitation...but I still figure if he likes you like that, he would be more proactively of telling you so. I think its crazy awkward he kissed you on the neck....but then you guys pretended it never happened?
Were you two drunk at the time? What was the circumstance around that? And flirting...eh..a lot of people flirt. I would not take that as a clear signal without more evidence in hand.
That kiss on the neck - we met up as usual and he came towards me , hugged me and kiss me on the neck quickly. I thought at that time what was that? We had lunch and when we were leaving, he did it again for a whole lot longer. Never talked about since in the emails or otherwise. Met again 2 months later, he greeted me with a quick kiss on the neck again. Again didn't talk about it. When we were leaving, I stood away from him and wave goodbye, without giving him a chance to do it again!
So no, we were not drunk.
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posted: 08/02/12 at 5:00 AM
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| If there was no rhyme or reason for it....then I cant say it was significant. Although that would be awkward. I had friends that kissed me on the cheek and it meant nothing. You should have asked "what was that?" I certainly would have at least cracked a joke "oh you are getting all fancy on me all of a sudden?" to open him up a bit.
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posted: 08/02/12 at 7:53 AM
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Originally posted by fair_is_fair
If there was no rhyme or reason for it....then I cant say it was significant. Although that would be awkward. I had friends that kissed me on the cheek and it meant nothing. You should have asked "what was that?" I certainly would have at least cracked a joke "oh you are getting all fancy on me all of a sudden?" to open him up a bit.
I will have to remember to joke about it and ask him what that was about if he ever does it again !
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posted: 08/08/12 at 6:24 PM
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I'm late getting into this and on the assumption you want it to be more.
So ask him. Make MORE contact. Email him and set up a time to chat.
HINT: Tell him, "Next time you might try kissing me someplace other than my neck."
Tell him, 'I may be wrong here but I think I'm feeling more than I should. If I'm getting this all wrong, then I'm sorry. I just feel like I'm stuck alone out on this limb of this tree."
I just feel you want more. Perhaps he feels the same but doesn't want to loose what he has. It's a chance you might want to take. OR risc loosing it all.
Are you willing to wait till he finds someone else?
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“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” - Marilyn Monroe
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