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Does anal sex ruin the anus? posted: 05/19/05 at 3:47 AM
biz1940  [more]
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So my girl has never had anal sex and we are thinking about it but she has a nice, tight, virgin anus and I'd rather not ruin that.


If we do it, is she going to have one of those large, loose, porn star butts, or does it go back to its original niceness after a while rest?

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posted: 05/19/05 at 4:47 AM

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I'd have to say don't do it unless your HIGHLY curious!!!!! She won't get a loose porn star butt unless you guys do it a lot of times i'm assuming. But if your TOO rough, and don't know what your doing, you could hurt her and ruin her "virgin anus" I've heard it talked about on the sex shows... if your rough and don't be cautious, it could be bad for her. So if you decide to do it, you should be VERY gentle, and have some kind of feeling for what your doing or want to do.

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Question posted: 05/19/05 at 5:13 AM

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Ona Gurl is right..the key word is gentle,slow, and soft with lots of lube....Don't go ramming it like there's no tomorrow.If you engaged in anal every now and then,she won't get a 'loose' one.
The anal muscles will go back to their original position as long as you don't bang her back door every night......Slow,gentle,easy,soft with lots of lube!

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posted: 05/19/05 at 6:57 AM
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Make sure she tells you when it hurts. If it hurts her, stop! Work up to it first though. Fingers and toys come first. Don't forget the lube!! Enjoy!

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posted: 05/20/05 at 6:39 AM

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Done right, snug is good!

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posted: 05/21/05 at 2:09 AM

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quote:
Originally posted by bconway
If you engaged in anal every now and then,she won't get a 'loose' one.
The anal muscles will go back to their original position as long as you don't bang her back door every night......Slow,gentle,

Sounds like a good "rule of thumb" for giving time for all involved tissues (muscles and perhaps more importantly, blood vessels and mucoses) to recover. If any recovery is needed, that is.

Mucose like in the mouth and intestines recovers quite quickly. It has to: it's a main barrier between bugs and the body. Good lubing prevents erosions and resulting irritations.

IMO, when it comes to frequency, it all depends on each couple.
About the woman: not all female anuses are created equal.

Each anus may have its own peculiarities in regards to anal sex. Many factors at play, besides both sides communicating, being careful, and using lube. Mind attitude, like fear, is one of them, regardless of desire to try.
Being stressed out about other things in her own life, can be a factor too. Lots of ppl run around with tight-azzes, "Chronic anal tension is the most common cause of anal discomfort during sex." --Dr. Morin (see URL link below)

About the guy: if he has a super-thick one, then the strain on even a well-trained opening may require more time between sessions.

As for regular anal sex, I can say that in one relationship, me & this woman had it almost everyday for the couple of years we were together. Never had a problem with it. She did not develop a 'loose' or gaping anus. Plusses in our situation, I'm not a monster in regards to girth, and I always did it slowly (at least until finish time...).

Tightness: I have been with women who had had a couple of children, and their vaginas were ^much looser^ than any anus I've ever had. (except for one, but that was due to her being into playing with herself with really thick things!)

As for retaining forever that original "virgin tightness": U may find it will be gone in some cases, even with all care put in: after the first or first few times, she may have lost the 'fear', and will be quite relaxed about it.
So, it may not feel as tight ^when getting in^ as when she was an "anal virgin".

What do we really know about those porn anal sex queens? I'd give money to know. I figure it varies from queen to queen. For one thing, since the producers want to shock or attract the viewers with 'gaping azzholes', they spread their buns to the max, right after or during the sex, while the muscles are still relaxed. Another thing, they are taking in many cases more-than-average thick members.

At any rate, we do not know if they go for a month or 6 months b4 making the next anal filming.I figure it's not worth their $$ to take chances of injury by not letting things rest, and then have to spend big bucks in getting surgery and worse, having to get out of the anal sex business!

Of course, it may depend on other factors too. If she were hooked on drugs, she may be willing to "burn out". And then again, if the producers ^really valued^ that acttress, they would know better than push her to ruin her behind.

So, maybe some (the lesser ones, that are at the bottom, so to speak) will end up with "ruined booties", while the smarter, best looking ones, will retire from that end of business after a while. Or, as I said b4, if one gives time for the anus to recover after a porn filming, then everything is OK.



Here is a good book to read:
"Woman's Guide to Anal Sex". IMO, a good reference! worth the money.

There have been a couple of copycat books published since that one appeared. If you got the ^balls^ to go browse at the bookstore...

Here is a URL with some topic-related info:
http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html

I found a thread in this forum with lots of interstng info on the "matter" LOL

Its called "anal sex" (there are several by that name) --The 'sexpert' screen name is 'yllany'
If you do a search in the forum window search (bottom right of threads index) for "anal sex yllany" you will find the thread. --- it's the one started by member 'sexncandy' <--

One last thing: once U find out what frequency works best, if you ever do something extraordinary, like trying a thick toy, or going hogwild while lost on his or her passion, give it additional resting time.

(...sometimes it will be the women the ones who 'wanna do it rough' )

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Re: Does anal sex ruin the anus? posted: 05/21/05 at 7:35 AM

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quote:
Originally posted by biz1940

If we do it, is she going to have one of those large, loose, porn star butts, or does it go back to its original niceness after a while rest?


I read mooncalf's post about porn stars. And I have seen some of those movies I think you are referring to.

I never had trouble with my butt getting "loose". Even when I did it regularly. But I never had 3 big studs doing it to me for half an hour either...

Are there any porn stars (female of male) here who can shine light on this? I mean, can they tell us exactly if these women have problems? If so, what kind of problems?

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