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It was there....then it wasn't..... Unhappy posted: 09/13/11 at 5:34 PM

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So all of you that KNOW me on here know how long I have been down about not being able to get pregnant. The most common response was, you will when it's the right guy/time.....

Well, last month I began bleeding profusly. It lasted for 26 days. I thought it was an abnormal period. On the last day I had massive sharp shooting pains in my lower back and across my lower stomach. I ran to the bathroom thinking I had to....go to the bathroom. I had a ton of blood come out, more pain, then nothing. After a little while it all stopped and I stopped bleeding..

It was later confirmed I had had a complete miscarriage. I didn't even know I was pregnant! All my tests were negative and when I started bleeding I thought that meant it was my period...

So I was finally pregnant....by my ex...and I lost it and never knew.

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posted: 09/13/11 at 11:56 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your painful situation. That's a lot of loss to deal with. I hope you can find some people and things around you to give you comfort.

I'm not sure this will help, but it seems like you already know you were not in a good situation to have a little one. I think your body knew, too.

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posted: 09/14/11 at 6:58 PM

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Yes maybe you are right Misty.....It's just horrible to think I was FINALLY pregnant and I didn't even know until I lost it...... (maybe I should say him, my ex is convinced it would have been a boy) I just don't even know how to get over that....it seems like everywhere I go it's magnafied. 2 people at work; their kids just had babies...my best friend just had a baby, my other friend is discussing a baby with her man......plus the numerous other friends who are my age or younger already having 1-2 kids....

Then the guy I am interested in right now... I told him what happened and he felt horrible for me. Then one night he's looking at me and says "you know you'd be really cute pregnant." Then he couldn't understand WHY I got upset over that comment.

How do people get over miscarriages?

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"Giving up does not mean you're weak, sometimes it means you're strong enough to let go."

"Fairy tales are more than true. Not because they tell us dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be defeated."

"I believe everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they are right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

"when people love eachother, and then suddenly one of them isnt there anymore, its the distance that hurts, and the distance is the same no matter whos doing the leaving."

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posted: 01/27/12 at 3:42 PM

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I know this thread is old, but I think so many people can't relate to miscarriage, so they say inappropriate comments.

I could totally understand 100% why you'd be upset with that comment, it was highly inappropriate to say considering you'd been trying so long and lost a pregnancy.

I'm sorry for your loss

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