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Looking for a guy's opinion on this... posted: 07/24/12 at 2:44 AM
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So here's the story.
This new guy started where I worked. We really hit it off instantly. He seems to really like me, but he's also kind of a flirt. A few weeks after I met him, we were all out at the bar together, and he was a lot more drunk than I was. As soon as he saw me, he only talked to me, and all he kept repeatedly saying was that I was going home with him. He was completely drunk, so I did not.
The next day at work, he didn't remember what he had said, so I told him... because I do kind of have a thing for him. The catch is that I am an out lesbian at work. He knew that and apologized. I told him there was no need. And when I wasn't around a few days later, someone said to him, "I heard you like [name] when you're drunk..." and he said that he likes me when he's sober, too.
Fast forward to a couple days ago, we go out again. Neither of us got quite as drunk as before. The whole time we were there, he practically only talked to me. He did kind of make a joke about me being his wing man. I laughed it off. In general he's really hard to read though... his body language would seem like he really does like me, but at the same time, he's a little weird and kind of a flirt in general.
So after I got home, drunk, I ended up sending him a somewhat regrettable text message... basically saying that I wanted to make my intentions clear, that I didn't want to be his wing man, and that yes I am a lesbian but there was always exceptions. I thought that was a pretty clear text but he said he was confused and we would talk about it tomorrow. Saw him at work the next day, he said he didn't really understand what I said to him, and we both just kind of blew it off, like maybe it was better that way. But it's not, because I've really got it bad for this guy.
So was I wrong to be so forward? He's moving away soon, so I figure the time is now. And I'm not trying to marry the guy, not gonna lie, I'm mostly trying to make good on what he said the first time we went out. No strings attached. :P Did I mess up? As a guy, is that off-putting? And I don't really know how to read his response. We're still texting... just about whatever, but it's not like he's stopped talking to me or anything. I don't know. Guys are weird. :P
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posted: 07/24/12 at 8:00 PM
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| Guys aren't always the brightest, ESPECIALLY when they're told at least twice that you're a lesbian and yet they're expected to ignore that? I'm confused, too...
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posted: 07/24/12 at 9:39 PM
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@ Lozza Really?... I didn't really imagine he would take it that way. :/
@ Agirlforme I kind of thought the same thing, like he was intentionally not understanding. I don't really know why though, I mean we really hit it off and I'm not asking for anything serious.
@ Pusser I'm sorry I'm apparently confusing everyone, lol. I never personally told him directly that I'm a lesbian, he heard that from other people. And while it's true, I came out a couple years ago, "lesbian" seemed like the easiest-to-understand answer for everyone at the time... I'm like, 85% lesbian, lol. Like I said, I believe there are always exceptions.
I'm kind of hoping we can go out again sometime, but it's hard to see him at work because we have the same job position and usually work opposite shifts. And I don't really want to invite myself out with him... I embarrassed myself enough I think. lol. I'm hoping he invites me out sometime and maybe I can make myself clearer next time. Just rip my clothes off? Your place or mine? lol kidding. Except not really. :P
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posted: 07/27/12 at 2:54 PM
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| We went out again last night, and afterwards I texted him again and told him exactly what I thought/wanted. And he didn't answer. Now it was late and we both work this morning so I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt and think maybe he was sleeping. But its not looking good. And now I get to see him at work in an hour and I hope its not completely weird. Ugh.
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posted: 08/13/12 at 6:54 AM
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| He really like you paradoxical and that the reason he could not sleep all the night. You are lesbian this is another point, You have heart? I think now a days he is feeling love for you only for you and hurt himself but think when he leaves you and you starting love him when what you do?
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