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why do guys act weird after sex? posted: 09/06/06 at 8:56 PM
whatagurl  [more]
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i posted yesterday for the first time about how i was with my bf for the first time over the weekend (and he ended up going home because he said he felt guilty about not spending time with his kids)

well yesterday was the first time since we met that we didnt talk on the phone at all i actually thought bein intemet was going to make us closer but now i think hes putting distnace between us. all day i had a really weird feeling. i didnt hear from him at all during the day. i called him last night at the usual time we talk and got his vm. in the month weve been together i think ive only gotten his vm 2x and both times he called right back. well i didnt leave a msg. he called back at like 11:30pm but by then i was too furious to take his call and was afraid id say something ugly so i didnt answer it.

whyyyyy do guys pull back like that after sex? he was acting a little wierd on mon when we talked but we had a good convo and i thought everything was ok.

does all this sound like maybe he used me for sex??

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posted: 09/06/06 at 9:06 PM

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To me it sounds as though he did, i think you should talk to him about it.

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posted: 09/06/06 at 10:46 PM
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thanks girl. i feel so sick over this whole thing and im just scared now. everything was soooo great BEFORE the deed...i just wish i wouldve waited longer now.

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posted: 09/07/06 at 12:14 AM

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I know that I don't know anything about your situation, and I'm not claiming to, but could it be that he's just been busy? If not busy, he could've been thinking over what happened between you two or sorting out some feelings of his own.

Don't be so quick to assume he used you for sex. He might think the same as you: "i just wish i wouldve waited longer". That doesn't mean he doesn't want anything to do with you.

Keep an open mind to the situation, see what becomes of it. Don't close off the possibilitiy that there's just been a minor breakdown of communication. If you like him, then give him a chance.

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posted: 09/07/06 at 2:32 PM

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I don't know what to say about it. My guy and I have been doing the LD thing for over a year now(TG that's ending in 24 days..) and....he never was that way with me. He is extremely affectionate and snuggly after sex.....Hell, I was basically using him for a one night stand and he pursued me massively...I figured 400 miles was stupid to try something.

He may just be busy.......but it doesn't sound good to me. I could be wrong. Good luck.

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UPDATE posted: 09/07/06 at 7:51 PM
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thanks for the replies! here's an update...
he called me yesterday during the day and said he had been sleeping the night before and apologized. ok thats allowed (i guess ha ha) and he did call me again last night. his job is wearing him out and he's been going home and crashing. I knew he was taking these little catnaps, but he said now he crashes and sleeps for hours. and he sounded all groggy, like he really did just wake up, so I don't think he's bein shady. i told him how i was feeling and he was really cool about it. he said no he was not avoiding me at all blah blah. when we went to hang up he was like so we're ok? we're good, right? so that made me feel better...

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posted: 09/08/06 at 12:13 AM

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*smiles* Good, things did work out. I'm glad. =)

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posted: 09/08/06 at 12:48 AM
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thank you!!

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posted: 09/09/06 at 12:49 PM

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Glad to hear it

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posted: 09/09/06 at 4:57 PM

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I think maybe he just used you most men arnt usally that way after sex. Not if they want more than just sex from you. My man is very affectionate after. lots of cuddles and kisses and snuggling

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