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Oral Sex For Erectile Dysfunction posted: 11/16/06 at 11:29 AM

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Has any women on this forum,etc. performed oral
sex on their s/o man who has ED as a way of
reliefing the ED problem to keep their sex life
together?I would really like to know as i have
ED.


DONK

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posted: 11/25/06 at 2:33 PM

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I noticed no one answered. My guy has this problem. I can get him semi hard (without viagra). It is like any other sex, alot of it foreplay. If he doesn't get all the way hard, then he usually goes down on me or fingers me to climax. He usually uses the viagra though and everything proceeds normally.

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posted: 11/26/06 at 12:36 AM
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The few times that my husband has lost his erection during sex, I performed oral on him until he got it back. Is that what you were asking?

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ORAL SEX FOR ED posted: 11/26/06 at 6:57 AM

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To aisling/1 Thats exactly what i am talking about.You performed
oral on him and he got his erection back.I have said to my wife
that because of my ED we have to try different things and i am
more than willing to try different things;dildos,penis extension,
vibrators,etc. what ever it takes to pleasure both of us.
Thanks for your comment your husband is fortunate that you
are willing to do oral.My wife thinks any thing oral is dirty.I think
she is a puritan but doesnt know it.

DONK

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posted: 11/27/06 at 6:03 AM
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Ha. Well, for the majority of our marriage, it has been me that has had the sexual dysfunction (i.e., I was not able to have intercourse without pain), so we have gotten very good at satisfying each other in other ways. I still prefer oral sex to intercourse, but I am finally able to experience intercourse without pain, so we are exploring that avenue now, and we certainly don't let occasional setbacks (i.e., loss of erection for him/return of pain for me) stop us from enjoying ourselves.

I mean even if he didn't get his erection back, I would still be very satisfied.

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posted: 11/27/06 at 6:17 AM
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I have a problem where after about 20 minutes of foreplay I go soft very easily unless I have quite a bit of stimulation. It happens when I am alone too so perhaps it is a mild form of ED. For me, the problem lies in either achieving the erection initially (if I wait too long as noted above) or reestablishing the erection after losing it due to lack of stimulation. In the past my primary mechanism for dealing with this has been to trick my brain and take a 15-20 minute break and do something entirely differen than sex. Unfortunately, if a partner is ready to go then, sometimes women can't just take a break like that and get back into as easily as I can.

I know that oral sex certainly will bring my erection right back in a number of cases, but I too have been with a partner who simply wouldn't do it for me and who also wouldn't use manual stimulation. It really makes the problem worse than it would have to be imo! And you have to be super careful not to let even a small bit of anxiety build up or you may be looking at no erection at all for a good long time.

I believe I have found several good solutions. And they do involve sex toys. Notably, c*ck rings do a good job at trapping bloodflow. It usually doesn't allow me to get a full erection, BUT I can get enough blood trapped to enter her. And once I am in I get the stimulation I need and I do achieve an erection. I feel the same can be accomplished using masturbation sleeves. I have one made of futurotic material. I cut off enough material so that I can slide it on while mostly flaccid, leaving the tip exposed. I then simply masturbate with it. Again, this mimics the feel of a vagina and I get an erection. I can do that when having ED type problems and I can also do that when I just want to get hard again after having several orgasms but can't seem to do it with my hand alone or mentally.

I am single at the moment, but I am certainly going to be looking for an understanding partner in the future. I may have little need for ED drugs like viagra or cialis if I use the above techniques and have a partner who is patient and understanding.

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posted: 11/28/06 at 2:04 AM

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Oral sex is a major help for me when I am experiencing ED. We prefer to use Caverject (a drug injected directly into the penis with a very small needle) and then she sucks me to get me hard. It lasts longer and gives me stronger erections than Viagra, Cialis or any other drugs.

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ORAL SEX FOR ED posted: 11/28/06 at 7:22 AM

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Have any of you men with ED considered a penile prosthesis?I
was wondering because as of this year my medical plan will
pay 90 % of the cost.
My urologist seems very confident in the implant operation
with the pump.I read recently where a man in rhode island
had the malleable rods installed and he had an erection for
10 years.He sued and received about 400,000 dollars.At first
it sounded funny because for me even before ED once i
penetrated my wife it was maybe 2 or 3 minutes to ejaculation
time.That man in rhode island should get an award for the
worlds record.
I know with the implant and pump the penis will get stiff but
that doesnt guarantee ejaculation.However as i under stand
you could also use viagra to cum off.I dont know if you could
use caver ject or not.I really believe if i had the implant and my
penis could stay hard i am sure my wife would enjoy that.

DONK

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Re: ORAL SEX FOR ED posted: 11/29/06 at 10:18 PM

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quote:
Originally posted by DONK
I have said to my wife that because of my ED we have to try different things; dildos, penis extension,
vibrators, etc. what ever it takes to pleasure both of us.

There's no question that, due to this issue, that you will have to try different things and hopefully your wife will be understanding and supportive.

With the last few months I've occassionally experienced some ED problems due to age, health, meds, etc. I've experienced difficulty getting hard initially, staying hard (especially after orgasm- which never used to be a problem) or getting hard again after some initial foreplay and erection. Fortunately my wife's been very supportive and understanding. We've used toys and oral and manual stimulation to achieve our climaxes. Do be aware though that, at least in my case, oral stimulation does not always get me hard again after losing my initial erection. Some of that undoubtedly is the emotional feelings of pressure and frustration at what's happening and her expectations and desires. But it's a fact of life at times, so you have to relax, be flexible and enjoy yourself by whatever means you can.

Cardinal had some good (and creative) suggestions,one of which I've tried. I've used regular, circular c**k rings successfully to get and keep an erection. Assuming you don't have to unroll the entire length a condom can also have the same affect. The rolled up portion at the bottom will put some pressure on the base of the penis, enough (in my case) to help keep an erection.

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posted: 03/04/07 at 9:03 AM

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One partner is older (late 50s) and does have a problem with ED. SO, a BJ is just the ticket. We rarely have intercourse b/c of that...it's OK b/c we please each other in other ways :-)

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